Is it okay to have sex?
Hi. I'm 21 years old and I have always idolized my first boyfriend to be the first kiss, the first and only sex partner and the one I marry. If you believe it or not, but my first boyfriend was that type of guy who was considering and supporting that idea, despite him being a fan of sexual freedom and having suggested an open relationship to me. We could be together for 3 months, he was my first kiss and my first time sex. Unfortunately, he had to leave my country and we told each other to stay together and make a long distance relationship work. But 3 months in being apart, I broke up. The reasons for the break up are complicated: First, we've actively dated each other for only 3 months, (I don't know, if we really match, maybe another guy suits me better?). Second, we have no idea when we can see each other again. Third and most important, I have suffered from general loneliness immensely for many years beforehand, but especially now after having experienced all this wonderful intimicy that I've craved since forever, I feel a lot of lust and want to go out with guys. Basically, my ideal marriage plan seems to fall apart, because of my animalistic wants.
Over the internet I have connected with an interesting, sympathetic guy who is very open to sex and has an open relationship. I want to meet him and consider sex with him, because I'm so lust-driven lately, (something I would have NEVER considered before this first relationship), but I gotta ask myself: why the hell do I consider to destroy all of my traditional values? And is it okay, if I do so? My ex told me, we would definitely meet each other again when there is an opportunity to. He isn't pure and didn't want me to be, but I did break his trust and feelings a lot by breaking up our serious relationship out of the blue. Is it okay for me to go out and have sex or would you rather suggest me to surpress my sex-drive and wait? :/
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