Is it wrong if I don't want to have sex with my boyfriend because he's fat?

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hellionthesagereborn · Accepted Answer

Do you think its wrong for him not to want to have sex with you because you have braces? Or your tits are not big enough? I mean technically its not wrong but why did you start dating him if that was an issue? Also don't complain when a guy throws you under the bus in the same manner you are doing to him (again, not saying you can't nor am I saying I disagree, only that you have to accept fair play, I despise hypocrisy).

Futureboy · Accepted Answer

Yes because I consider him just your friend. If you don't love him on the outside then he can't be your boyfriend. I know sex isn't everything in a relationship but isn't the point to at least be somewhat attract physically to the person your with. It's a bit of a kick in the teeth for him. Your basically saying your alright as a person but I wouldn't dream of sleeping with you.

Flower7 · Accepted Answer

It's wrong if he was fat since before you started dating. It's NOT wrong if he became fat after you started dating. People should make an effort to remain at the level of attractiveness they were at the beginning of a relationship. So if you got together with him, and then he began piling on pounds, it's completely understandable that you lost attraction to him.

yolo18 · Accepted Answer

It sounds like you are not attracted by him AT ALL. Girl, chemistry is the second most important thing in a relationship so I think he should try to lose weight and you should try to be more openminded and love him for him without considering too much his weight, good luck!

SeryCoola · Answer

No, it's not wrong, but at the same time, he's your boyfriend, which means you should love him a lot. So it's a bit weird to not want to get intimate with him (unless this is actually a normal thing for you and you don't want to have sex in general). But again, not wrong, just not the right reason to pass

Isten · Answer

It's not wrong, but unless he wants to change and works towards it, you should end the relationship. Long term it will make you both unhappy.

katiesmuff · Answer

Well if you are not into him why is he your boyfriend?

musicbrain5 · Answer

Why are you even with him then? You’re not even attracted to him so break up.

pajamasam · Answer

Why is he your boyfriend then? Why date someone you have 0 sexual attraction to.

Stellargasm · Answer

Nope, you want what you want

Mantinziza · Answer

don't date someone you're not attracted to too, being nice is not being right... follow your instincts there there for a reason, you can still be nice and freindly and not sleep with him... to his prerogative that is, and dont let him fuk u over either

Tamera952 · Answer

No. But maybe he shouldn’t be your boyfriend.  When I see fat people in porn (amateur porn that is) it always grossed me out and turns me off... can’t help it.

AndyOh · Answer

Why are you with him?
If he is fat and you don't want to have sex with him... are you expecting him to lose weight and keep it off? Good luck with that.
If you are trim and slim and want a guy like that... time to make some decisions and move on.
Good Luck

AaronKrieger · Answer

I'm going to guess you've been dating for a while and he put on weight. Really just try it out and if you can't enjoy it, then I'd end it. If you both have a kid or are married, then bring it up and try it work it out.

David92506 · Answer

I understand what you are saying. When I was in college I befriended several obese women who then pressured me for sex. I just didn't want to do it. I felt conflicted inside and shallow.

LeeannaDD · Answer

If that’s an issue you shouldn’t be dating him in the first place because your clearly not attracted to him...

BeMuse · Answer

Yep, it’s wrong that you’re using some guy that you aren’t attracted to.

Agape93 · Answer

No it’s not wrong

Dargil · Answer

Unfortunately, it's human nature.

0112358 · Answer

I don’t think it’s right or wrong. It’s not sustainable though.

Bananaman177 · Answer

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Mikeilito · Answer

I wouldn’t have sex with a fat woman I did one never again shit was growing down there scare the fuck outta you! Dont even have fat it says a lot ther are fat like lazy