Why most girls don't understand that guys would enjoy being submissive too?

[0112358]

As some others have noted, submissive doesn't mean lay there like a dead body, and it's possible to be both dominant in 'feel' and the more physically passive partner.

Someone I used to know here used to like it when her partner insisted she ride him, and when he got close he'd spank her till she made him cum. She really enjoyed that - so it's an example of where the 'dynamic' is she's sub but she's 'doing most of the work'.

When girls say things like 'i'm too submissive' it's not that they don't understand why a guy would enjoy being submissive, it's that they find it a huge a turn off. They probably see submission as feminine and dominance as masculine. They might be okay with vanilla sex, but sex where the guy is submissive turns them off. If the guy is truly sub, it's just not going to work together.

As for a guy who wants anal stimulation but isn't actually submissive, he might be able to work it in but it's challenging, but he'd need to establish a very dynamic environment where her stimulating him anally still feels like 'he's in control and using her'

[Anonymous]

I can't stand women like that. It sucks for sub guys cause it seems like no woman ever wants to take control. They always want to be on the bottom and follow someone else's lead. So that means a lot of sub guys may be forced to act dominant if they want a chance of having a girlfriend.

[Tamera952]

Guys do hate that. Some require it due to their own defects, ... but yea guys too would like to be submissive

[Apple1996]

Soo many sub guys out there and not enough dom girls for them. It's really a sad thing😥

[AustinMan]

Submissive women don't just lay there like a dead body. They really, really get off on the power exchange and giving up control and responsibility.

[i-love-latina-girls]

Most guys would prefer a woman who is generally submissive and has a slight dominant side in the bedroom, but butt plugs aren't commonly desired by us. That's just weird. If he enjoys it then by all means do it. Just don't pretend to be surprised that it's not so common or liked.
Nobody wants their partner to lay there like a dead corpse.
Submissive women are the best women. Just imagining her under me, breathing hard, her chest going up and down harshly, mouth open moaning, letting me take control of her makes me mmmmmmmmmmm :) No problem with her dominant side of riding me too :D but don't stick something up my butt. That's not a guy being submissive. That's just awkward.

[Kurαȷ]

If he enjoys it, he should find a woman who would enjoy it too.
Most people are one way or another, not switches, you can't really expect them to be into everything, and you shouldn't really expect someone to do something just because you are into it.

I am a guy, and I'd hate a dominant woman, so a dominant woman would have to find someone else.
Incompatibilities.

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

Funny, I just commented about this exact topic in another post. It does seem that sexually dominant or 'switch' women are hard to find, and a guy will likely have to wade through a lot of social judgements from girls along the way to finding that 1 girl out of 50 that actually likes to switch the roles up.

[AndyOh]

I dated a gal who did that... just laid there. I could do what I wanted, but absolutely no input or help or movement, etc. So I broke up with her.

And yes, add in a butt plug for fun and that extra sensation, and wow! Does not mean I am submissive; it does mean that I have experienced some new ways of thinking.

[Cellestial]

First of all being submissive doesn't mean being a dead body. Besides that, I agree sometimes a girl being the dominant one can be so sexy but not to the point of shoving something in her guy's ass lmao, that's such a big turn off! I'd say a girl can be dominant by riding her man (cowgirl), or maybe teasing him by not giving him sex right away, or teasing him during blowjob (edging).

[Mary6048]

most of the people seem to use the word submissive to freely... submissiv are submissiv to the dominant counterpart and not just lazy fuckers. I am submissive and work my ass off during sex so I don't know what your problem is...

[Reaperbot666]

while it's often good for the woman to be the submissive one during sex. sometimes it is a nice chance of pace for her to be the domination one now and then.

or maybe still be a sub but be the one that initiates the encounter once in a while.

[KrakenAttackin]

Submissive sexually, no, no interest. But at the same time a guy get's tired of having to make every fucking decision in the relationship, especially if you have a job where you have to constantly make decisions and fight off other aggressive types all day long.

[coffeewithcream]

A butt plug?
What is the fucking use of a butt plug? To stop farts?
No, never mind. I don't want to know.
A spark plug I can understand. But a butt plug?
Find yourself a sissy and butt plug him all you want. When you want a real man, you'll find you won't need to insert butt plugs into the goof.
Good Lord.

[Kezzz]

There certainly is a population of guys who enjoy being submissive. But most like to be dominating. It should be understood that this is the same for women too. However what each like about the other.. varies on a personal level.

[mmat2020]

Oh yes I can enjoy very much being submissive. I'm also actually more a switch so I do understand both sides hahaha

[Browneye57]

What does the butt plug have to do with it?

And yes, 'starfish sex' is a bore. Your enthusiasm plays a big part of the success of the encounter.

[bamesjond0069]

"If I was a guy I'd hate submissive girls who lay there like a dead body"

Except if you were a guy you wouldn't be submissive and you would love a cute little doll you could do whatever you want with.

[Dargil]

Not sure that is true. More likely served sexually like a Geisha would.

[winterfox10]

Wonders of feminine sexuality will always perplex. I'm glad to know that a woman finds it confusing too

[Apope16]

Submissive girls i breakup with after a while because the sex gets boring and the are lazy. The just lay there and make men do all the work.

[B2281]

In many ways true. Except the plug, don't want something like that for me. But someone whose balanced with dominance & submission would be great.

[smokeandberry]

If you think being sub is laying there like a dead body then you really know nothing about domination & submission

[nudeNhorny]

I think being switch is the best, you got to enjoy both sides.