Why would my 31 year old husband have interested in helping an 18 year old girl?

[Anonymous]

I have been doing my research before pointing finger at my husband and make any cheating accusations we been married for 4 years now and we have gorgeous baby boy. My husband he is a general manager at Target. 5 months ago he told me about this 18 year old employee cashier he wanted to help her because she was having problems at her parents that her parents kick her out and he wanted to help her and stay at our home while she got back on her feet. I found it pretty odd why would my husband would care so much for her. This 18 year old girl spend way to much time chatting with my husband. My husband he is 31 years old. I am thinking what can a 18 year old and a 31 year old possibly have in common. I find it weird is she a home wrecker? I must share my husband points out my flaws and imperfections and our marriage is sexless. In my head I am thinking so many family members that needed our help he never offer our family for help. I am doing more digging.

[Lynx122]

Shouldn't you be worried more about why your marriage is sexless instead of if he's cheating or not? Did you not care about your sexless marriage until this girl showed up? It seems like your marriage has a lot of problems but you're focusing everything on a external point instead of trying to work out your internal issues. I can't tell you if he's cheating or not but playing detective and jealous wife is not gonna save your marriage I can tell you that much.

You have to do some serious work like introspection , talking to your husand about how he sees your marriage and where he sees problems and trying to work it out together. From how you wrote your post you seem very detached and not invested in your marriage it's almost like you enjoy this distraction because you're so bored with it. Like you welcome this potential drama because it's the only pleasure you're gonna get out of this marriage that's not really a good state to be in.

That's just my impression from reading your post I hope you can work it out.

[KrakenAttackin]

@lynx122 BINGO!

[Anonymous]

It’s 13 years difference so it’s not unusual to get sexually with her and perfect opportunity for him if you’re not sexually satisfying him at only 31 years of age and I was extremely horny at his age but if he no free time away from you then it’s not likely to happen

[Breanna_nonbinary]

It’s human nature to be attracted to young healthy individuals. Even if he is attracted to her it’s for that reason and because all men as they get older get an ego boost from feeling attractive to a younger generation. If it boosts his ego that’s great just make sure he knows the boundaries.

[Agape93]

He could just be helping her. Better question, if you can’t trust your husband to be faithful to you, why are you two even together?

[Asker]

Why the fuck is a 31 year old chatting with an 18 year old don't you think that's creepy?

[Agape93]

No they’re both legally adults. They talk because they can. Now, answer my question.

[Asker]

We are closer in age

[Asker]

We have more things in common now , Yes an 18 year old is still immature wants to play house.

[Agape93]

Who cares what she may or may not want to do. Here’s the bottom line. If you can’t trust your husband, leave him. If you do trust him, then don’t worry about it.

[Asker]

What the hell is an 18 year old going to know about life.

[Agape93]

Completely irrelevant. Do you trust your husband to be faithful?

[Asker]

Easy for you to say. From your comment I can tell that you are not married. Just live No I still love my husband. If you were married it something you would understand. Face it older man only want younger woman just for the sex nothing serious.

[Agape93]

Answer my question.

[Asker]

I already did.

[Agape93]

No, you haven’t. It’s a yes or no question Do you trust your husband? Yes or no.

[standingUP]

You have very valid points to be concerned about. You have every right to be suspicious. The last points you made would be points of causes for concern.

[AmourHoney]

He could just be doing it because he has a kind heart and genuinely wants to help her, or there could be something more behind it. There’s no way to tell until you find more proof proving either point.

[Asker]

Good ❤ his grandmother needed help I offer her to stay at my house and he refuse to help his own grandmother.

[chriscdi]

tryin to clap them young cheeks

[pleasestopthis]

He obviously has an inappropriate interest in her, it's as clear as water.

[theCobbler]

🚨🚨🚨🚨 what does any 18 year old have to offer a 31 year old? I'd bet he's already sniffing and serving!
Especially if he won't help family but wants to help a stranger... !! Be careful!

[dudeinohio]

Yes, I find it rather odd and inappropriate.

[KrakenAttackin]

Your marriage is sexless... you need to learn how to keep a man and be a decent fucking wife.

[Asker]

I clean I work out. I am 29 years old just because I am about to turn 30 does not mean that a clueless 18 year old child has to ruin my marriage. Thisnis wjat upsets me

[Asker]

Maybe this stupid 18 year old gold digger needs to learn to keep her legs closed and go find a guy her same age. It upsets me that young woman want to fuck older man.

[KrakenAttackin]

Well, stop being the classic bitchy wife and actually please your man. The idea of making their man happy is such a foreign fucking concept. Driving your man into another woman's arms is a choice YOU are making.

[Asker]

I rather him talking to a 40 year old woman instead of a 18 year old whore!

[Asker]

You must be a disgusting pig chasing after young woman.

[KrakenAttackin]

Not true. I just know modern women like you turn into super-bitch rather than actually try to please you man... because the idea of actually pleasing your man is repugnant to you. Well, guess what, he will find another woman to please him. The bitch routine doesn't work.

[KrakenAttackin]

Also, the "clueless 18 year old" is not the one ruining your marriage -- YOU ARE.

[Asker]

No. Lets be honest here if you are chasing after an 18 year old is just fo the sex an 18 year old has nothing to offer.

[KrakenAttackin]

She has SEX to offer, which you are denying your HUSBAND. By refusing your husband sex you are, by default, giving him permission to find sex elsewhere.

[Asker]

You are full of assumptions he is the one that refuses sex.

[KrakenAttackin]

He refuses because you have turned sex into a chore. If you don't make your man happy at all he will not see you in a sexy light. This is such a simple concept but it is LOST on women.

[Asker]

Problem is you man start to look at the young hoes. If an older woman dates a young guy oh look she's a cougar oh but if an older man dates a younger woman no says shit.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are 29, it shouldn't be that hard to keep your man happy, you simply choose not to.

[Surely]

I guess that this will give all the more reason to help her "Get on her feet" so that she can move out of your house.
And, if your husband follows, get a good lawyer and sue the pants off of him.
You wouldn't want him anyway.

[REDHOTLINE]

All marriages will be one day sexless. This is the faith of marriage

[Jack-mayhoff]

I agree seems very odd.

[Anonymous]

Lol easy to figure it out

[Anonymous]

Men will always find young females attractive and young females will always find older me attractive. What they have in common is interest in one another.