Why do people care about sexual history so much?

[Rapidash]

Ok so I really don’t understand! Someone please explain why you care if a person has been with whatever number of partners? Why would you want to discuss it and why would you care? This is considering that they are disease free. I’ve literally never had the desire to talk about ex partners or hookups or whatever with my significant other. Like I just don’t care and so I am SO CONFUSED as to why people are getting so flustered over this!

[stickytoes]

They think it’s more difficult to commit and be loyal to someone if you’ve had sex with many people. Some guys don’t like the thought of other guys penises inside of their girl. Maybe they are afraid that they aren’t the best they partner has had so far.
I don’t understand it either. And I’m saying this as a virgin.🤷🏽‍♀️

[yseaguy]

I would say the opposite. It tends to be people who have only been with one or a small number who get older and start thinking, "I have never gotten to try this, or do that, or see what someone else is like." I think that is a very common reason to cheat.

[stickytoes]

I‘m only saying what I’ve heard people say. You’re probably right too.

[yseaguy]

Yeah, I am sure people say that. But it seems silly. I say, if you want to settle down, better to find someone who has exhausted their wild phase than someone who hasn't found it. I think it mostly misogyny, pretty simply. Lots of men (and women) think of women as being somehow "used" after they have had prior partners. Which is absurd (as if they were "new" prior?).

[stickytoes]

I completely agree.

[ecfresh]

A lot of people are insecure and if they know their SO has slept with 30+ people they believe it’s like a competition: are my breasts better than them, did they have bigger dicks than me, can he not cum with me like he did with them... it’s all the insecure overthinking people do.

[Rapidash]

Fair! I suppose I never thought of it that way. I suppose because I just assume they broke up and it clearly wasn’t working or it was just a hookup or else I wouldn’t find myself I a situation with this particular person right now. I wish people could stop overthinking

[ecfresh]

Ya, this is one reason why I wait for deep emotional feelings and trust before sleeping with someone. When you hookup you are having sex with a stranger so it’s easy to question things and let insecurities slip in. But in a relationship and with someone you love the intimacy blocks out the world. I just focus on her, on her body, on how she makes me feel. Being in the present moment and giving her pleasure are much more fulfilling than being insecure or scared or other thinking every detail.

[yseaguy]

I don't care in the sense that I am not worried if it is a big or small number, but I do like to hear what you have done that you do/do not like. And, if I am being honest, I do like to hear about any hot experiences.

[Rapidash]

Mmm okay well in that sense it is understandable but I suppose it’s for a good cause rather than judgement.

[yseaguy]

Definitely not to judge. Just in the pursuit of fun.

[Jean-Marie_Céline]

I don't know why some people care.
I honestly don't care, but my girlfriend throughly interrogated me about sexual history. She wanted to know everything.

[Jjpayne]

It lets you know number of past relationships and or amount of sexual experience, at least that's what I'm guessing

[In_Trance]

I agree. I really don't get it. Only thing that makes sense is immaturity. Young people care about this and get so butthurt about it; they wanna feel like their the only one. I don't think middle aged people gaf. In fact, it would be weird to be middle aged and have no experience.