Boyfriend makes comments about my body?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend makes comments about my body. He didn't said that he doesn't like my body but he mentioned some things that he would like to be different. He said that he likes my butt a lot (most guys do) but he thinks i should lose some weight so i i can have a smaller waist. My measurements are 93-69-98 so i think thats its okay. Also im quite athletic so i have "wider" shoulders and "bigger" arms. Im not to muscular or anything like that. I just like weight training a lot. He told me i should use lighter weights. I like my body that way and i thought that its kinda rude to talk to someone like that.

[Dargil]

Ask him if the changes he wants are conditional to continuing the relationship. Get a clear answer. If it is no, tell him you will end the relationship if he ever mentions it again. You can tell him you will work to maintain your body as it is now. If the answer is yes, terminate him on the spot.

[scuff1986]

It's your body and the only person that needs to like it and critsize it is you, not him. He is basically trying to make his own perfect in his vision girlfriend. He need to realise that could work the other way and you can point out what you don't like if anything about his body

[kaylaS91]

It's definitely rude to make comments like that to others- especially people that you claim to care about.

I know that what you wrote above is just a little snapshot of your guys' relationship but he sounds not only rude, but like he's also got a tendency to be slightly controlling...

[abc3643]

He needs to go.
Now.

[Matthew2222]

I think your boyfriend is an ass hat and should be replaced.

[ecfresh]

Did you ask him about your body or why would he just tell you this off the cuff?

[Asker]

I didn't. We were just talking about training and studf like that.

[ecfresh]

Ok, so it sounds like he was just bring honest with you and was thinking those thoughts. Do you not want him to be honest?

[Asker]

It's really stupid to tell your girlfriend to stop doing something that she loves and keeps her healthy because thats not the "ideal" for you.

[ecfresh]

Never did I say it was perfect what I he, I just asked if you wanted him to be honest. One time after sex I was cuddling with my girlfriend and noticed her breasts felt bigger. So because I noticed it I told her and she got pissed off. How was I supposed to know that rule and wasn’t allowed to comment on her breasts?

[Gedaria]

You paint a lovely picture of your body. Sounds really nice. But bi think what the boyfriend was on about, using lighter weights is you can gone with out , getting the muscle mass..

[jefferson_moses]

If you think that you need to bring changes in your body and you'll be happy after you achieve it. You must do everything to make those changes. Don't just workout or diet if your boyfriend says and you dont want to. It'd be injustice to yourself

[Anonymous]

I assume your measurements are in cm not inches, I guess he is just saying there is room for improvement but how is his body and are you happy with his?

[Asker]

There is always room for improvement. I just didn't liked the way he was talking. Its not like i can change my body structure completely and im not gonna stop doing something that i love. I'm really attracted to more muscular guys. He is skinny but im not gonna tell him to start lifting weights or anything like that he doesn't like that

[Asker]

If he*

[Opinion Owner]

Maybe you should tell him that and I bet he won’t say anything to you again