Can I be Dominant and Submissive?

Question

I don't mean sexually just mean in  general, I  like dominant guys, like a guy that knows what he wants and is going to put in the work/effort to get what he wants. I'm submissive but some times I feel like I'm being a pushover so out of no where I will try to be dominant or assertive but it comes off as being mean.

Aguysopinion4799 · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you are primarily Submissive but have a desire to be considered at least a little bit assertive at times, when you try to do this, you feel insecure and think you are being rude and as such revert to being Submissive.

So with that info I would have to say you are a Submissive person who doesn't want to be.

Can you be Submissive and Dominant? Well... Not entirely, you can never truly be fully of both, I suppose you could have moments when you show signs of each in weak portions, it is just that you have to look at which one you are more of.

I know people are calling it a Switch, there are also cases medically where it is possible where people could have multiple personalities and display different assertive levels.

Sorry for such a long choice of explanation.

drayday4 · Accepted Answer

Its not what you do its how you do it different verbage could change everything

modeve · Accepted Answer

Take stand where you feel it is necessary, don't succumb to outer pressure when you are in rightfully strong position, and at the same time agree readily to others if they are right. You will maintain balance in your life.

jmac23 · Answer

Well everyone is not an extreme. Everything has to have balance and a little grey in it. So in some situations you'll be submissive like at work when you get that check. But in your private home when you pay the bills you'll be dominate cause it's your place. Now of tou want to switch roles in your life then that's obviously a lot harder. It takes at least a month to develop a new routine in anyone's life.

LanzeWolf · Answer

I don't know about anyone else but what I read in your Question was that you are a Woman that Is probably assertive and kinda tough on guys until you get a feel for how the guy acts, And if he falls into the assertive catagory (Aka. Alpha) you automatically know what you want, So you become less dominant than you were before you got to know the Guy. In Conclusion, You're A Driven Person and know what you want, or are at least You know what you want in a man and you know how to transform accordingly.