Boyfriend jerks off to normal girls not famous, lied, what should I do?

[rhcp568]

boyfriend jerks off to random girls

boys, is this normal?

Hi I am a female (17). My boyfriend is a male (18). So long story short my boyfriend admitted to jerking off often to random girls on social media (none over 5,000 followers but no girls we actually know.) I don’t have a problem with him watching porn but I found this weird and it made me feel like I am not good or pretty enough. Later after I said it hurt my feelings he sent me photos crying and stuff, but i don’t know what i should do. I like him but I wanted to know from guys if this behavior is normal or not. (also he hid the fact he jerks off for a while and lied about it until a couple days ago. he also said he always feels horrible jerking off to other girls.) when confronted he normally jerks off 5 times a week and does not jerk off to porn stars because he finds it weird because rhey are much older then him. he also said he would stop jerking off to random girls for me and stop watching porn. i am seeing him later today to “talk” and i dont know what to do.

So two parts I guess—-

is what he does normal and what do you think I should do?

TL; DR: my boyfriend jerks off to random girls who are not famous and hid it from me. is this normal?

[SueShe]

I actually pity you to be confronted with this phenomenon while in a relation.

Body manipulations while being in a relation is nothing more than emotional cheating. That is about par with physical cheating because it is an indicator that you, as a partner, are not satisfying the needs of the offender. That indicates that he favors a substitute to your physical presence that he finds not enticing enough to give up on his manipulations.

It might look innocent but those body manipulations are also as sad fact that the person performing those lewd manipulations has a psychological issue but fails to recognize and to want to address them.

In your case, I would seriously reconsider my relation with that guy. Is it really what you want? To be humiliated, demeaned and your self esteem to be trampled, flouted and mocked? To know (and accept) that you will always be second in a relation where he prioritizes his addiction over you?

Time to move on and to find a serious guy that puts you first before his addiction.

[Paris13]

I find it Disrespectful when He is in a Relationship with you. xx

[Paris13]

Thanks, Gag. xx

[AmandaYVR]

It's very common, especially for young and sexually-charged guys. It's just an outlet, a way to soothe themselves. The source doesn't matter all that much, it's the act that they are sort of addicted to. It's easier and more enjoyable than other efforts, like exercise, meditating, whatever.

I know you're hurt by it, but it's nothing to worry about. If he was having intimate conversations, and sending media back and forth, that would be another story, but this... it's fine. Just cut him some slack.

Just tell him, "Well just so you know, I'd rather it be with me. So I am here for you, when you get the urge. But I also understand that it's a hormonal thing, and I'm not goona' make you feel bad about it, 'cause I know you care about me, are with me."

[Buffboy2000]

He jerks off only five times a week, I admire his restraint. What I find unusual is the fact that he admitted anything about it to you, most guys simply do not talk about things like Masturbation, especially to their girlfriends. Sounds like you caught him, or at least found his browser history.

Anyway, it is not uncommon for a guy to masturbate to the thoughts of different women, girls at school, girls on the internet, girls he works with, ex-girlfriends, even family members, it is whatever tickles his fancy at the time. No, he is not cheating on you, if he was actually sleeping with any of those girls then it would be cheating. Just because he does it does not mean he feels for you any less.

[bubbakong2006]

He’s young and horns it’s normal why don’t you try jerking him off so they can watch you doing it for him he’s to shy to bring it up to you you might actually get turned on by it or get naked and ask him to jerk off to you

[JosyJosy]

I think it's normal. Just porn, lots of couple actually do this. Only think I find hard to believe is the 'always feels horrible jerking off to other girls' I don't buy that at all.

[Benja35]

Guys jerk off. I wouldn’t take it personal

[cutestranger]

My boyfriend is a model and he get semi nude and nude shoot pics from other model frnds. i was angry at him when i saw it. I told him he can do his work but make sure that he hides them so i dont come across them.

[horndog112]

You just need to start an OF and see what he says lol

[Wunjo1]

Nothing just watch him and talk dirty

[Anonymous]

Yes its normal.
We are visually stimulated. Real females are attractive.
Social media is a plethora of slutty females.

[rhcp568]

i get it but for example. he stalked a girls tiktok to find her insta then requested and stayed followed. she is my age (highschool) and not famous. it feels more personal then an instagram model persay.

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah a “real” girl is sexier than a model or porn star. Finding their personal pics is much more fun. I have even hone as far as hacking their email/apple accounts and getting nudes.

[Buffboy2000]

There is, simply, an added level of excitement when it comes to masturbating to pictures of people you know, versus famous people.