Why guy get so insecure about their size?

[Anonymous]

I like him really A LOT. So we were about to have sex and then he asked me something about his size and if i've been with someone "bigger" before. I told him that he's fine and that he doesn't have a reason to feel insecure about that. To be honest tho yeah I've been with a guy that was bigger. Since then he got really really insecure asking me stuff about this even while we were having sex. When i returned home he even texted me to ask me if it felt better with other guy, if i enjoyed more and stuff like that. I don't get why guys get so insecure about that. I told him that i like him way more.

[AustinMan]

Somehow it's sort of ingrained in men who don't teach themselves otherwise that the size of their cock is a measure of their sexual prowess and manliness. Based on what I see here all the time, it's really prevalent among younger men. I've been thinking about writing a My Take to address this subject, an attempt to enlighten them that the two really are largely not the same thing at all.

What do you think of that idea?

As for your particular guy, I think I'd tell him that there are a few facts the he needs to hear and internalize:
- His size is 100% genetically determined and that you and every other woman know there's not a thing he can do to change it short of costly and dangerous surgery.
- That he does a bang up job of satisfying you and that he needs to let go of his worrying about it.
- That you'd much rather he invest that energy in understanding sexuality and finding your "spots."

[All4ur_pleazure]

Seriously I remember in my early teens being so wrapped up in the size of my cock. Now don’t get me wrong, this chocolate love stick is long and thick with a big plump head, but at that time I didn’t know any better. Worried if the woman is going to like it, asking so many stupid questions about it yada yada yada. Then I hooked up with this older woman and she pretty much laid it out for me telling me I’m big but not humongous. My size is perfect and it fills her up just right. Not to get caught up in size because it’s more about what I do with it. And over time with her I learned A LOT of things. Thanks to her I never asked, “is it big enough, have you had bigger” again.

[NotYours88]

Some guys have their whole confidence build around their penis. Bigger penis often means bigger confidence. Never tell a guy that his penis look cute or small. Don't even mention it in the same sentence

[Alexandrubaschet08]

Is the same situation whit you're boby girls. You want them big, round and all the people to have dificulty to not watch them.
Same for guys we want to be the biggers and the best. Ther is no "fine" for us. Is only "yes, you are the biggest i ever have" and "OMG you are the best boy that i ever have, it feel way bether whit you".
Is all the time an evolution competition bethuin mans, man compet all the time in evrething whit others man, money, sport, girl, sex, dick, fun... etc.

[ThatGuy133]

Some guys have been compared to their s/o ex and that's a blow to the ego if she makes it seem like you don't measure up.

[crmoore]

It's due to culture. I'd imagine it's for similar reasons that some women feel less than (wrongfully) for have smaller breasts.

[Trooper205]

That's me, all right. I ask My Girl rather frequently if there's anything She wishes He'd be more of. What am I wanting Her to say? She tells Me it's perfect!!

[COMMODOREII]

Poor guy 😂😂

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[Anonymous]

Women use it as a point of attack so often that it has become a point of contention.

[Anonymous]

Most guys really worry about size. I was technically slightly below average but didn’t let it stop me. Measured myself recently and I grew to slightly above average. Do I feel more confident? Not really. But it’s a nice bonus.

And if u too small there’s always ways to make your dick feel bigger inside of her.

[Anonymous]

I'm pretty sure the number one reason is porn.