Is it bad to dump a guy because he doesn't satisfy me in bed?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend doesn't satisfy me sexually. He has a small dick and ungroomed.

[oldawg]

Yes and no what I have seen is there is more to a lasting relationship than sex but it sure does help, what I mean is I know that I don't make long lasting relationship material but I have been with a few married women who are bored with their other half and they came to me and I would put a smile on their faces among other things and what I liked about it at the time is getting laid then she is gone. But your relationship is what you want it to be because it takes the 2 of you but when your young go out and enjoy yourself because life is to short so some guys will make you happy in bed and some won't but you might get lucky and find both

[Jamie05rhs]

No, not really. If he isn't doing it for you, he isn't doing it for you. You have every right to move on. He's the one who took that risk by having sex with you before getting a commitment from you. That was an error on his part. (And this works both ways, by the way; everyone knows that.) I would never have sex with someone if they hadn't fallen in love with me yet.

(But as far as the grooming goes, that can be easily fixed. So that's not something I would worry about if it was separated from the broader picture of the entire situation.)

[Jamie05rhs]

Thanks for the MHO.

[AustinMan]

Does he have any significant redeeming qualities?

[Asker]

well he has a history of cheating. But he is nice.

[AustinMan]

Let's review the bidding. He's an historic cheater, has teeny weeny disease, and is sexually selfish but he's nice. The decision seems pretty clear to me. What about you?

[Asker]

dump because I wouldn't want to be with a guy with cheating history and can't even satisfy me in bed. I want a loyal and a guy who can satisfy me in bed. Well at least I didn't cheat on him.

[AustinMan]

I knew you'd make the right decision. By the way, do you know where the expression "review the bidding' comes from?

[Asker]

Uh no? Where it comes from?

[AustinMan]

It's an expression from a card game called bridge, or more correctly contract bridge. In bridge, the four players play as two sets of partners. Each partnership tries to combine their resources to win the hand. They do that through a system of bidding which may extend for several rounds of the table. If a player desires, they may at any time ask for a review, or replay, of the bids. Hence the term. I enjoy the game. You might as well.

[Asker]

interesting :) I gotta use it now

[blank_expression]

Actually, I had a gal with a really short vag, I was happy she left. NO, seek compatibility.

[summiter]

It is not bad, good sex is important as part of a relationship. Even if he has a small dick that is not his fault. He could make up for that by giving you some good oral orgasms... does he? Ungroomed is not excuse for him, tell him to clean up his act. How often do you have sex with him?

[integrale77]

It's a bit shallow but if the only thing about him that has any interest is his dick then your better leaving him so he can find someone better.

[Asker]

Or I can find someone better lol. At least I didn't cheat on him.

[boredguy01]

It's not wrong because sex is an important part of a relationship but if everything else is good in your relationship you could see if he'd be willing to let you have sex with someone else to satisfy you.

[Freddy78361]

Lose him. You need to take care of your needs first.
Bonus points if you tell him why and you make him cry.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

If your relationship is good outside of the bedroom, then perhaps you could save it by having an open relationship?

I slept with a married lady who had this problem, and they brought me in for that reason alone. She still got him off, but he was literally one inch and lasted less than a minute. She still loved him, and it was very clear, but she needed more so that was my job. I did my job.

[Avicenna]

You should try to work with him. See if the right positions for his size satisfy you.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Not bad.

[Dargil]

If that's important to you, no it's not.

[Apope16]

No. sex is one of the most important aspects of a romantic relationship. That is fundamentally one of the important reasons why you should dump him. The only exception would be if he DID satisfying you to start out with and somehow you lost satisfaction over time. Thats what happens in many relationships and there you would need to find out why and maybe see a therapist to explore how to get that feeling back.

[justsimpleguy]

In my opinion no because it shows you don't really love him and only interested in sex.

[Drumlin2001]

Better to end it then let it fester and bother you.
But size isn't everything amd he can learn different things to satisfy you, and he can learn to groom himself

[pantsuhunter]

Zoot him otherwise your wasting both your time

[Browneye57]

Bad? No. It's the ENTIRE purpose of dating in the first place - in order to make a determination as to compatibilty, l whether they are worthy.

My first wife thought cooking cleaning and fucking were three cities in china. She's history. LOL

[MannMitAntworten]

No. What are you waiting for?

[magiusX26]

its ok. just dont say "small dick" is why

[genericname85]

i would say you should have an interest in teaching your partner or figuring out a workaround for physical flaws. but if that doesn't work out, i think that's fair. sucks for both but sexual satisfaction is important.

[AmeerX]

It is bad

[Ianto]

If he can't satisfy you you will wind up getting someone else to do it. You have to decide if you want to be the woman that cheats or not.

I suggest it is far kinder to be brutally honest about why you are dumping him. It stops him hoping you might change your mind, and gives him the option of working on the things he can change for his future relationships.