My boyfriend did something I’m really mad about. I don’t know if I’m overreacting/overthinking or not?

[Anonymous]

We’re at my beach house w my family and my boyfriend (3 years) and I decided to go take a stroll through the beach before sun down. The huge cloud of the Sahara Dust storm is currently covering our island, so it was very foggy and we were both wearing our masks. The intention of the “walk” was to be able to have a moment of lone time and masturbate together cuz (we don’t have condoms so) we can’t exactly do that in my house. I was mad because as we were walking we got into an argument, and so I was being silent. I went into a bush to “explore” and he went in behind me with his pants down (goods showing) and I told him to have a good time doing that by just looking at me (meaning I wasn’t helping him) and he just put his pants up and took off. I saw him walking off and I thought he was gonna straight up leave me (we were kind of far) and there was only beach and nature. He didn’t leave but he walked pretty far away and sat down on the shore. I got really pissed cuz how far he left away from me. To be fair he could always see me from where he was, but still? I walked far the opposite way “testing” to see if he followed. He was slowly following but still keeping the same distance between us. On one part I just did a turn towards the woods, so he couldn’t see me, and I found myself with two unknown grown men. I immediately turned the opposite way and they laughed telling me not to be scared that they weren’t gonna do anything to me. I just fake smiled and walked away. When I went back to where my boyfriend could see me he was running towards where I was (apparently he got spooked when he saw I was out of his sight) and then he just kept close behind me after without saying anything. After that we just walked back to the house still in distance. I know he didn’t exactly leave me alone at any moment, but I was still super mad about the distance he put between us in the first place. I know he was still keeping an eye on me from afar but I don't know, I felt so left behind.

[SpiritBear]

You were mad at eachother. He wanted to distance himself from you, most likely so he wouldn't say something he didn't mean in the heat of the moment. He was upset, you were upset. What you should do is forgive him. He wanted to show you how upset he was with that distance. Maybe he secretly hoped you would come to him and talk about it. Relationships have their ups and downs all the time. Don't let this get in the way of your relationship. I recommend you kiss and make up.

-TLDR yes, you're overreacting and overthinking it. What he didn't mean he didn't like you, he was just mad.

[Anonymous]

He shouldn't have gotten mad that you wouldn't touch him, that was wrong. But choosing to put distance from him and you isn't a problem, the reason he did it was.

[Asker]

I don’t really know if he got mad because I didn’t want to do that, or because of the way I let him know I wasn’t going to do that. I realize now the way I said “i hope you’re planning to do that yourself” might’ve been rude? I don't know maybe I’m wrong.

[Opinion Owner]

If he walked away immediately after you said that then that's why he did it. Even i get a little grumpy when I'm told no lol. But no matter how rude your no is, if he like you, he shouldn't storm away. The best thing to do is to wait until you want to, otherwise he doesn't deserve your help.

[Asker]

Well we’ve been together for 3 years now. We’ve done all that before and I know he loves me because he’s really proves it to me. We were planning to do that but the circumstances changed when we had the argument beforehand so yeah...

[Neko911]

Yeah that's on you. You decided to play the angry girlfriend and he lile a smart man decided to not out up with that shit. Smart on his part

[KrakenAttackin]

This is 100% on you. You are the "shit testing" bitch and he called your bluff. Again, this is on you.

[Asker]

Ok I get it but why are you so rude about it? Damn...