Does having sex with a guy before entering a relationship cause him to lose respect for/interest in you?

I'm curious to know if having sex with a guy before formally entering a relationship will cause him to no longer desire a relationship. Is it normal to have sex before becoming exclusive with someone?
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  • Not really, it has more to do with the guys actual intensions. If the guy is with you to just get sex from you then he may whisper sweet things into your ear and even fake some emotions until he gets the sex he is looking for. Then he is out until he comes back for more sex.

    But a guy who actually intends to have a committed relationship and honestly wants to build trust and intimacy will want to wait on sex until he gets to know you and can make love which involves real emotions. While that guy is likely to stick around even if you have sex before entering a committed relationship, you do run the risk of scaring him off depending on his morals and values.

    So as with anything in dating there is no clear cut answer and you sometimes have to rely on what your gut is telling you. What kind of relationship do you want? Would you rather be casual and base it on sex or rather it be exclusive and based on love?

  • It depends. Here's a My Take I wrote on the subject. Feedback is appreciated and solicited.

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  • I think yes.

    This is because sex in itself is just a mechanical act of thrusting a penis in a vagina until one (usually the guy) orgasms.

    When the couple is not familiar with each other, then sex is just that and usually the guy will feel that they are "sexually incompatible" and break off.

    But if say they know each other well and have certain degree of trust and affection, sex may reinforce that feeling and they may feel that they are "making love" and enjoy the session.

    Chances are, they will then feel that they are "sexually compatible" and form a more committed relationship.

    Hence, my Opinion is, wait until at least there is commitment of some sort, then have sex.

  • It can.

  • Not really. If you know how to use your body as a weapon. You can mould him down to the molecule if you work with him.

  • Yes it is normal he will only lose interest if he didn't like the sex

  • Sometimes.

  • Nah... my ex gave me head before we entered into a relationship... honestly if she hadn't done that then we'd never have had a relationship as I was utterly oblivious to her flirting

  • It depends on the guy I personally don't want to date someone if we are not physically, mentally, and sexualy compatible at least to some degree. There's nothing worse than feeling like you wasted time dating someone to find out you weren't compatible

  • Girls are the keepers of sex.
    Guys are the keepers of commitment.
    Don't be giving up yours 'till you get at least a little of his.

  • If i had sex with a girl when we are not in a relationship, there would be no relationship.

  • If a relationship is what you want get into it before fucking him

  • If a guy likes you from his heart he likes you even with no sex from you. Love isn't about sexual activity

  • It would for me if we are already dating

  • for lots of men, yes

  • Depends on the person

  • I think so

  • Not a relationship per say, just if you put out quickly.
    We know we aren’t special enough to be the only guy you do that with, so we know you likely fuck rando male and it lowers your quality.

  • I wouldn’t lose interest as long as I was attracted to her unless the sex was really bad

  • No. If he likes you, he likes you. Sex doesn't matter one way or the other. If anything, it just accelerates things. The real problem is when you've had sex with guys that aren't me. *That* is where respect is lost.