i have only 1 girlfriend afther my second brake up (the one i sufer the moust), the sex whas from me careless, i whas extremly pasive and silance in that moment. I say only 1 time that i love her because she force me, afther that never again.
Whit the one i have feeling for i whas all the time say i love her, i whas very activ and have a lot of sugestions about sex and about what to do.
You feel like a little desgusted because that girl is not the one you rellty want, i stay whit that girl just to forget about my ex (didn't work)
She whas special, she whas evrething that i whasn't and that whas what make her special. Very emotional, clingy, but 0 pacient.
You don't feel any more emotion in that time, you are like (what ever). I didn't even care when the last one brake up whit me i whas careless about her, dreaming to an imposible dream that my ex will somehow, some time she will come back to me (my second ex).
If you still have feelings for him i will sugest to get back togeder and take it more easy, live the sex for MORE later and just try to love togeder as boyfriend and girlfriend whit love and respect. But whntile you truly belive he want you don't have sex any more. Talk about your past and how did you feel about that moment and afther the brake up and how you feel now and how do you want to feel in the future, so you 2 can see if you are still able to be in a real relationship.
I WILL SAY TO GIVE HIM A SECOND CHANGE. But be more dificul to get this time.0 0 0 0tough Love Alert!! If you can't take it straight, read no further, please.
Whoa!! Let's step back from the drama and BREATHE!!! You've go yourself so worked up and I don't see the reason. Yes he broke up with you AND he was honest about it AND he's answered ALL your very NOSY questions and yet you're still on the brink of an emotional breakdown.
To me this is dirt simple, boiling down to one question: do you want to get back with him? I'm a devoted advocate for don't ask, don't tell when it comes to sexual history. Both of you get tested and then try again.
Wha'd'a you say?0 0 0 0I just don’t need to get tested though he’s been my only sexual partner and during the break up I never really tried to hook up with anyone because it’s truly not in me. I just don’t know if he’s like different with me and I don’t feel so special either
I know you've only been with him but it'll take some of the sting out of you asking him to get tested if you both do it, no? From all that drama you wrote, it seems clear that either he's lying he ass off for no good reason I can see or, the truth in this situation: you are indeed special to him. What makes you think you're not besides your overwhelming fear?
Because sex is intimate to me since I’ve only done it with someone I loved and since I didn’t do the hook up thing I don't know like did he do the same things he likes to do to me but to them? Or were those girls better than me? Like in the sex? I don't know I just feel self conscious. Like he said how he can do more with me but what does that even mean? And I don't know it’s just I struggled with even getting naked with someone I don’t know and it’s like wow he’s done with other girls that were strangers? And what if he thinks they look better than me? And since I didn’t have much of the experience like him like I said what if he learned something new from those girls? He kept saying he liked how I did it more and how he just wanted to go down on me that with them he didn’t want to
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0 6If he wants to try again and you do also then let him know you have to start at the beginning again. Also be clear you will not have sex for at least 90 days.
0 0 0 0If u don't mind being the women he is coming back to now he has had his fun sure
0 0 0 0Dont go back dont go back don't go back.
Ex's are ex's for a reason. IN this great wide world of 4 billion people what are the odds that you live close to the only person who you can tolerate forever.
Not high
add in one failed attemptyou
odds are even lower.
Men always want a retread when they hit a dry spot.
Don't be that one
only darkness and pain will you find there young skywalker0 0 0 0Focus on the prize.
Do you want to spend your life with him? Was it good to be with him before?
If yes, leave his conquests and your insecurities in the past forever and focus on building a bright future for yourselves.0 0 0 0Sex can be meaningless for guys. Since he didn't try to make a relationship first he had meaningless sex. He didn't really care that much about them, but he did, and still does about you. He should definitely get tested. As far as sex goes, he was probably more willing to be adventurous with you. He trusted you and could be awkward with trying new positions, you don't try new positions for a ONS.
0 0 0 0But my mind wonders like what is SO different about meaningless sex with those girls versus the sex with me? I also just feel embarrassed that I didn’t really get to have that like I didn’t try to sleep with anyone else because I wanted to be alone and frankly I don’t think I’m that kind of person. So my body count remains one and I don't know I feel pathetic honestly.
He just had sex to cum, he didn't care about their pleasure or feelings
That’s different than the sex he’d have with me? Do men really act differently with a girl they love than with random hook ups?
I would date around and see if another guy treats you better before just going right back to this guy
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