Im a 18 year old girl with severe social anxiety. Im an virgin. how do I lose my virginity?

[Ohno100]

As the title said im a girl, 18 years old and still a virgin. Im not just a virgin but an incel -ive never kissed anyone, or done anything sexual or romantic. I've never had an boyfriend.

I have severe social anxiety and can't barely talk to people. I have no friends and i dont know anyone at school.

I want to get an boyfriend and lose my virginity, but with my social anxiety i think its impossible.

What should i do?

[Shamalien]

So many young people trapped in this mindset... let's just be clear about some things.

1. Peer pressure is too real. You don't need to lose your virginity at any certain time, and you definitely should not be looking at losing your virginity as some sort of 'goal'. That is a very toxic mindset that you most likely got from your friends / pop culture.

2. The best way for a girl to lose her virginity is to the man she will be with forever, best to know the person better than you know yourself before even considering getting to such an intimate level with them. Then you can be sure they are the right one. Having sex with multiple partners is not something to be proud of, it's not positive experience, it generally ends in serious emotional fallout which people carry with them for life, and which negatively, not positively, but NEGATIVELY affects their future relationships.

3. There are so many men that are just as anxious as you. I don't know about you, but for me, being around someone as anxious as I am makes me less anxious. A simple smile and a glance followed by a blush is enough to get the attention of most dudes, that's all you need to do to start if you don't wanna be more forward than that. Just please, don't go chasing sex, don't be like the millions of goofy girls before you (most of who are still unwilling to admit their mistake to this day) and throw away your most precious gift.

Yes, a woman's virginity is her most valuable possession, for most women, it will be the most valuable thing they ever own. No, I'm not religious. No, I'm not an old man, I'm actually 25. Please g@ggers stop hating on me for trying to help people better navigate this fkd up life.

Most people on g@g: Lie to people all day so that they can feel better about their shitty mistakes.

Me: Admit my mistakes, try to help others learn from them without having to make them.

[Tstrbrainer]

I would love to help you out😉😉😉😉.
I'm just in the same situation as you, but I don't identify myself as a person with severe social anxiety.

It's okay to be a virgin even if you are 100 years old.

If you are having big problem with socialising, you should consult a psychologist.
You should push yourself out of your shell. You should talk to persons, you should come forward to present debates and speeches , participate more in activities, in short, be with people and things will change.
It would be difficult at first, but things will gradually change and you will find friends and maybe even a boyfriend in the process 🙂.

But be careful, just don't open up too much that people may take advantage of you.

All the best

[Nxtawm]

I don't think you should be rushing to lose your virginity, you're still young. I'm pretty much the same age as you and similar situation, never kissed or had sex. But like it's ok to be a virgin, things will happen when they do.

I mean if you rlly want to lose your viginity then I don't know join tinder or something. Speaking through text may help with your social anxiety and tinder is known for hookups.

Still i recommend you just work on overcoming your social anxiety instead of worrying over your viginity

[Anonymous]

If you identify as an incel; why not join their community? Most of them are guys so you will have your pick of the litter.

[BeenThereLovedIt]

And a guaranteed stage-5 clinger :(

[integrale77]

One way is to take up a hobby that gets you out preferably one where you can meet some guys that way you have a subject to converse about that way breaking the ice is easier.

[kencu67]

Losing your virginity for the sake of losing your virginity is that mistake you would regret later. It won't cure your social anxiety but having sex and regret it can make it even worse. As someone else said, develop yourself, learn new skills, make good decisions about your future (career, education, finances etc.).

[abc3643]

You first lose your social anxiety it's not hard.

[MrTuxedo]

It's important for you to distinguish whether you have social anxiety that only lasts for a while, or you have a social anxiety disorder, which can be a permanent problem if not treated.

Either way, I think you should consider psychotherapy. Especially because you said it's severe.

[Kaneki05]

You will lose yours before me don't worry lol

[mlgjamz]

If you just try to get a normal amount of social interactions, you shouldn't even worry about that. Shit will just happen over time, and if your only goal is to be with anyone then you might end up with someone that isn't great for you

[FakeName123]

You should work first on your social anxiety and then worry about your cherry benig popped and not the other way around.

[Browneye57]

Start by growing up a little more. You're just not ready.

[AmeerX]

I am 27 and like you and not in any hurry to do that

[TheFlak38]

go get banged.

[Joe__Exotic]

You’ll have to get over your social anxiety.

[Daddy_henry]

Would love to help you with this problem.

[Twalli]

Online dating or find a social group. I found my girlfriend through a social group for people 18+. I can tell you how to find out if there is a group in your area, but I don't know if they're what you want.

[OddBeMe]

I have social anxiety. Therapy and possible meds help me. Also aversion therapy. I own a business and have to network constantly. I also performed live on stage as an actor and that helps too. After each endeavor I curl up in bed for a week.

But on the virgin part: don’t rush. I didn’t lose my v card until 20. Find a good boyfriend and the sex will happen.

[andy530]

Find someone online who will stick with you who you can talk to and eventually work up to loosing your virginity in person.

[Cnelson12345ceo]

If you make yourself look hot someone will definitely approach you, and whoeverr does there's no reason to be shy around him trust me

[primer678]

Do a random hook up. Or chat with guys online to get used to it

[Anonymous]

As a woman, it's not necessary for you to get this issue handled because nobody cares about a woman's confidence

[Anonymous]

Going out and having sex with social anxiety is only going to make the sex worse. You should take your time and get comfortable with someone before you get laid. Otherwise you'll just turn your social anxiety into sexual anxiety.