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Should sex really be considered cheating? (Read details before answering)?

It's just a philosophical question, I don't necessarily agree or disagree with either side.

But I've been wondering about this for the last few minutes. What do you think?

Lustful sex with somebody you find attractive is definitely not the same as loving and intimate sex with someone you love and care for... So, should it really be considered cheating if it was just a one-time meaningless act for pure physical pleasure and nothing else?

What are your opinions? I have never cheated on anyone before (nor have I been cheated on), but I'm trying to get into the head of people who do cheat, and also the people who are cheated on.

Let's say your girlfriend or your boyfriend fucked someone else because they just felt a temptation towards their body but they don't actually care about the person. Most people would say that is cheating, but SHOULD it be considered cheating? It's meaningless, and this won't change your partner's perception of you. Your partner will still love you and care for you (in some cases at least). So why would we view that as cheating?

Why does sexual urges/sexual pleasure have to do with cheating at all?
It is DEFINITELY cheating
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It's not NECESSARILY cheating... it depends
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It is NOT cheating. Sex is sex, that doesn't mean you'll stop loving your partner because you had sex with someone else.
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  • I have thoughts similar to your details and don't know how to express until now.

    And thanks!!! I found my answer and let me share.

    The keyword is: premeditated.

    Let's compare with the law governing killing a person.

    If its not premeditated, the its classify as manslaughter, even accidental (like a driver knocking a pedestrian down killing him).

    But if its premeditated, then its murder and hence the murder will face more severe punishment.

    However the catch for sex is, its always premeditated.

    But socially, can intentions like what you wrote in your details be considered?

    Take the example of a bus driver accidentally running over a pedestrian during a rainy night.

    The deceased family still moans and the family will suffer much loss if he's the sole breadwinner.

    But the Law will judge the driver with accident and he walks free.

    Can sex without emotion be without guilt? How about with a prostitute? Why can't the innocent one forgive? The guilty still loves and cares for the family.

    I think it will take another century for marriage to be obsolete and then the general public to accept the term "its just sex" thus legally differentiate "sex with emotions" and "sex without love".

    Let's wait and see if it happens 😁

    • Did you really just compare killing someone with cheating...

    • No. I'm reasoning based on the intention of an act and how it should be judged thereafter. I used killing as an example because the Law established covers a wide spectrum, but the deceased family faces the same issues, regardless of being murdered or accidental. With sex, the Law is almost inflexible today. As long as a penis enters a vagina, that is adultery and divorce laws apply. My argument agrees that if intentions were considered, then "adultery" may perhaps be PIV + emotional attachment.

  • If you think like in the description, that is the way human (includig primitiv ancestors) give the semnification of sex. Sex is diferent for each creature on the planet. Evry animal do sex in a specifical way.
    Sharks go gangbang, the strongest get to let the girl pregnet.
    Tigers do it one week in a yare, whit a diferent if they lose theyr kids
    Lions do harem, more girl need to serv 1 or 2 lions
    Man/human, do it evry time and chois when to have a kid, both of them hate to let the partener go to somebody else
    Pinguins, they do it only whit one partener, if that partener die or will no longer be togeder they will become forever along, not having a girl ever again.
    Sooo, this conception of sex is give by our feelings and belives to be the best way to reproduce, ww humans ar a selective species of animals, we gona look for the beautiful and the strongest partener and don't let the weak link of our species to procreate/have sex. Cheating for us it meen betrayal/lie and a weak partener.
    This conception from you're text is just a diferent way to make sex, but i don't know any animal that have this life stile. Is your woman or him or you're man or her.

Most Helpful Girls

  • "Cheating" is going behind your partner's back and having romantic or sexual relations of any sort. This is a fact. A one time meaningless sex act is that.

  • I have to say not cheating until marriage maybe. It's a natural desire our body's were not meant to only have sex with one guy or girl

    • You are really confusedginger

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  • Yeah I like philosophy and understand were you are coming from in a sense that it can be meaningless therefore it should be irrelevant. But its not so much the action I find but the betrayal on the partner which even if it was meaningless its the action of cheating itself which may make the partner feel hurt and that they are not enough for you. It then could lead to muddying of waters as well because lets say cheating was meaningless then therefore that could mean that you could cheat how many times that you want to which then destroys the point of being in a relationship to begin with in my opinion as that argument could then be used for the relationship which you are cheating towards which could also be viewed as meaningless since you are cheating. I do like how you think however as that's sort of outside the box thinking which I really like and I love answering these types of questions! :)

  • One's partner has no way to confirm that there was no emotional intimacy involved. The concept of exclusivity takes that into account.

  • It is cheating because there is usually a mutual agreement, when getting in a relationship, that it's going to be monogamous and the people involved will only sleep with each other. Having sex with someone else not only puts your partner at risk of contracting STDs they weren't aware of, but also is getting something very intimate, something meant for the partner, from someone else. Knowing that someone else was inside your woman while her heart supposedly belonged to you, or that your man's penis was inside another woman while his heart supposedly belonged to you, that's just horrible. That embrace is for the partner and for the partner only. If you want to make a different agreement (open relationship, or anything of the like), then you need to tell your partner, and if they're not OK with it, they should be able to walk away and not believe in you blindly when you stopped being the person they fell in love with

  • unless its consensual, having sex behind your partners back is cheating

  • It is cheating

  • If you give consent, then it isn't cheating
    However, if it is not with consent is cheating because it is without consent. When you enter a relationship, you are committing to that person sexually, unless you both agree to have an open or different natured relationship. There is trust that both of you will be faithful and committed, otherwise, why be with each other?
    Having sex with someone else without the consent of your partner is a betrayal of trust, and sharing a moment of passion, intimacy, and pleasure with a person that isn't your partner, which you should not be doing.

    If that isn't cheating, then what is cheating to you?

  • You can't isolate actions.

    • @_soarer You can't and I can't, but WOMEN can.

    • @KrakenAttackin maybe they can rationalize sin in their mind But they will have to answer to God eventually.

  • Well, to answer this to each his own.
    Meaning if you are cool with multiple partners and you partnrs are chill too then I wouldn't call it cheating.

    If one of the partners has an issue then it is cheating.

    Like Cuckolds husband lets his wife have sex with multiple partners. And wife letting it same for husband then it wouldn't be.

  • It's about being forthcoming with what you want and expressing it with your S/O. If it's agreed by both that it's ok the fuck upon to content as long as the other knows the whole truth. it's like an open marriage.

  • Definitly is cheating. Any physical contact outside the relationship is cheating.

  • I have known girls who believe that taking a dick in their ass is not cheating.

    I have known girls who think that if a guy doesn't cum inside of them it isn't cheating.

    I have known a TON of girls who think giving a blowjob is not cheating.

    • Sounds pretty convenient to me

    • Yeah that sounds very convenient. Excuses excuses. Lol

    • @RemoErdosain This is the classic duality of women. Women can maintain two completely different value systems and believe in both of them, switching back and forth at will. This is how the total whore who has a baby now goes on FB and gives advice she would never take.

  • I see where you're coming from. I have studied cheating for a while now and have different views on it than most.
    Look at it this way: when you're in a relationship, exclusivity is agreed upon. Sure you can deviate from it, but it is discussed and agreed upon before it happens.
    Lastly, if you came home and found your SO plowing someone else behind your back, you'd feel hurt, betrayed... cheated upon. They can say it's lustful, one time and meaningless... but that's not going to change how you feel when some stranger has their junk in your SO mouth.

  • yes, and of course it is

  • Well to that line of thinking I would say that I just don't think it matters. The part that I would take issue with is the sex with people that aren't me or someone I gave permission for. Doesn't matter if we call it cheating or not, *that* is the part that bothers me.

  • You are shizophrenic.

    • You don’t even know what schizophrenia is, moron.

  • Yeah lustful sex can be meaningless to the opposite party involved and the supposed spouse of the person. But the person being cheated on is going to feel the brunt of that decision. The person cheated on is going to feel it big time. Sex is quite a powerful way to bond with someone in my opinion. But we live in a day in age where everything's almost technically shallow, superficial and casual.

    If you're asking the users on this site about if sex is cheating, you got another thing coming. If some situation like that were to happen to you and you feel hurt, then there's your answer: you're not going to be alright with it and you sure as hell will not tolerate it. There can also be the possibility that you will not feel a thing. Then my conclusion to that will be that you never cared if your partner cheated because you had not cared about being with them in the first place.

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