Sleeping with your ex?

[Anonymous]

Have you done it? why? did you have feeling or was it just sex?

I broke up with my boyfriend few months ago because I felt more connected to other men than to him, I guess mostly because he is not very good at communication and I tbh I don't find him super attractive (but I never cheated with them!). But I love sleeping with him, and I really want him in my life as a friend (possibly with benefits 😏). We've been together for 3 years & just started sleeping together and it feels great. But I also admit it kinda confuses me. I want to keep doing it but I don't want to ruin our friendship, if we can have one.

The problem is he never really tells me how he feels or what he thinks, he usually just gets like defensive and agrees with whatever I say if I try to confront him with his feelings. And I've also told him I'm open to get back together if things change and we get better communication and chemistry, but that I see us as singles even though we're sleeping together. And he agrees we're singles plus says he doesn't think he wants to get back together. He's the one that initiated the sex. he also randomly said he wanted to bang someone he saw on TV...

I'm not sure where I'm going with this. I guess I'm coming here because I'm not sure what to expect and I can't read him at all. We hang out like friends, we're not touchy or anything except when having sex. I know I have other options, and I've been asked out by other guys quite a a lot already. But for now I only want to have sex with him, but maybe still date the other guys and see how I feel.

Is sex a bad idea? Anyone else had a similar situation? When he says I can date others does he mean it or will he get upset?

I know none of you will be able to tell me what's going on in his head but I'd appreciate your thoughts anyway.

If I wasn't open for whatever happens (i think i could catch feelings for him if things change but i don't have them now) i wouldn't keep sleeping with him but for now i really want to.

[All4ur_pleazure]

Yeah I’ll admit I slept with my ex. We remained friends after the breakup. About two months after we broke up we going ourselves at s mutual friends party for their new house. We were both were single, drinks were flowing and we were having a good time. We ended up in a dark corner of the property joking about the two month dry spell we were both going through. She got closer to me while talking about how she’s been abusing her clit with her fingers. I turned to her and put my hand up her dress and started rubbing her clit and next thing you know we’re going at it. Afterwards there was some regret and silence as we walked back to the party. We also didn’t talk much more throughout the rest of the night except for me telling her that she had cum running down her leg (she was to drunk to notice). A week goes by and I don’t hear much from her until she sent me a text with a pic of her pussy and her vibrator saying it’s not enough. And yes I went over and helped her out. We were comfortable with each other and horny but we knew that we didn’t want to be together. So we laid out some rules mainly that it was purely sex and that’s it nothing more. It lasted a little over 2 years. And we didn’t have any problems. I seriously think we were better as friends with benefits than we were as boyfriend and girlfriend.

[Asker]

thanks for the details 😂 i feel something similar with my ex, i just don't know what he thinks because he won't ever say he will just agree 🙄 but anyhow i guess rules are a good idea, any advice? did you date others? or were you just in a friends with benefits relationship? and did it end well?

[All4ur_pleazure]

Setting the rules all depends on what you and him want to get out of it... and what you want to avoid. My ex and dated others during that time and if we were seeing someone we didn’t hook up. But mainly it was just friends with benefits type situation. And when things came to an end our relationship was still good. She even invited me to her wedding years later. No issues 👍

[AustinMan]

It sounds like he's not interested in changing. If that's the case, I feel like your time and energy would be much better spent on making a clean break and moving on.

[Asker]

suppose you're right. but i just want to have sex, and although I'm talking to and spending time with other guys I don't feel like doing it with anyone else at this point.

[AustinMan]

I get that. Trust me, there are other men out there that, given a chance to know you, will blow your skirt just as vertical. One way to vet men is to swap a few of each other's darker, kinkier fantasies.

[StarryCrossing]

I personally wouldn’t, because my ex was an asshole, and I don’t want anything to do with him anymore.

However, If I was single, I’d sleep with my current boyfriend If we ever broke up.

[Asker]

My ex definitely isn't an asshole. He still supports me and helps me, and hang out like friends 😁

[StarryCrossing]

Well yeah, If you’re on good terms with him then go for it. My current boyfriend gives good sex, and I feel addicted so yeah, if we ever broke up I’d hit him up for sex if I was single. :)

[Reamer]

Yes, we where both horny, 0 feelings angry hate sex

Sex is a bad idea if one of you wants to keep the relationship and if your worried about him getting upset he is a bad fck buddy, and you should just move on in my opinion

[Asker]

if you had sex regularly and it wasn't angry sex, but more like passionate, and she was seeing others at same time, would that feel ok? or get messy?

[Reamer]

For me I wouldn't of, I realy wanted nothing to do with her. Every guy is different, just dont keep secrets and if he can't handle it then move on

[Alexandrubaschet08]

I go back for 2 days to an ex 4 month ago, i never stop having feelings for her and i still want to get togeder if life will accept that. If feel so good, so calming, evrething whas like a dream.

[CikaZivan]

I had an ex in my house living with me for a month, it's not a big deal.

[AcidT0y]

Yeah, i was just horney and drunk. It's not a big deal.