I see two angles to this. First, he knows as well as you do that there's a problem, and he should be open and honest about it. He should talk to you.
Second, guys need a regular sexual release, even when they are stressed. Masturbating to porn is the easiest path to that... the path of least resistance. Guys have to put in most of the effort during sex, and that can sound exhausting if he's stressed and not feeling great. He needs something to persuade him it's worth the effort. Maybe you should tell him you just need a little time with his body and you'll do all the work. Tell him to lay back and relax and let you take over. Do that a few times and I'll bet it lights his fire a little.
Also, try to find out what is interesting him in the porn he watches. Ask him what lights his fire. What are his fantasies? Try to make some of them come true, whether it's role play, anal, BDSM, whatever. Give his a reason to do the real thing instead of just watching porn.0 0 0 0The type of girls he watches are complete opposite of me it’s more of the big ass and big boobs, latinas I ’m on the average athletic side with a comfortable chest size , his not watching anything super freaky nothing different from what we’ve done 🤷🏼♀️ And he knows I’m down for anything to try
We had conversation about our sex life and it’s always the same story I’m stressed or I can’t get in the mood I’ve even asked point blank did you lose interest in me and he keeps reassuring it’s not me
Porn is entertainment. Just like you watching chick flicks for the mental fantasy. It has absolutely nothing to do with you, his level of contentment, or sexual activity.
It is visual fantasy. It gives us dopamine to our brain and makes us happy.
Yes you are indeed being unreasonable, but a basic female. Since women generally can not grasp the difference between males and females.
You watch romance movies, read 50 shades, watch magic mike... not because you are unsatisfied with you life, you do it for entertainment and mental fantasy. It has nothing to do with your partner.
Whats affecting your sex life, could be your controlling nature. It could be stress. There are endless other reasons, but porn is not one of them.0 0 0 0
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Watching porn in secrecy is unfortunately the beginning of the end of a relation on a long run, mainly if he denies the wrongdoing.
Watching lewd movies while being in a relation is a form of cheating that is just as bad as physical cheating.
Of course that if you tell him that you snooped and that you have proof of his misdemeanor, it will only make things worse because he will realize that trust is an issue within your couple.
I would recommend that you prepare a list of issues that you see within your relation and to each issue, you bring up a solution to the problem. Ask your boyfriend to do a similar list, independent from yours. Thereafter, you sit together and go over both lists trying to find a consensus that is acceptable to both parties. The important thing is not to be angry or accusing because that would not only falsify the outcome but make things only worse. Good luck.0 0 0 0
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0 9I wouldn't worry about the porn as much as I would his lack of interest in having sex with you. One is probably the result of the other. That's the discussion you should have with him about why he's not interested in sex.
0 0 0 0Isn't it funny how porn kills normal sexual desire.
God's way is best, which means no sex before marriage, too.
When people break the rules it hurts them.
that's why God want s to protect people from sinning.0 0 0 0There may not actually be a connection. Have him. fund another job
0 0 0 0I don't know we use to watch porn together and it kept our sex life going great. It kept me in the mood...
0 0 0 0he's gone... beyond repair
0 0 0 0If you want sex just get it
0 0 0 0Ask yourself why?
0 0 0 0Fuck with him.
0 0 1 0He probably wants to try something on those videos but is embarrassed to ask
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