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Is your sex drive high or low? How necessary is it for you that your partner has a similar sex drive to yours?

Explain why?
I have low, it's important
Vote A
I have high, it's important
Vote B
I have low, it's not important
Vote C
I have high, it's not important
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Most Helpful Guys

  • Voted "Hi and it is important." In that connection, my girlfriend and I are - as the cliche has it - sexually compatible and we have, on the whole, a great sex life. Yet the answer is a little more nuanced than just that.

    My girlfriend and I have lived together for 12 years and have three children. We, somewhat to our own surprise as we are actually otherwise fairly traditional, found that the idea of a big ceremony, an expensive ring and a permission slip from the state was a turn-off. My girlfriend and I love what we share. It is natural and beautiful and marriage seemed like a contrivance that took from that. An artifice that added nothing meaningful and so seemed to actually diminish what she and I share.

    There is so much that we share and I love her - and the three little gifts she has given me - with all my heart. I cannot imagine how empty my life would be without her.

    Yet sex is important to that. As a man, I need that sense of animal release. When we have sex we are reduced to our most base selves. Shorn of all pretense. I am all that I am and nothing else, giving the most elemental thing a man can give to a woman - my sperm, my seed. My girlfriend is giving herself to me, her naked body for my use and my pleasure and to bear my offspring.

    Truthfully, it is very base and very primal and very instinctive. We stop being humans in a way and are just two animals breeding in a field. Doing what nature made us to do and instinct drives us to do. We are all that we are and nothing else, sharing and giving to each other.

    Yet here is the funny part. It becomes the most intense intimate love. It is like the whole universe shrinks down to just the two of us. I want her and I need her and when I feel her skin against mine, and when I feel her warmth in my arms and when I feel myself inside her, the sense of connection and intimacy and a sense of sharing and love - and being loved - like I have never known.

    It is animal and primal. I feel like a man, raw and bestial, and I feel a sense of physical release. (My girlfriend jokes that I am controlled by my penis.) I also feel warm and safe and love and respected and wanted.

    Could I live without sex with my gf? Probably. There is more to what we share than sex. It is intellectual and emotional and not just physical and instinctive. Yet, I can't lie, I would feel lonely. There would be a sense of connection that would just not be there anymore and there would be a need - both animal and emotional - that I would miss.

    So yes, sex is a big thing in a relationship. It is about who we are and what we share. It is being open and honest and vulnerable to another human in a way that you could otherwise never be. A relationship can survive without sex, but it would be a shadow of what it could be - and I, and I think most people, would feel that intensely.

  • Assuming you are exactly meaning sex drive not sexualy hyperactive. I will say High sex drive a sign that you are healthy, and it's mostly spices the relationships up, and makes emotions in extremely wonderful, and keeps you in excellent mood to take care of your partner more.

    but that's is not a rule that works for everyone some couples prefer to clam down all the sexual stuff from time to time, it depends more on the couples and their nature, and the general mood. But, what is more important that the couples should almost have slightly same sex drive as each other, because if one of them have sex drive a lot higher than the other; it will be annoying sometimes.
    I think sex drive is something you can control it and can be changed by adjusting your life style, if you workout or you are a weight-lifter and you more into healthy foods then your testosterone will be high and that's means more libido or sex drive and the same for women as exercising and healthy food will balance the hormones especially the estrogen in her body so her sex drive will be placed. Whoever, sexual drive still slightly varies from a person to another.

Most Helpful Girls

  • I more require touch than sex necessarily, so medium low sex drive. however while I don't always feel the need to have sex, I like it and would be happy to have sex more often. For that reason it isn't important for my partner to have the same sex drive. If they don't want to fuck all that often, fine by me as long as we spend lots of time together and cuddle and make out and stuff. If they've got a really high sex drive, I don't know if I really wanna go multiple times a day but a few times a week would be fine with me.

  • I like to tease. But i dont like to have sex early on. So i need him to be patient but i also want him to be grabby when we’re together. I want him to show me that he wants it but not in a rapey way. I just wanna feel in his grabs how much he can't wait to be inside me some day

    • I honestly don't think being " grabby" will be a problem hell you'll think I'm an Octopus lol. You'll be like what the Hell where did that hand come from? LMAO

    • @OpenNudist lol the age difference isn't gonna work. I prefer same age

    • Hey Dizzy, You can't blame me for trying sexy 😉😍😍

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • This depends. I have a medium sex drive, I'd say. It's higher when my partner doesn't ask for it all the time. Low when he chases me every minute of every day.

  • I have a high sex drive. Having a guy who can match mine doesn't affect me

  • I have a very high sex drive especially when I'm with my partner. We could literally have sex all day and I'd still want more lol I masturbate every single day as well. But yes, it is very necessary for my partner to have similar sex drive as me or else I'll get sexually frustrated often and that's not fun lol

    • Do you have a partner and are you in Florida

    • Yes, I do. I am actually engaged. And no, I'm in Canada.

    • @Renagadefl69 all the high sex drive women are already taken ;-)

  • it's not important for them to match my drive as long as they don't mind if I masturbate. Actually they can't mind that regardless, I'm still going to do it almost daily.

  • I have a super high sex drive and looking at my wildness I drive me high upto my level too ;)

    • Awesome hahah

    • You know right

  • It's high with the right match. Low with the wrong match.

  • It’s high, every minute of every single day for as long as I can remember. I can control myself though, so it’s not absolutely necessary for my partner to be at my level

  • I like how we are forced to choose between high and low when most probably are just normal/in the middle. Like me. As long as the sex drive of my partner isn't too far off it doesn't make a huge difference.

    • Good point. That should had been an option too.

    • It happens man.

    • Yup. Thanks for the opinion :)

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  • I have a high sex drive. I never had a problem with a girl because I would rock her world where she loves having sex with me. Keep her satisfied sexually with orgasms and she loves to keep you satisfied. But I hear lots of stories where work aren’t getting the sexual attention they deserve.

    One girl after a ONS said, “that’s how you’re suppose to have sex”. Talking to her more all her boyfriend were just pump and dump. She thought that’s how it was... guys need to be better lovers instead of selfish ones.

    • work = women* stupid autocorrect

  • Monstrously high. It’s so high that I taught myself how to orgasm just by thinking. If I go without an orgasm for a while the slight touch from a woman I’m attracted to can set me off.

    It’s extremely important that I have a partner that enjoys sex herself. As in it’s part of her nature and sex is something she also needs. Not only is my libido naturally high but sex is also how I give myself and communicate be affection to a woman. There are many other ways I express love, but sex is in the top 3. It’s a need. I’ve tried dating girls who weren’t very sexual and it didn’t work out.

    • Yeah you definitely seem like the type to rush into sex

    • And if you took the time to get to know me instead of making assumptions, you’d learn how wrong you are. It’s very possible to love sex but be selective about who you do it with.

    • And how is being selective going for you? You said sex is a NEED. And yeah I’m assuming if not, it “Doesn’t work out”. Even though at the end of all the sex, you end up with a different person each time. Meaning it didn’t even work out with the previous list of “selective” people you slept with.

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  • I have high sex drive when I am with a committed relationship, if her sex drive died down and didn’t come close to mine then that would cause conflict in the relationship cuz I would feel unfulfilled , a lot so I would probably end up ending the relationship to be honest and finding someone that wants me like I want them , when sex in a relationship ends up dying out so does the relationship , you both should make each other feet wanted and wanting to be close to each other as much as possible , don’t ever let someone say sex isn’t important in a committed relationship, cuz they are the ones that are slipping away from the relationship, never be someone’s convenience

  • I have a high sex drive, and I need my partner to be able to fulfill my needs. Not all the time, but when I need him too.

    • That's good. Flexibility is a good thing. But it's also a good thing to not dodge necessary conflict.

  • I like to say it isn't important, but thatd be torture.

  • I have a very high sex drive, and I want to have sex with my partner every day

  • It's important, but can be okay if hers isn't high as long as she doesn't get upset if she catches me masterbating or something like that.

  • Who knows. (. ❛ ᴗ ❛.)

  • High and yes.

  • I have very high and it is important as well

    • Very high of course

    • @okcguy hehe yup

  • I have a very high one, its not everything, but its important

  • Because I have a high sex drive and it's important that she can hang

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