Is it a bad idea to lose my virginity with a stranger?

[Anonymous]

I‘m really fucking horny and I need to get rid of that strong urge but I’m afraid that I might regret it later.

[JackSmy]

Bad idea!! Shouldn't that be something special, to remember, with someone you really care about?
If you are horny, just masturbate and have fun!! It's really good, to relieve stress, in times like this!
I've been with two, that were virgins, and both took several months, before they were really ready! I wouldn't just 'do them,' to 'get it over' and they respected that, and after, LOVED that I said that, and waited until they were really, truly ready.
by the way, one was 23, the other 27! No thing wrong with that!! Actually, I respected them a lot more, for just waiting, and not just doing it.

[Teyfet]

You should have criteria for your first time - notably that the person be kind/considerate & disease-free (because condoms do break). Aside from that, I believe it is less about the person & more about the experience. So, preparation is good - cleanliness, music, dim lighting. A friend would probably be better, but perhaps more awkward; on the other hand, you may be more likely to regret losing it to a stranger. Decide what you want & good luck!

[JackSmy]

@teyfet I think you have good intent, but is that the time? All these things, checklists, maybe? That just ruins the moment! Are you going to interrogate each other as to their past partners, if any? What about bathing habits? Then? In that moment? With all that, both have lost any interest in sex, and might settle for a superhero movie, just sitting on the couch together eating popcorn!

[Teyfet]

I left the criteria pretty open, but, if you want to have sex with a nut job whose riddled with STDs, go for it. The criteria that you listed are apparently some that you have on your list.

[JackSmy]

@teyfet Hey, what's your problem? I was simply responding to your question, and then you go to judging, and STDs and 'nut jobs'? Are you so insecure that you can't simply handle someone disagreeing with you, and you have to post crap in return? What's the problem, dude? I wasn't attacking YOU, personally, just disagreeing with your statement! DIFFERENT THINGS! You come back with a personal assault, and judging me? WTF?

[Laura_Marx]

As long as you use protection there is no conceivable consequence ^^ If you really want to do it you won't regret it. If you don't, you'll probably say, 'oh, that sucked, I shouldn't have done that', but thats about it. The cost is pretty low! Just make sure that you 'screen' well enough - make sure they're someone who will respect your boundaries!

[Anonymous]

You'd be better off rubbing one or ten out than having sex with a stranger. Nobody is really talking about the pandemic levels of STDs. Then you have to also worry about pregnancy; and most guys don't want to stick around if they get a girl they know pregnant. How much more likely are they going to ditch you if they don't even know you?

[Laura_Marx]

google 'contraceptives'

[Opinion Owner]

@Laura_Marx Contraceptives aren't 100% even when people remember to use them; and they don't prevent sexually transmitted disease, save for the condom. But even then people don't use condoms when they should; giving head for instance.

[Laura_Marx]

The risk of getting hit by a car when crossing the street at a light isn't 0%, either (as people like to say today). The CDC does not recommend abstinence!

[Opinion Owner]

@Laura_Marx I wouldn't take the CDC's recommendation then; because over 53% of adults in America have an STD. If that is reason enough to consider abstinence as a viable option then I don't know what is.

[Laura_Marx]

Most STDs are not danerous, though. Most people have oral herpes, many mild genital herpes... And they are becoming less and less communicable (so that someone with HIV who is on treatment, after a few years, will no longer transmit it). Taking sexual health seriously is important when one has sex but ordering one's life around avoiding a very low and unlikely risk of infection makes no sense. STDs are a population level problem and have population level solutions (contraception & medicine). Only you, as an individual, are authorized to evaluate the risk to yourself. And if you use protection the risk and the stakes are both very low. Advocating and encouraging abstinence because 'well, you can never be 100% sure!' decreases our ability to take sexual health seriously because it causes people to overestimate the risk they're already taking & underestimate how much of an impact safe sex has. People who are fed messages about casual sex being risky are not less likely to have casual sex, they're less likely to have safe casual sex. Please take this extremely seriously: when you say 'its still risky even if you use safe sex!' you are spreading *misinformation*, you are discouraging safe sex and increasing people's risk of infection

[Opinion Owner]

@Laura_Marx Firstly I didn't order her or anyone else around ; I made a simple suggestion and provided the reasoning behind that suggestion. Secondly acknowledging what the risks are is not overestimating the risks; and is far more likely to lead to safe sex practices then ignoring the risks altogether (which is what most people tend to do). Thirdly, I said that people often don't utilize protection when it is still needed (oral and anal sex have the same probability of transmitting STDs as vaginal sex). Finally what I've been encouraging is the safest form of sex, masterbation; over one of the more perilous sexual behaviors, sex with strangers. If compared to alcohol consumption, I'm advocating for the glass of wine at home approach of sexual gratification; over going to a bar, getting wasted, and driving home approach.

[Ruom-ran]

Haha, class. If you think you'll regret it then you will, you answered your own question. Get talking to those guy friends you like. At least you might end up not regretting one of those and you can then jump on it.

[standingUP]

What's to regret unless:

-You get pregnant.
-Get an STD.
-The dude starts stalking you when you want the dude to bounce.
-Find out he's related to you later on.
-He has the Corona, lol

Oh so little things to worry about. Go get it girl.

[HandsomeJacked]

Yea you might find that u are both Genghis Khans descendants

[FilfeeAnimal]

yeah, i dont understand why people regret sex either... stupid

[FilfeeAnimal]

@HandsomeJacked they wait til theyre like 30 and waste years of pleasure they could be having sex... but they wait til theyre like 60 and only have sex twice... for what? jus so they do it with someone special? stupid... fuck a special person... do it with whoever as much as u like

[Red_Arrow]

Select someone you know, trust, and respect.

[integrale77]

It all depends on how important loosing your virginity to someone special is?
For me it was just a lable and I was glad to loose it as it stopped me getting teased by the lads!
Also you have to consider loosing your virginity might not stop you feeling horny so don't see it as a solution to a problem!

[Adam1978]

Do what most singles do rub one off. Sleeping with strangers isn't a great way of starting a sex life and it's very risky. First time should be with someone you at least trust if not love. When you more secure in bed and knows what you want and feel it's not a big thing you could go for a more casual approach.

[ItsTheNephilim]

It's only bad if you regret it later. If you can't place a bet that you won't regret, don't do it. Wait for that somebody.

[Bhavin2184]

Yup it's stupid idea being single all my life just have strong urge like you but don't want lose my virginity to random person who does not have feeling/care/respect for me
It's not worth it.
You can always change the focus in life or masturbate rather having sex with stranger creatures who want only sex

[theChineseWASP]

Yeah I tried to lose it with an escort but it was awkward with no feelings. I think it can work for some people but I don’t think it’s something just anyone can do.

[Dargil]

Yes. You will remember your bad decision for 60 years,

[LiyaArgent]

best to choose a friend

[SomeGuyCalledTom]

just don't do it with any of the guys on this website xD

[Alexandrubaschet08]

I lose it to an escort, i don't regret nothing, it whas a nice girl, very beautiful and kind.
She give me one of my best night that i ever have it. If she wasn't my firlt i think i wan't today the man that i'm , whit the same vision over the sex (like something good and fun to expres love)

[funride74]

Yes I think it is. At least you should know this guy a bit longer and take some time. I guess you'd prefer this happening in a sort of romantic circumstances

[chriscdi]

well im sure you'll regret it later, only if you think its worth it you should do it

[FilfeeAnimal]

no, sex is never a bad idea and it doesn't matter who u have sex with,
if u place a lot of value on ur virginity u are silly, because doing that is pointless,
there is no reason to hold a lot of value and save it for someone special.,
u won't be happier... sex is jus sex, jus a good feeling,
so jus do it and forget about it, move on... its not some magical super magnificent uhhh thing... its like eating McDonald... u jus do it for the pleasure then move on.. so who u fuk doesn't matter at all

[FilfeeAnimal]

i could fuck u if u want :)

[Roberts0101]

Nah me

[swettannie]

it's your choice. as long as you choose it, you won't regret it.
or maybe you will? but how many girls waited because they wanted to give it to someone special to end up regreting it?

[COMMODOREII]

Its always better to find a friend someone you can trust.

[Shamalien]

U will regret

[Fromdusktilldawn]

I did that too

[Twalli]

I wouldn't because you don't know how he'll react. But you don't need to have sex now. My girlfriend was 33 before she had sex.