Is my friends with benefits getting attached?

[lindazilbert23]

It’s been two months since I started seeing a guy casually (we kinda stuck with each other because of the lockdown). But I have a feeling we are both attracted to each other more than we want to admit. Now, we stay over every time we meet (about twice a week), and also the next day we leave pretty late in the day. He bought me a vibrator (because he was concerned I am not coming) and he’s always taking care of me, whether it is giving me his hoodie on a cold day or fixing stuff in my room. Every time we spend time with each other he stares at me a lot, and last time I noticed that he was kissing me when he thought I was asleep. Is he falling for me?

[abc3643]

That's how love works.

Congrats!
You ___most_definitely___ earned this!
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Congratulations!

Your question is today's Question of the Day illustrating that Friends With Benefits is an illusion because eventually one of them will get emotionally involved as if in a couple.

It's not a question of "if" it's going to happen, but "when".

Here's one of countless examples from G@G that illustrates the point:
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Guys, Confusing FwB? ↗
We both started off saying no relationship just friends with benefits and no sharing which means we don't sleep with anyone else. But he cuddles and wishes I could stay the night. Likes to spend time with me outside of bed. Asks how my days go. But yet he will bounce between texting me all day to barely saying a word for days at a time. So im a bit confused, we never set any friends with benefits ground rules like no cuddling or kissing before we say goodbye etc, so those have never been adhered to. He emotionally vents to me and I do the same. I know I'm catching feelings, but is he?
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If it is any consolation, in December 1988 just before I turned 26, I was involved in this intense 2.5 week F W B situation (*) with my roommate. I was very emotionally involved, but, for her, I was just a convenient lay between more "serious boyfriend"s.

So, was I a stupid fool? Yes and no. I knew better, but I wanted what I got into and paid the price. I learned through The School of Hard Knocks just like you are...

(*) This is long before "Friends With Benefits" became "a thing". No one said that 30+ years ago let alone thought it because it would be considered an embarrassment to sink to that level. Apparently, being a slut or manwhore doesn't matter in today's "hook-up culture".

[lindazilbert23]

Ok this is actually pretty funny

[AustinMan]

Why not explore things further. It does indeed sound like you're getting attached. Is the sex good to great? Do you communicate well, including about sex?

[lindazilbert23]

The communication is good, sex is great. We still rarely talk outside of planning the next meeting but when we’re together we’re comfortable with talking about anything

[AustinMan]

So help each other and get more emotionally invested. Have you talked about each other's darkest, kinkiest fantasies?

[ItsTheNephilim]

Yes, he's attached to you.

[LiamSawyer]

No, he has already fallen for you!

[Jerre]

He very well could be. You might try asking for longer separations and see what he says. I also have friends with benefits, but they all know why we get together. If a girl acts like she’s becoming more affectionate, I will cut down the time we spend together.

[Anonymous]

sounds like he is, bless his heart