I've been in a relationship for over a year and miss having sex. What would you do in that scenario?

I've been in a wonderful relationship for over a year. Only problem is her sex drive isn't near mine. She's still a virgin and she's waiting until she's comfortable, we have our own place or can do it in a house where our parents are not. We do sexual stuff usually once a week, but even then she complains that once a week is sometimes too much for her even though I give her the attention she wants and make sure she has the best time. We did physical stuff in a car since we couldn't be over each other's house during quarantine but are hanging out again.

It's a healthy relationship, but I think my sex drive (where I could do it every single day) is something that I might not be able to hold back. I have to masturbate during the weeks we don't do stuff.

Ugh. I want to have sex.
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Though we may not be fully compatible in that aspect, everything else has been great, like I said. It would be difficult to break up over some hormones, even though I wish I could be having more sex.
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Most Helpful Girl

  • I’m wondering what kind of stuff you guys do?

    why is it too much for her.. like physically psychologically What makes it too much. Is she uncomfortable with the idea of it.

    id day her waiting is one thing but finding it gross or something is entirely different

    I would not mind waiting but what if you are not waiting and this is it. Even less than this is it. Are you going to find that tolerable?

    I think I its great you care so much for her you are waiting..

    But it’d suck if you ended up resenting each other bc it’s not actually waiting it’s “ I love sex and she hates it and everyone is hoping the other person will magically feel differently bc things are great otherwise” and that never ends up happening so there is an illusory sense of betrayal.

    • It's probably a mental thing and and she's probably uncomfortable until we have our own place. Yes, we tried yesterday with oral to try something different, and my tongue kept missing her clit and she didn't get the orgasm she wanted (I didn't get taken care of either despite giving her long oral) and I said if we did this stuff more then we would have encountered this before which made her mad. During the quarantine, I've gotten lonely and bored and horny since we couldn't see each other. I texted another girl and she found out and is very mad. I repented and poured my heart out to her and feel bad. I only wanted to spend more time with her and not seeing her drove me crazy.

Most Helpful Guys

  • Break up. This is the honeymoon phase. Her drive is more likely to go down than up.
    I started with daily sex and my marriage still drifted to sexless. Where do you think your relationship is headed?

  • If it's a deal breaker then sit her down and talk to her maybe you come up with a compromise?

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  • Break up. You obviously aren't compatible.

  • Make a choice to stay or move on
    I could not wait that long at all and told my girlfriend what I expect for sex or we cannot be bf-gf

    • What do you exiect?

    • Expect*

  • Sorry you got a dud as a girlfriend... I wouldn't have gone past the 3rd date with her, without sex.

    Good luck

    • It’s unusual for someone to gave sex by the third date. Even With a healthy sex drive. Don’t you worry you will miss out possibly?

    • @VIVANT I've done okay with this rule. I'm in a committed relationship now.

    • Sure. I just wondered. 😊