Was my dad being inappropriate with me?

[Anonymous]

I feel kinda weird asking this, but I'd like to get some other opinions.

My dad used to smack my butt, which I know might be normal for parents to do to a little kid, but he only stopped doing it around the time I was 18 about three years ago. It never seemed sexual or anything like that, just more playful than anything, but it still made me feel a little uncomfortable. I never said anything about it though in fear of making it more awkward. He never did anything else like that when I was younger, as far as I know.

Anyways, it somehow came up in conversation with a friend of mine and she said that he was basically molesting me which... I don't know, seems a little far-fetched to me. I don't know if maybe I'm just trying to justify it though, which is why I'd like some more opinions.

Sorry, I know this isn't the best place to probably ask this but I prefer the anon feature with this one. Thanks for any advice.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I'm the only guy with brains on this question to give you a proper answer in detail
nope your dad was not molesting you but no father should smack his 21-year-old
daughter on her behind and you need to come out and tell him that it bothers you
say go get mom and do that to her or if you have a step-mom tell him to do it to her
I don't know your situation but I would never smack a daughter on the backside
no matter what age she is, now guys who have girlfriends might pat her on the
bum but in again it's to be playful, not sexual to me cause I just don't them things
but I would do that to a girl who was a 21-year-old woman who was a daughter
of a woman, for example, I was dating cause that's just not right at all :) Best
Wishes on this matter :) :)

[simonqq]

Well if it's uncomfortable you definitely should speak up and not let it continue. I don't know what to call it but if it's uncomfortable then it's obviously not right. However if you don't see it as anything big I think it's definitely unnecessary to make it bigger than it is. It's really up to you how you feel about it. He maybe realized it was weird too and stopped since then.

I don't know but I think you should feel for yourself and not have your friend decide for you.

[BlckGrl]

My mom taps me on the butt it's something we do I never seen it as molestation. You should talk to your dad and tell him how it made you feel

[QooLipBite]

Your friend is over-projecting her self-victimizing nature and sexualizing your relationship with your dad. That’s just plain wrong and disgusting, she has no right to ruin your childhood like that. Even if she meant well, her bold statements can affect people.

Don’t worry, you’re good.

If you told him to stop and he carried on, it’d be a different story

[WadeDanielSmith2]

that's not molestation. Men do that to women all the time, some women like it and some women hate it. He's just playing around.

[sensible27]

No it wasn't.

[sensible27]

*probably.

[chriscdi]

nah doesn't sound like there was any sexual intentions behind it, they do this in football and guys do it to guys in football, usually sexual ass slaps are followed by a grab, if there was no grab then i dont think it was intentionally a lusty ass slap.

[AdithyaR]

Well it does seem pretty harmless but it depends on how you felt. Since you were uncomfortable with it, he should have stopped.
It's not molestation or anything but it is still inappropriate. You should have a talk with your dad about how it made you feel uncomfortable.

[AmeerX]

Your friend is crazy. Smacking in general is wrong though

[Juxtapose]

*plays a bango*'

[Shamalien]

smacking your daughters but is not molestation, not at all. It hurts less than getting hit anywhere else, that's why parents do it.

That being said, it's not a very good thing to do either. Like especially to younger children, it teaches them very bad lessons, you're basically saying 'might makes right, words are for weaklings'

deffs not molestation though

[bklynbadboy1]

I dont think he meant anything by it how did he do it was it a pat or a grab

[bklynbadboy1]

In box me if your uncomfortable talkin about it in a public forum

[Asker]

Just a pat

[bklynbadboy1]

In box me

[letmebehidden]

its depends on your dads and your relationship if its very very close then u shouldn't have been asking question. bt u are so it depends on you if he is doing it kidding way or to show love its normal dont worry

[OddBeMe]

If the butt smacking was it, I’d say it’s probably just wrong playfulness. Still bad but nothing behind it.

[Anonymous]

Spanking isn’t molesting unless maybe your pants were down exposing your butt then I would be concerned

[Anonymous]

I've never heard that. If this is true he never grew up or just wrong for doing that to you. Your friend is right though. But my mom slapped my ass many times after i came back from the gym and my ass was really fat from lunges and squats. Dads doing this to their daughter just gives it a different look.

[Anonymous]

Your friend is an idiot with false victim mentality. You dad was just being a dad and she needs to fuck off trying to ruin a good relationship with your dad because of her perverted need to make things sexual.

[Anonymous]

No.
Just, no.
That's not molestation. Molestation is the action of pestering or harassing someone in an aggressive or persistent manner. That doesn't sound like that at all to me.

[Anonymous]

If I had children I'd treat them like little kids. I don't care if they're 40 years old, I'd still smack their butts. If your father is being pervy it should be obvious from his general behavior. If an occasional butt smack is all he does, you don't need to worry.