After having sex for the first time, did you realize that sex wasn’t as big of a deal as you thought?

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Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

I loved it and wanted it more and more lol I love sex period especially in a relationship it is kind of a big deal considering it keeps the relationship alive and the both of you close usually when sex dies down in a relationship so does the relationship , you should always make your partner feel wanted like they should make you feel , you are both opposite people you aren’t always going to be riding the same wave as each other So sex is a great way of showing your partner you still love them and care for them , there will be times you aren’t in the mood and she is , it’s best to go with it then deny it , if you constantly deny it then that just adds fire into the relationship , why people end up cheating or end relationships , a relationship grows off of communication and removing selfishness , you aren’t always going to have things to talk about ever see married couples just sit next to each other not saying a word? Doesn’t mean they don’t love each other just they don’t have much to talk about anymore cuz they know each other so well , but when they go to be they more then likely she be in each other’s arms not saying they have to have sex every night. But there should be nights of sex if you both love each other

I-am-a-nobody · Accepted Answer

After almost 25 years, it's STILL a big deal.
In those early years,...
It was fun figuring out how things work and trying new things.
Some of the different things are fun and some are way more trouble than it's worth, but you can laugh about it afterwards.

It was (is) a learning experience for both of us. There's got to be give and take, because what feels great to you might not do it for her and vice versa.
Sometimes you give the other person what they want, and you find yourself enjoying their enjoyment of it (a lot).
Other times, you get to be "spoiled".
Most times, there are things that you both like!

The key is a sense of humor. Don't take yourself too seriously.
You're not doing a porno flick, you're loving your spouse.

Tiffany_Taylor_Made · Accepted Answer

Yes. The main reason I thought sex would be a big deal for me wasn't because of how it would feel, but rather body insecurity. I didn't think that I had a normal looking vagina at the time. To make matters worse, the guy that I was dating in high school wanted to have sex with me for a while and so did I, but I kept putting it off, thinking he wouldn't be attracted to it. When I finally did get the courage to tell him, he said that it wouldn't be a problem. Lo and behold, when we had sex for the first time, he didn't really seem to care at all. Thus, I figured it wasn't that big of a deal as I thought it would be and it resulted in me being more accepting of my body.

Cynicaldreamer · Accepted Answer

Yeah! I'm glad I'm not the only one that felt that way! I remember all my friends saying how great it would be and how addicted to it I would become...

My first time was such a letdown! I remember thinking to myself, "That's it? I thought it would be better than this..." I mean it wasn't bad but it wasn't that great either, lol.
In my defense, it was me and my partner's first time, so it was the blind leading the blind, but still... definitely was not a big deal like everyone makes it out to be.

kaylaS91 · Answer

No, I never really thought sex was a big deal to start with. I had sex with my ex because I just wanted to get my first time over with- my expectations were pretty non-existent tbqh.

PrudentGuy · Answer

First time was yes. A BIG disappointment like "is that all to sex?"

But subsequently, for the next 6 months, it just got better and as we get to be more experienced and sexually confident, its a means to really get intimate and satisfies our carnal needs.

Breanna_nonbinary · Answer

If it’s not a big deal then you’re not doing it right.  It’s like poetry. Sure anyone can write a poem, but if you learn the nuances and syntax of language the your poetry can be amazing.

AmandaYVR · Answer

That's an interesting poll/idea.

I sort of can't answer it as a yes or no. I think physically - absolutely, yes, not such a big deal. But on all other levels, it was a huge milestone, and my mind was kinda blown, that I just did that and shared with experience with this particular guy. If you pick the right person, right time, and it goes well, I don't think that should be minimized. Once you start, people rarely stop. It's the beginning of a new chapter in life. That's how I saw it.

Gotcha_Writer10 · Answer

Thats why im waiting so it can be at least he somewhat special lol

340sunny · Answer

The first time the intimacy made me feel a lot closer with my boyfriend but the sex itself was just alright. Follow up a few years and a few guys later I found out how amazing sex actually was and then yeah it was as big of a deal that I'd thought before my first time

MissKittyz · Answer

My first time was awful and made me hate sex.. But it isn't because of the sex, I just had a shitty partner who pressured me into it. It wasn't as wonderful as I thought it would be and didn't feel good either. So sex was not a big deal at all. I just did it to please my exes.

However, when I met my fiancé, he is such an amazing partner that I am finally able to enjoy sex. It is now very pleasurable, fun, satisfying and addicting lol

DizzyDesii · Answer

I always said sex wasn't gonna be all that. And boy was i right. What makes it fun tho is doing it in public places and possibly gettin caught. Either way, i can wait til marriage for sex (again) but i need foreplay still

Daniela1982 · Answer

It isn't a big deal. My grandma told me once that it was something that caused so much grief and bad feelings. Think about it. Sex is the cause of men of good repute falling and even kings falling. Mata Hari used sex to get secrets from men. But what do I know. The female jerk offs on this site think they are in heaven when some guy, good or bad, even looks at them. They will do anything to get a man.

rraaee · Answer

I remember thinking if that's it I can live without it 😂 My first time was disappointing.

wingattebaby16 · Answer

the first time was confusing, overwhelming, and a big disappointment coz he was done really fast. When I got to choose my first time with the guy I wanted to be with, it was a fantastic amazing time!

Youryeodongsaeng · Answer

I haven't had sex, but when I watch porn, I'd think it'd (sex) be better than masturbation and more pleasurable.
Then I thought if I actually did had sex, I'd might die from a heart attack or heart failure. At the same time, I really want to have sex, but I may be facing something big during sex.

Miss_G · Answer

Sex is very important in the right circumstances. Don't abuse it!

RickPen · Answer

Massive letdown that lead to other realizations in life. Basically, sex isn't pleasurable, and it lead me to research why. I later found out it was due to damage from circumcision. I thought it was so many other things, and as I age it only gets worse

So, yeah, circ ruined my sex life. I'm oh so glad that I had no choice in how much of my body I could keep. Asshole parents. I think pretty similarly about any parent who cuts their kid. They are setting them up to have crappy sex and future problems.

scholastic_vibez · Answer

My first time was very awkward because my dick was too big at first to fit inside my girlfriend’s vagina at the time. She cried, and blamed herself thinking it was a lack of lubrication due to something wrong with her. Eventually I was able to insert it, and she was able to enjoy it. I remember being also grossed out by the taste of her vag at first also, I thought it was gonna taste sweet like candy, but not at all. Once I got used to how she felt, and tasted, it was great when we had sex after that.

standingUP · Answer

Well I am sorry for the current 60% of you that had disappointment.
Making love to a woman is so beautiful and that experience from first and beyond has been amazing. Making my woman orgasm is my goal in life and always has been. I believe I was blessed with an ability to evoke passion and sexual lust from my partner than explodes with fantastic moments of bliss for the both of us. It was and always has been phenomenal.

Maybe you if you focus on giving rather than receiving than the experience would have changed yours.

pajamasam · Answer

If anything it made me realize WHY sex was such a big deal. It feels AMAZING and is an extreme way to show your love. But can also be risky at the same time.

It really just confirmed my views that yes sex is a big deal.

VdoubleUp · Answer

It’s disappointing I’ve never finished not even once...

ArrowheadSW · Answer

Well I wasn't expecting a lot the first time anyway. I knew that I wasn't going to last long and it was more like something that I wanted to experience with my girlfriend. She was of the same mindset so everything was cool. So for us I think it was more about the intimacy than expecting anything explosive... LOL

Frizzykitty0511 · Answer

With a hookup you don't expect much so ehh can't say much there but in a developing romantic relationship it's a big step that has lasting effects on the relationship even if you don't notice at the very beginning.

After having sex for the first time, did you realize that sex wasn’t as big of a deal as you thought?

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