Why Would A Man Watch Porn If He Has A Women?

[casey61015]

My Question Is...
What is the reason why a man would still watch porn behind closed doors? Especially if he already has a women at home that doesn't really ever deny him when he feels like making love, Is it because I'm not good enough or is he not interested in me anymore? Why would he want to jack off to another female on web when he has me? Wouldn't that be considered cheating by getting off to somebody else instead of his girlfriend? Am I not what he wants anymore? Why do men do that if they already have a girl? Please help me with real answers guys... Truthfully and Honesty?

[justsimpleguy]

Here are some reasons people choose to masturbate while in a relationship:

No anxiety when one masturbates (other than the risk of getting caught if that is an issue in the relationship). Often anxiety is a big part of what comes from partner sex: anxiety about how I smell, how my body will perform, will my body perform, does my partner like me, my body, how my body reacts etc. For many people, unfortunately, relationship sex is filled with so much anxiety that it is not enjoyable
A person is tired and masturbation doesn't require the same level of effort, both mentally and physically to perform
It is not painful. For both men and women, relationship sex can be physically painful and the inability to resolve the pain or effectively discuss it with their partner leads to the desiring relationship sex less or avoiding it
A person is bored
A person is bored with their relationship and wants to play out a fantasy in their head
A person is stressed
Because they like it
They don't have to worry about getting rejected by their partner
Their partner is sick, has their period or just doesn't want it when the partner does
They want to do it quick or don't have the time required for relationship sex
Their partner is traveling or away from their partner
It's convenient, like in the shower in the morning or evening
It is their best attempt to remain faithful to the marriage because they are really unhappy and don't have anyway to resolve marital conflict outside the bedroom
They do not desire the kind of sex they will have with their partner
It's fun
They want to indulge in a fantasy that they are: too afraid, embarrassed or fear rejection from their partner to share with them
They just want an orgasm and they know how best to get there in the fastest way possible
To learn more about their own body and what they like and how to reach orgasm

[justsimpleguy]

Thanks for MHO

[Being_a_good_Indian]

They are addicted to the dopamine chemicals released in their brain; these chemicals do a great job at making an individual feel extremely good for a short period of time, and are highly addictive. Porn addiction is very damaging to the brain; there are brain scans that have revealed that the damages incurred can be equivalent to that of a cocaine addict.

Men will generally delve into porn and masturbation when they begin to feel emotions; whether it be anger, anxiety, sadness, insecurity, doubt, resentment etc.

And yet another reason, typically the fantasies that excite them echo aspects of their past that they want to re-live. Either they want to re-live these scenarios because they were enjoyable, or because they were hurtful and are wishing there could have been a different outcome; it seems that there is an underlying hope that through the engagement of a fantasy similar to these experiences, their past can be changed.

I hope I answered your question. Any queries?

[potatoiswhoiam]

Because that's one of the negative effects porn has on some people. It can be addicting and sometimes even more satisfying than sex, because of the intensity and extremity it has to offer, especially in some genres that are very unrealistic like gangbanging or certain sex positions or really rough sex. I don't know the type of porn he enjoys, but it seems like he's way too used to it to be satisfied by having sex alone.. it's a bad thing indeed and I believe therapy could help in such case, as long as he actually sees it as a problem.

[casey61015]

I don't think he has a bad problem with it... It's just sometimes I go to his history on his phone n see that when he takes a shower he will watch a quick video

[potatoiswhoiam]

If it's not often and like you said, he'd do it before shower, probably he just wants to be quick, and sex may take longer for him, but I'd say just talk to him about it. There is nothing wrong in confronting him (peacefully) and letting him know how you feel about this. If it's not a problem to him it also wouldn't be hard to quit I suppose. Or you can even offer having a quickie when he's in the mood.

[potatoiswhoiam]

Also another reason that comes to mind is that you may not be in the house or you might not always be in the mood, so it's better to just jerk off than forcing you into something you may not want at that right moment.

[casey61015]

I appreciate your answer potatoiswhoiam

[EriFrancis1994]

Sometimes it's just easier to jerk off than have sex. Maybe he's tired. Or maybe he has fetishes that the woman doesn't do

[casey61015]

Completely understandable

[casey61015]

Soo would u personally like it if your girl got off to another man on porn?

[EriFrancis1994]

My girl? Lol I'm not lesbian. But I wouldn't mind my man watching porn

[AustinMan]

Here's My Take. Is this helpful at all?

Why Men Watch Porn ↗

[blank_expression]

Same as drugs… start on grass move up to the heavy stuff..

[ArchersArrow]

The reason why a man jerk off at porn is because he’s looking for something in a girl that you probably don’t have. Now , I’m not saying that’s right. Your boyfriend is at fault and he shouldn’t be doing this. When he got to be with you he should accept the way you’re and be satisfied with it. You should talk it out with him and If he doesn’t stop it I suggest you to break up with him. Also No , “All Men” don’t jerk off to porn when they have SO. Your boyfriend is an individual case.

[casey61015]

I completely accept your answer.. I kinda see the same way your tryna say !!! Your probably most likely right...

[casey61015]

I think on my own opinion is I think it's because I ain't good enough or like u said it's because I'm not doing something that he likes in another female

[ArchersArrow]

Oh believe me you’re good enough. People just sometimes want more and they end up being unsatisfied and leaving what they currently have. If it was a lack of sexual experience I think it would have been a lot better to talk it out with my partner. I mean wouldn’t bother to go watch a girl do it when I can tell my girl and sort it out and make it happen to me IRL. I think you get the Idea so be careful

[casey61015]

Thank you honestly

[Freddy78361]

Fantasy is a powerful aphrodisiac. Men don't fixate on one thing or the k he is depriving his wife or girlfriend by doing it.
Have you invited him to watch porn with you? Don't accuse him or chastise him. Use it as a tool for both of you in the bedroom. Maybe he thinks you believe some acts are too gross.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

I would stop watching porn if my wife were more willing to engage in kinkier fantasies, roleplay, etc.. but if someone is less-than-stellar in the bedroom, expect their SO to find other ways to feed that hunger.

[Reaperbot666]

1- he might just want to knock one out real quick. do to limited time frame
2- there spouse might not be willing or able. possible even not around.
3- the longer two people cohabitate. the less likely they are to engage in sexual interaction together. if there sex life has become mundane or stall.
4- maybe it is from fantasy or fetish. at which point maybe consider seeing what sparks there interest sexual. and look into adapting it into your sex life together.
5- most men have a primal urge to mate and breed with multiple partners. in order to spread there DNA more. however that can be controlled if his primary partner can help him keep those urges in check.

source material
http://pauldavidphd.com/wp-content/uploads/Pair-Bonding.pdf
https://www.medinstitute.org/articles/pair-bonding-and-the-brain/
https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20131125/how-the-love-hormone-works-its-magic#2
https://www.psychologicalscience.org/news/releases/a-48-hour-sexual-afterglow-helps-to-bond-partners-over-time.html

[SlothySlob]

First off, if you're really from the US, you should know the distinction between women and woman.
Secondly, maybe sex with you is too vanilla and he wants to spice his experience or the experience with you. Maybe he's being considerate and not involve you with sex constantly. Maybe he just enjoys going single player more, than co-op. Maybe you're just not good enough.

[Drumlin2001]

My OH is pretty engaged to our sex life, we have sex 2-4 times a week. We have a 6 month old son so we're both pretty tired most of the time, and i'm working from home due to Covid so don't get a lot of spare time. Sometimes i'm horny and it's just easier to take 5min, watch some porn and take care of it rather than waiting for little'un to fall sleep for a nap and spend 20min with other half during the day. And by the time we put him to be we're both lagging for energy a lot of the time

[es20490446e]

I don't know, my girlfriends lasted too short to tell.

[Walrus_au]

porn is a different thing, different hunger being filled.

[COMMODOREII]

No sexual gratification from the woman. Or wants alone time.

[mT2359]

Truthfully, men are visual creatures.

[In_Trance]

People always want what they haven't got

[JamesBlackDragon]

Why would he because he can

If you think it's cheating then it's cheating

Maybe the specific videos he's looking at your not doing those things who knows

I don't think he's not attracted to you or don't want you anymore sometime is just faster to jerk off in us a nut then it would to have sex

I have a question for you do you own sex toys because if you do what's the difference just look at porn as a visual sex toy

[Reddwolf]

If it was me I would like for her to watch it with me

[CubaPirate]

For a change as long as its just fantasy I can't see any harm in it

[my_name_is_dear]

not all men.. dont say it in general

[Anonymous]

For the same reason women watch chick flicks, read romance books, watch/read shit like magic mile or 50 shades, and have mental female fantasies.
It’s entertainment.