Sexually inexperienced boyfriend comes within seconds, what should I do?

Question

I've been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. Everything is great, but I'm curious to hear other people's opinions on this.
I am 19, I've had many sexual partners. He is 22 and he's only had sex once before me.

A long time before having sex he told me he was very insecure about him not being an expert whatsoever, afraid I would be disappointed about his performance and I've had to be very patient since every time things heated up, nothing ever happened until last week in which we've had sex two times.

I've always dealt with confident and experienced guys, but as it is normal to do in such a different situation, I cautiously and very patiently had to lead the whole thing telling him what to do, asking what feels good or bad etc etc and everything went okay - he is very good at giving me pleasure and he moves in a very enjoyable way during sex.

But one thing happens and I am not sure what to think: right after those hotter kisses and taking our clothes off, he comes. He comes as soon as I grab him and stroke him for a few seconds, like 3-4 strokes when he's not even hard and he comes. After about ten minutes of more kissing, he can get somewhat hard and only then he lasts for a decent time. And it looks like he is more in control of what he is doing and he's able to not cum so soon.

Tonight we were in his car, I wanted to give him a blowjob. I whispered him that he didn't need to do anything, just relax and sit down and that I would take care of it. He unzipped his pants, I grabbed him, stroked him for 8-10 seconds, I felt like he was getting less soft and then... he came on my hand, then awkwardly said he was sorry but he couldn't help it ("it must be your magic touch"...).

Should I be worried? We are able to have sex but I feel like he never got really, actually *hard* AT ALL and cumming so early makes things a bit meh for me too. All is ok for me 'cause I love him and understand, but I was wondering if it's a normal thing due to inexperience or something else.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Honestly I wouldn’t sweat it. I’m sure he’s feeling insecure as is, and you are doing a brilliant job trying to guide him. It will probably take some time for him to learn what works for him (to not come so early). There are various methods from edging to literally just waiting for round two or even three, but it might take a while to figure out cause he is also probably extremely insecure about it (which might also be why he was avoiding sex acts). Since he’s young and inexperienced I wouldn’t sweat it. You’ve only had sex twice, I’d give it quite a few more tries before getting worried. Just my grain of salt.

letssee89 · Accepted Answer

Let him keep practicing with you. He'll last longer pretty quickly and will be able to get you closer to your big "O" when he does. He just needs more practice.

ecfresh · Accepted Answer

Not in my experience. I get hard before I cum. Sounds odd if he doesn’t even get hard. Do you know if he was hard and then went soft before Cumming?

reptocarl2 · Answer

Make him cum three or four times during foreplay BEFORE he sticks it in

Kinky_Daddy_Henry · Answer

I'm not reading your self-indulgent book. However, if you want him to build up stamina you have to put him through his paces more.

Twalli · Answer

If I haven't had aex in a while I usually cum quickly the first time, not as quickly as he does. I think it just happens with some people. Subsequent times I last longer.