My boyfriend acts cute/feminine and it's making me fustrated. What do I do?

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My boyfriend has been acting overly 'cute' and feminine lately and it's starting to annoy me because to be honest I'm horny but I get turned off by his behavior.

For example, I was in the mood and he was sitting on the couch so I straddled him and he said 'aww are you after sexytime?' In this baby-ish voice. To me, that is not attractive in a man. Anywho, I tried to ignore it and try kissing him. We did that for a little then he shifted so he was under me and looked up at me with those typical 'cute innocent big' eyes that girls sometimes do and started batting his eyelashes. That's a turn off.

I'm annoyed because why is he acting like this? I want to say something but I don't want to offend him. What should I do? We've been together for four years, he's only been acting like this for the past couple of months. I know he also has a porn collection of mother and son porn. Does he want me to act like his mum or something? I actually feel gross.

RustyTinCan · Accepted Answer

He may have developed a porn addiction. Excessive masturbation (especially coupled with pornography) works just like a drug habit, with lower doses becoming less effective with frequent use (hence his disgusting usage of incest porn). It's also been theorized to lead to testosterone becoming less potent in addicts, which could be another potential reason for his effeminate behavior.

AustinMan · Accepted Answer

Just talk to him. Be calm, direct and matter of fact. NO emotion. Here're some tips.

pajamasam · Answer

If he is only recently been doing this then you need to talk to him about it. I don't have a clue why he would do that but you have to bring it up. Just take a night off, buy some beer and sit down and talk it out for however long it takes. Don't let it fester. Figure out what has got into his head that's making him act so weird.

Barbaric · Answer

Jesus Christ... You need a new boyfriend. Mother and son porn? What the fuck? I was about to say that he was just playing around and that you should tell him to cut it out because it's a turn off, but if it comes from that, that's probably why he's doing it.

RJJ33666 · Answer

If he is acting a bit feminine and you are irritated by it then you must be more honest and try to him in a polite way and if you are horny and need him to be more masculine about it you could try and turn him by doing something like the drop something and bend over trick or the sucking the lollipop trick

cicchis0 · Answer

Just tell him. For example, when he said, 'aww are you after sexytime?' in a baby-ish voice, you could have indignantly said, "I was, but I want a man not a child!" and got off him.

Phoenix98 · Answer

Sounds like he does it because he thinks you like it, communicate to him that you don't like it or find it attractive. Otherwise the problem will just persist.

winterfox10 · Answer

Why are women so timid about expressing this stuff? JUST TELL HIM. If something bothers you; tell him. If something turns you off: TELL HIM. I've been on the receiving end of remarks like that once before, and I was appreciative. It set me straight. I recognized that she didn't like what I was doing, so I stopped it.

JC103 · Answer

Sounds like one of two things; DDLG fetish or he’s just a beta

whitehide · Answer

I'm not even going to read that because I already know the answer: you talk to him about it

Kinky_Daddy_Henry · Answer

Call him out on it. If he acts like that again say something to the extent of, "I don't fuck little bitches, I only fuck men," and come to a full halt.