Is it a bad idea to become more promiscious after being fucked over?

[Anonymous]

First of, I was never the type for it and I have actually not had any sexual relations until fairly recently. I had always wanted to be in a relationship with someone who cares about me and wants me for me. And I was always against having many partners you don't really care about.
Well I lost my virginity recently to a guy I really liked and dated properly. It seemed perfect and all, he promised me things and was just overall great. I wanted nothing but serious relationships till now.
Turns out he ignores me now suddenly and doesn't care appearently. So I feel fucked over big time. It makes me angry and I am asking myself why should I stay a good fucking girl if I only get fucked over for it?
I mean I have no experience sexual things. Why shouldn't I just have fun now? If I settle now I may regret it in the future. Not knowing what I gotten myself into. I want to feel like someone actually wants me.
And why should I hold back just so that society is happy?
I am just thinking. Had I had more experience earlier I wouldn't have gotten fooled so easily and knew more about what I was getting myswlf into you know?

[potatoiswhoiam]

First of all, you don't need to have sex with many people in order to gain experience. The experience you want to gain here is not sexual. It's about learning to understand others motives and personalities and not being naive, which being promicious won't really solve or help you to learn. It's more about interacting more with people and learning more about how to spot red flags and read people's true intentions towards you.

Next point I wanna make, "why should I hold back just so that society is happy?". I don't like how you immediately project your problems on society. Society is not really telling anyone what to do. Promiscuity is far more accepted now than it has been before. There are just the types of people who want it for themselves and others who don't. Don't feel pressured to do what you want but also think through things and take responsibility for your own choices. It's not about society, it's about what you want.

Final point, you seem to think that the solution to being fucked over by that partner you talked about, is to fool around with others. If you think deeply tho, what's that gonna achieve? From what I see you said later on you wanna feel like someone actually wants you. Well, you won't get that feeling if you fool around because that's not what that's about. The concept of being promicious is not to be with someone who wants you or makes you feel wanted, it's about treating sex as just sex, no emotions involved. Having sex with someone and allowing them to jump to the next person. I doubt that's gonna make you feel wanted after you try it out, unless you only wanna feel wanted sexually and treated as just a body to get off on.

Hopefully this answers your question.

[Medlife]

Just a personal experience and opinion. I was in a similar situation and I've done the fun part. Now i wish i didn't. It messed me up. All i did is give my self away to mediocre cocks for no good reason. Value your body your time and energy and spend it on people who appreciate it. The ones who promise shit are unlikely to keep their word. The ones who act do. So less talk more work. U want to be in my life u work for it and if u are worthy i may rock ur world 😜. Otherwise move over limp dick...

[BetterInBlack]

Sounds like he just wanted to get with you, and wants nothing else.
Relationships are a thing of time and trust, both of which don't have a set length of time. If that's all he wanted, he sure shows it. If not, sounds like something else is up.
Don't be the person to let every guy walk all over you, because it's easy to "hit n quit" but takes time and effort to build a relationship.

[Kurαȷ]

Well, if you are ok with "being fucked over" being the only thing in store for you in the future, then go ahead.
Those who are still looking for "actually wanting someone", are not interested in those who have given up on it, obviously.

[DrippingHoney]

Trust me, just don't.

[0112358]

While I’d caution to be aware of how society might react and take it into account, ultimately you should treat people fairly while pleasing yourself and not worry about what society theoretically expects.

[coffeewithcream]

It's an understandable feeling.
Long term though, you might look back and regret it, who knows?
But I get how you feel.

[Anonymous]

Well you need a few relationships to have experience anyway but they don’t necessarily have to be sexual but usually end up that way

[Anonymous]

You said it yourself, why shouldn't you have more fun now? You should! Just practice safe sex with safe people and have fun.