It is always a delicate issue when a partner that is in a relation chooses pornography over the relation.
That is equivalent to emotional cheating, something that is just as bad as physical cheating because the partner is left out of the action.
One does not watch porn and think of the girlfriend (or boyfriend) when looking at the visuals but one is fantasizing about someone else, hence the emotional cheating. Not only is watching porn while in a relation a total red flag but it is above all demeaning and humiliating for the partner.
There is only one thing that you can really do and that is to sever this toxic relation because you will always be second to his addiction. You can talk with him and it may change something on a short notice but the addiction will return as soon as enough time has passed by.
A couple therapy is useless since you are not married and he will certainly not see his addiction as such but rather as a means to escape a number of psychological problems.0 0 0 0
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Sounds like it's a distraction and he may be too focused on porn. He's probably wanking off to it.
I'd suggest coming on to him really hard while taking dirty. Straddle him, grab his dick, etc.0 0 0 0- 0 0 0 0
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0 0 0 0You can't change a porn addicts mind hardly ever unless your willing to do the things that he watches
0 0 0 0You can do better leave him with his addiction. Maybe he's gay.
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His porn watching and your sex life have nothing to do with one another.
Just like your fantasies have nothing to do with him.
You can read smut, watch chick flicks, and even rub one out to the common female mental fantasies... they don’t change your interest in sex with him.
Your sex issues are related to something else... likely an overbearing, controlling, or nagging partner maybe?0 0 1 0You’re accusing me of being an overbearing, controlling, nagging partner because I don’t want my boyfriend watching porn in the next room while I’m laying in the next room willing and ready? Willing to live up to his fantasies and please him? Okay, if that’s how logic works in your mind. If you had any actual knowledge on the subject you’d know the effect that prolonged, daily porn use has on a man’s sex drive. As I already said in my post, I have no problem with porn. I occasionally watch it myself and have even asked him if he wanted to try watching it together. I’ve even told him I don’t care if he watches it at work, when I’m at work, etc. Our sex life was phenomenal until daily prolonged porn use began and even since it has declined incredibly. I’m not going to be made to feel like a bad partner for being upset and feeling undesired by my boyfriend when our sec life has gone from 100 to 0 and he’s continuously lied to me about watching it while I’m in the next room. Obviously I care enough about him and our relationship to be here asking questions and trying to save it. So thanks for your snarky, shitty opinion but you’re not being helpful. You’re just being a dick.
His fantasy has nothing to do with you or your willingness or ability to have sex. It's simply entertainment. It is logical when you understand how it isn't about you. But as a female you insist it's about you and how much YOU have to offer. It is ENTERTAINMENT... just like women have rape fantasies but don't actually want to be raped. It's a fantasy, it has nothing to do with what they really want.
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