How to bring up an embarrassing fetish to a long-time partner for the first time? (Pissing Fetish)?

[Anonymous]

Okay, let's go:

I'm a bi-sexual female in my mid-20's. My partner is a male who is about a year and a half younger than me. We have been together for nearly 3 years now. We have lived together for 2 years.

I have a pissing fetish. Pissing porn is the thing that gets me off the most.

I didn't always engage in the fetish, but since about 17 years old, I've been privately wetting my clothing and some designated objects while I fuck myself and watch pissing porn.

Anyway, I have never ever mentioned this fetish to another living soul. I have kept this 100% to myself forever. But my boyfriend and I have been trying to expand our horizons (lol) sexually, and he is the person I have the most trust for in my whole life.

• I feel like I can trust him. I don't feel like he will shame me per-se. But he is very vanilla. He is also very inexperienced (one previous partner before me).

I do not think he will have any interest in it, I don't think he will enjoy it, but I wonder if he is willing to do it every now and then for my enjoyment. Because he is great, and I feel like within reason, that I sounds like him. I just wonder if this particular fetish is to taboo, because from what I've read online so far it seems like it's considered kind of far-out-there even as a fetish?

I do not feel like I will die if I keep this to myself. I can keep it in my private sex life, and be satisfied. My concern is that I plan on marrying this man, and he says he feels the same. That being said, am I willing to die having not experienced some of the things I've wanted to in regards to pissing fetishes? Because honestly, the thought of never experiencing it at all kinda bums me out. But again, I can be overall satisfied keeping it private.

So what should I do? Should I bring it up? How to introduce various watersports activities? How should I bring it up?
ANY ADVICE AT ALL FOR MY SITUATION IS WELCOME!

[Anonymous]

I've actually been in the same situation as you.. Well partially. I'm not into the actually pissing but more into the control I have over my partner while she's holding it in.

I honestly believe that you should talk about it sooner or later. Even if he wouldn't act upon it, it's a nice thing to know that you no longer have to keep that side of you a secret. Especially if he's the guy you want to marry in the future.

Now, you've been with him for 3 years, so it's probably easier for you to say which approach would be best for him but here's what I think.

I wouldn't recommend the third party approach. If you gonna tell him anyway, you don't need to have a substitute like those "a friend of mine" stories.

I also wouldn't jump right into it though, in the form of "Hey honey? I have a pissing fetish. Mind if was slowly wetting myself next time I'm riding you?".
I'd say: Start drawing the conversation to a related topic and get more and more into it, as you progress.

As you've already said, if he likes you, he won't judge you and if he likes you a lot, he might even act upon it for you enjoyment. He can shower afterwards and you can put something on top of the mattress to avoid too much of a mess if that's of any concern.

As for myself.. You could say I was pretty lucky. My girlfriend and I both woke up horny one day, so we just started making out and eventually had Sex. Well, that's when she started to notice that she also really had to go and told me, she could feel me pushing on her bladder with every thrust. Knowing that I may have been a bit more forceful than usual, also telling her that I wouldn't let her go before she came and I intentionally took myself A. Whole. Lot. Of. Time. (Lucky for her though, she cums fairly easily during sex).

After that whole situation she pretty much figured and came to me, asking "Could it be that you.." and I've just admitted it it from there. There couldn't have been a better timing really.

[olderirishguy]

First thing is try find out desoite being vanilla if he has any kind of fetishes at all. You can do that by jokingly asking him if there's anything sexual he particurlarly likes. Build on it from there. If he refuses then come to Ireland and ill happily assist you in your fetishes.

[laurieluvsit]

I have always found the 3rd party approach the best.

Tell him that you know this girl that is into it, explaining some of the things, then if he says something like "That's nice, that turns me on too", then you can say... "I'm that girl".

Or, if he says, that sounds sick to me, well then you will know what to do then too.

Good luck :)

[tohonest201797]

guys know ur the girl when u do that were not dumb

[Anonymous]

Well yeah obviously you’re going to have to tell him. I would introduce the topic by asking him what his thoughts are on squirting. Usually by that answer you can get a good feel on where he stands with the whole pissing fetish of yours.

[Losalt]

Look up the humansexmap with him and use it as a conversation piece.
I think that'll help. :-)
Remember that the map is only a *small* selection of everything out there intended to aid in conversations.

[loooooop]

I'd probably ask about how they feel about the fetish before revealing my interest in it. Try it in a game of truth or dare one night or something. And if he picks truth just ask "have you ever thought about getting peed on" or something like that.

[NewZion]

Just say it. There's no smooth way of saying "I want to piss on you".

https://www.youtube.com/embed/eafRE74JGZ8

[Throwawaynowknow]

If you trust them not to shame you then it shouldn't be difficult. If you have to think about it too much, you likely aren't ready. He 100% has his own kinks that he is holding back for the same reason.

[Iron_Man]

Do you bring scissoring girls over and pee in their face?

[mather80]

I'm also a massive pissing fan! My first experience was in a swimming pool - my ex girlfriend was straddling my leg and i was holding on to her. She said that she needed to piss and if i didn't let her go, she would piss on my leg. She did and it felt so incredible warm. I've been hooked since. My present long time partner knows I've got a piss fetish as we watched a porn film once and i asked her to do it on me. She though i was joking and it didn't happen just then. When she was in the bathroom - she let me put my finger under her stream - eventually this worked up to her pissing over my cock in the bath while i wanked. She's not done it since which i'm disappointed about. Perhaps you could share a shower together and jokingly say you are going to piss on his leg. I bet he's love it. What turns you on about it? I absolutely watching vids of girls squatting and pissing - such a turn on, and girls pissing in guys and girls faces. Let me know what happens X

[Mcluven]

Tell him you want to try everything once. If he doesn't like it then dont do it again. If you trust him so much then maybe you should tell him. He could be having a fetish of his own he wants to try and to scared to tell you about.

[Angienam]

Ask him. if h has any fetish n then tell yours.. or just sit on his face n ped there... give him surprise

[Anonymous]

Just tell him. He may or may not be into it, but if you've been together for 3 years he's not going to judge you for it.

I have a hiccup fetish. Doesn't make sense... Weird AF... I've told 4 of my partners about it, and they were surprised at first since they didn't know that was a thing, but they all ended up being excited at having a new way to turn me on.

[Opinion Owner]

If you feel weird about just blurting it out, you could always start by asking him if he has any fetishes. Then, regardless of whether he does or not, he'll ask you if you do.

[Anonymous]

Ask him to pee into a cup; and when he asks why tell him you're thirsty. If he looks disgusted tell him you were just joking with him. If not, then you know you can proceed with him and your fetish.