When is it okay for me to start experimenting with boys?

[rosario20]

[Lliam]

Going by my own experience, I was 16 and my girlfriend was 15. She had had sexual relations with one boyfriend before me, so her first experience might have been when she was 14. She was a good girl, by the way, not a slut.

When I was in 7th and 8th grades, some of the more mature girls who had already fully blossomed had boyfriends who were in high school. They were not platonic relationships. Girls tend to mature earlier than boys. The 13 and 14 year old boys their age were still kids. Those girls wanted guys who were more grown up.

Realistically, I'd say high school, age 15 or 16 is an okay age to start "experimenting". I knew many sexually active girls in 10th grade. And they were all on the pill.

[Jamie05rhs]

If she had sex at 14, then she was not a "good girl."

[Jamie05rhs]

Also, those girls were not mature. Their bodies may have grown and become more adult-like. But that doesn't make the person mature.

[Jamie05rhs]

And those high school guys were probably not fully grown up, either.

[Lliam]

@Jamie05rhs, some people aren't as prudish as you. And saying that someone you don't even know is no good makes you a not good person.

[Jamie05rhs]

@Lliam I did not say that anyone was "no good.". I simply was making the observation that she wasn't a "good girl.". But I apologize if I offended you, since I realize that we are talking about someone who you know personally. If it helps, for the record, it was not meant as an insult. I wasn't making a judgement on the merits of being a "good girl" or otherwise. I wasn't saying that someone who isn't a "good girl" is of lesser quality. There are many types of women, and I don't mean to denigrate any of them.

[skullwulf]

I said 13 to 16. But take it with a grain of salt. I do not mean sex. But I do not see a reason why girls at this age should be scared to try things or want to see a peen. It's natural. But if you show a guy's penis too much attention that's all he's going to think of you as. Take extreme care of yourself and only do it with those you feel extremely comfortable. Guys are extremely sensitive about their penis be extremely sensitive and nice.

[EriFrancis1994]

17+. I won't be a hypocrite I had sex before 17 so if that's your choice then just be super careful and only do it with someone you can trust fully

[Smashingdoozy]

Whenever you feel comfortable with someone and ready to. Don't force yourself to do anything if you're not 100% sure you want to do it

[rosario20]

Okay thank u

[MrOracle]

Chef says:

https://www.youtube.com/embed/ylkHE1k64gs

[PrudentGuy]

Don't experience sexual stuffs with boys.

This is because sex is for adults. Hence wait until you are an adult, not just legally but emotionally too.

Then as a woman, experiment with a man.

[Breanna_nonbinary]

I recommend that you experiment with boys when you're ready. I caution you though, learn first so you stay safe.

[purplepoppy]

Discuss it with your parents

[rosario20]

I have my mom said idc and my dad says when I get hair down there.

[Red_Arrow]

Many people start sexual experimentation very young. But I would hope that you hold off on intercourse till after 17!

[ohshee]

When you think you are ready to be hurt misunderstood used, heart broken and loved, for each thing I said there is a guy out there that has all ready made up his mind what he wants from you it's sad but true also depends on what your experimenting

[ThisDudeHere]

I would very strongly suggest you actually have a heartfelt talk with your parents way before you ever trust anything some rando online writes to you.

[Dongtai]

When your self-esteem is unshakable and peer pressure has not affect on you. If you’re the average girl I say 18.

[Dongtai]

**no effect**

[Jamie05rhs]

Yeah, but one can think that and it still not be true. She could feel fully confident and yet still be vulnerable.

[modeve]

17+ is better for mixing up with boys.

[slatyb]

If you mean "having sex", when you are on birth control and are able to insist that the boys wear a condom.

[skittles2017]

Did you realise that she is 13 ?

[slatyb]

@skittles2017 So? Some young teens have sex and short of confining them or supervising them 24/7 there's nothing to do to prevent it. The median age of first intercourse for American females is 17. That means that half have sex before 17. It's better if they have been educated on the possible consequences and how to prevent them.

[skittles2017]

True. But they shouldn't be encouraged from 13 years old. You should tell them that now it's not the time. It's easy to speak now anonymously from you and to her. What if one day your daughter comes home , she's 13 years old and she asks you if its alright to start experience with boys? What would you tell her. Honestly please

[slatyb]

@skittles2017 First I would ask her exactly what she means by "experience?" Then I would talk to her, and then take her to a gynecologist. It's all too easy for anyone to connect the dots from kissing to petting and pretty soon tab A is in slot B. Comprehensive sex education works. Just telling children to say "no" doesn't.

[Avicenna]

Age 16, if your grades are good

[rosario20]

Define good grades?

[Avicenna]

B and above

[rosario20]

Okay thank u. I have straight A right now

[Avicenna]

That's good. Keep them up.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Wait till you're at least 16. If you feel like doing it then, go for it.

[Bhavin2184]

Definitely 17 even than no reason to go on experimenting and keep changing boys but find right person who care about you and your comfortable with that person.

[theChineseWASP]

17+ 👍

[Gwenhwyfar]

13 to 16, but BE CAREFUL

[rosario20]

Just kisses?

[Gwenhwyfar]

Maybe... Kissing is defo ok I don’t feel comfortable talking about this in public. Pm me if you wanna discuss this in detail. I’m not gonna hit on you.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Ok. Nvm. You don’t even have pubic hair yet. DEFINITELY no more than kissing.

[Gwenhwyfar]

Holding hands and kissing is fine 😊

[rosario20]

I can't message u. can u message me?

[imjustadude]

Ask your dad.

[Liadon]

Romantically or sexually?

[rosario20]

Both

[Liadon]

Romantically it should be fine at your current age, just keep it mind that it's extremely likely to just stay as experimentation and not go any further. Sexually I'd extremely advise waiting until you're 16-18 or whatever the legal age is in your country. It means you can seek contraception and STD checks without as much judgement and you'll be more likely to act responsibly in your decisions. There's a lot of risk involved in sex, and I really don't want to come off as condescending. It's just overall safe, and what matters most in this is the safety of both your romantic/sexual partners.

[chriscdi]

im not gonna tell minors what they should do with the opposite gender but when older youd be more mature

[rosario20]

Okayy.

[Makeushiver]

Whenever you feel comfortable with it excluding any pressure from peers or guy. I started at 13, she was ready and I was more than ready.

[_SOARER]

You shouldn't be experimenting with anyone.
You should get to know a boy that you feel is trustworthy and take your time building a relationship.

I think the proper age to start getting to know a boy is 16-18.