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Why does my boyfriend need to finish him self?

When we have sex it looks like he enjoys it but it takes forever for him to cum sometimes he can't even cum he has to take it out and wank and like the other day he suggested we but a dirty film on and i just said yes and he came right away and that made me feel so bad about my self cuz i feel like he isn't attractive to me or that im just not good enough for him. I have talked to him about it and he just says that his dick doesn't work like is that a thing?
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  • My go to first thought on reading that is that he's been watching too much porn, and may have addiction issues. It's becoming more and more common as porn becomes more 'shocking' then normal sex with real people is seen as very 'vanilla' - NONE of this is anything to do with you, or anything you are doing wrong.
    The only other POSSIBLE thing may be condoms? PLEASE always practice safe sex - I'm NOT saying don't use one, just make sure if he is using one, it's not like a winter duvet! they really do decrease the sensitivity. Tell him you want to try a 5 day sex challenge - no sex, no masturbation nothing other than kissing and hugging from Sunday to Saturday. On Saturday, go for it. If he's not blown his load ( a big load) then he's been cheating and has been wanking looking at porn. You'll be able to tell by how quickly he comes, and by how much. It's NOT you!

  • Sorry i know this is hard to admit and a lot of ladies will try to say it goes back to normal but your pussy is loose. And if dudes out there tell you it goes back to its original tightness theyre lying. Once youve been fucked by a bigger dick it usually isn't the same.

    • But i haven't been fucked by a big big dick

    • He did mention that it gets looser by time :/

    • You know big when you see it. And big big? What does that even mean

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  • you can be very attractive and this can still happen. I had many good sexual relationships but a quick cum dump could always be done with slamming the hand as it can be tighter ( if you are careful) with mr happy. Now i personaly like the touching and kissing and the like not just the orgasm

  • well couple be a bunch of reasons, he's not a sexually intimate person, porn triggers him mentally, his hand is softer than your pussy, and the list can go on

    I doubt it's that he's not attracted to you, unless you know you're ugly, but you gotta look at the rest of the relationship, if sex is the only thing wrong then I doubt that's the reason

  • With or without a condom? Can make a big difference for some guys

  • He might masturbate pretty rough, and that desensitizes him for sex. When a woman's body stimulates a penis, she's doing it with a gentle brushing, stroking pressure. Circumcised guys who don't masturbate with lube sometimes over stimulate themselves, which makes them less sensitive.

  • lmao I never understood that and probably why I never cared for porn. They pull out of the woman only to stand there pulling themselves.

    Masturbation never worked for me because
    I could never convince myself that my hand
    was a woman's vagina, not watching people screwing on video. Does nothing but turn me
    off. Like as to having no money for food, yet
    going to a busy restaurant and staring at
    other people dining on things I can only
    dream of someday having. Ludicrous😂

  • You should learn how to be his personal slut. mauy be that will help

  • Maybe your technique doesn't do it for him

  • you're a turn off

    • And what can i do to change that?

    • you're 31 fuckin years old. learn to have sex. watch porn, get some gang bang. do something.

    • Im 18...

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  • People are different. I finish myself usually too but that’s because I usually use the pullout and don’t really trust the girl if she’s on the pill. I could finish either way but I do kinda like pulling out to just finish all over…..

  • Sweetie use yoni pearls it will rejuvenate your vagina and make it tight again.

  • It probably has to do with his level of mental stimulation. You agreeing to put on porn seemed to be enough of a turn on to push him over the edge. I would just explore ways that you both can get him more mentally turned on during and prior to sex

    • But if he needs something more or different naked girls doesn't that mean im not attractive to himb

  • But if he is don't cum make pain for penis.

  • Just my opinion here but it sounds like he uses porn regularly to masturbate to. Porn addiction can cause him to have trouble becoming aroused naturally. It becomes a stimulus he’s dependent on and replaces normal sexuality.

  • OMG I CAN'T BELIEVE EVERYONE IS PUTTING THIS ON YOU. HE WATCHES PORN AND MASTURBATES OFTEN.. HIS COCK IS USED TO CUMMING THIS WAY SO HE can't COME TO JUST SEX WITH YOU. TELL HIM NOT TO MASTURBATE FOR A WEEK AND WATCH THE DIFFERENCE!!

  • Ouch. That’s a tough one. Maybe he can only ejaculate from masturbation.

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