Is it weird that I dont care he had a happy ending massage?

[Anonymous]

I found out from a friend of mine that a couple of months ago my boyfriend went for a massage and had a happy ending at the end of the massage. It seems he told a close friend and the info has done the full circle.

When my friend told me she acted like she was expecting me to lose it and have an emotional breakdown. But I actually just dont really care to be honest. We spend that much time together that im 100% sure its not a regular thing as we work for the same company and live together.

I even know the exact day it prob happened.
Tbh im not surprised, i got a massage last year and never went back because i got aroused and was embarrassed by it. So I can see how one might be tempted.

What do I do?
I dont want to completely give the green light for endless massages because i think thats not really the stuff of healthy relationships.
But I also dont want to make a massive fuss and damage our relationship over a handjob that might have lasted 2min ;

What should i do?

[websterII]

ah.. that's a slippery slope.. i admire your decision.. but i dont like his.. he's with you.. no one else should be touching him like that.. and they just dont attack you.. i'm sure they ask you and you have ot pay for that service. no i have never had a massage (cept by my girlfriend/wife/xwife (same person)) Its not a stretch between that handjob and prostitution.. and that puts your life at risk. unacceptable.. and massive betrayal. in the end you make that decision.. but i would NOT be a happy camper. in fact i'd be going through the credit card statements to find out how often this happens and how much.. then find out what you get for x dollars and see if it's just handjobs. but.. perhaps none of that matters.. cus the trust is gone. and it's a bitch getting that back.

[jakerson181]

You can always ask him about it casually without being judgmental. In fact, if the two of you are playing, you can say "how'd you like a happy ending massage. I heard you enjoy those." That might be a good entry into discussing it if he doesn't get too embarrassed by that.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Well it's normal to not care and it's also normal to give a shit. Both are perfectly normal reactions, so there's nothing wrong with yours.
And it's also understandable if you don't want it to be repeated.. let him know and you can just tell him what you told us, it doesn't come off as insecure or demanding or controlling, I think it's nicely worded

[VdoubleUp]

That is a little weird since that’s practically cheating but if it doesn’t bother you then just tell him that you know and it doesn’t bother you but beware that he might take that as a initiative to continue cheating and/or he might feel as if you don’t care about the relationship because you have no reaction to him cheating

[LiamSawyer]

Tell him exactly that!

[Numbnuts89]

paying someone, to have an orgasm

porn, essentially

[abc--123]

Get one yourself

[CubaPirate]

Let sleeping dogs lay

[johnsimon1717]

If he doesn't ask you its wrong... You can go too if it doesn't matter to both of you