Should I just tell him to get lost?

[Anonymous]

I have a huge issue with losing weight. That's my fault. I'm 5 foot nothing and overweight. I've tried a million diet pills, starving myself, cutting out extremely fatty foods, wearing trash bags.. I give up. I dont need someone to tell me I'm fat I get that enough from myself and others.

This guy that's been trying to sleep with me for years and when I send him pictures he acts like I'm not good enough. I did really like him.. but I get that a lot.. I'm just sick of it. Should I just tell him to kick rocks and lose my number?

[SjE78]

first thing... diet pills very rarely work if at all... if that's your body type stop worrying cos that size looks amazing... and if anyone feels the need to put you down about the way you look, show them the door cos tbh they dont give a rats ass about you, and only more cared about their image...

the fact you're trying to do what you can shows that what they should be doing is being constructive, supporting you and helping you achieve what you set out to achieve, not compound the issue by bringing you down as that can actually have the complete opposite effect to what you are trying to do

if he can't be helpful then show him the door

stress can actually mess with your weight too as can a variety of other things, but the best way to achieve what you desire to do is take your time, do it too quick and it can have negative effects on health and mind, but gradual loss can actually be better for you, my last girlfriend was a pretty big woman around 5'2-5'3" and she found that eating pasta as high in carbs and plenty of activities actually lost her a lot of weight, not once was she told she was fat, nor that she should lose weight, she was trying.. so anyone who even attempted to tell her i reminded them of this as it seriously defeated the point and would trigger a low mood then potential comfort eating

not making a big deal about the weight and by showing her how much people cared whether she had weight to her or not... actually makes a world of difference

[Asker]

This seriously made me cry 🥺😔 thank you so much for being so considerate and supportive. I'm stressed out all the time.. I have problems with my stomach too.. I just haven't found anything that works for me. I literally hide my body because of how people treat me because of my extra weight. I wasn't always big. She has no idea how lucky she was to have someone like you 💙

[SjE78]

you're welcome and it doesn't take much to care, and i find that many problems can be solved with a little more thought and consideration. the problem could be something not diet related, IBS can bloat the stomach up and effect weight, problems with Thyroid can also mess with weight gain and loss, diabetes can also have an effect too. also stress can have a huge impact on gain adn loss too. you shouldn't hide, you have nothing to hide for, and people can be serious assholes tbh, they often shame people for any reason they choose but wonder why those people struggle, if they thought of why and what impact their attitude has on others they would know. tbh a lot of things can be explained but also out of your control, me personally i think if that is same body type as you then you dont have anything to worry about... but those who are more interested in putting you down, should have something to worry about... and that is losing someone they once considered precious... thank you, tbf we still talk even after she's moved on and remain friends... and has admitted that i was the only one who stood by her but the split was down to a miscarriage, ironically cos she wanted to lose weight and didn't realise she was pregnant. but i am certain you will be ok and with the right positive atmosphere and people around you, you'll be able to achieve what you set out to... just remember, you are trying so if anyone says otherwise... they are either blind or ignorant of what you are doing and who you are, and do not deserve your time... :) x

[Asker]

You make me feel like their is hope and I might be worth someone's time. I'm sorry she had a miscarriage, they're definitely not easy to go through. Thank you so much and you really are a gem. I wish more guys had that mindset.

[SjE78]

I'm glad and there is always hope, just please never give up... as while there is always another day there is always a chance and thank you, it was a shock as it would have been my fourth child and her first... and you are always welcome, the moment you have someone in your life who is willing to encourage you to follow your heart and that any bump in the road can be pass with a constructive approach, after all everyone can achieve so much even in times when things seem bleak and thanks again

[Anonymous]

How does he "act like you're not good enough" exactly? This is a bit confusing being he's been trying to get with you for years. Most guys wouldn't be like that I wouldn't think if they were really into you. I wouldn't be anyway. Are you sure it's not just your feelings, and not really what he thinks/feels? Especially if you are depressed at all or beating yourself up, you tend to think others feel what you're thinking, and it may not be true at all. But yeah, if he's saying or doing specific things to make you feel worse about your body, nobody needs that or wants it. Cut it out of your life. But you should also not put yourself down either. It's hard loosing weight, for all of us, and it's not YOUR fault necessarily. But if others are putting you down about it, you don't need to add to it yourself. That's not going to help you any. Only make you depressed, and if you're like most people, people tend to eat when they are depressed.

[Asker]

He used to ask for nudes all the time and say little things, he hardly asks for nudes and when he did last night his reply was your ass Is it's own zipcode. I said is that a good or bad thing and he sent me a bunch of dots and never replied. He was on facebook and everything.. I used to get called fat all the time by my ex it's not surprise. I just didn't think he was the type. I do tend to eat when I get depressed

[Opinion Owner]

Yeah that was a little inconsiderate. Makes me wonder why he'd ask for them in the first place? But it is disrespectful and you don't need that. At least you know this about him now I guess. Look at the bright side lol

[Asker]

I guess so.. thank you.

[Opinion Owner]

I'm sorry he turned out to be a different person than you thought he was though. Some people are good at that. Pretending to be something they're not.

[Asker]

Yeah, he definitely fooled me. Thank you

[AustinMan]

Absolutely. Then find a good therapist and drill down on why you stay the way you are. Then, if you want to, you'll be able to change.

[Asker]

A therapist? My doctor says I'm healthy and she's not worried about my weight but I definitely am. I'm just sick of getting no where so I give up

[AustinMan]

Physically you're healthy. I'm more worried about the condition of your self respect. It feels to me like you have an injured self esteem and that's where the therapist comes in.

[Asker]

Extremely... I've never had self esteem. When I got into my first serious relationship, he just killed it the rest of the way..

[AustinMan]

You don't have to live like this. Get some help to get yourself healed and back in the fight!

[AustinMan]

Cute figure. That booty looks like it need a spanking.

[Asker]

Thank you. I've been out of the fight mentally for years. Haha thanks. I definitely needed that

[AustinMan]

Glad to help. Godspeed!!

[QooLipBite]

You don’t deserve him, and don’t hate yourself for it

[Asker]

I dont want him now

[Matthew2222]

Hell yes you should tell him to get lost. You do not need to loose weight to find someone that finds you attractive as you are. Dump him and move on to a guy who is into the real you! Based on the example picture, I would say you are very attractive. Feel free to message me if you need to vent!

[Asker]

Thank you 💙 so much

[Matthew2222]

Your welcome, like I say, if you need to vent/chat, HMU

[Gavilar1]

If he is saying your fat and only wants sex, tell him to f off. Don't need bad vibes in your life. Only change yourself for yourself, no one else

[Asker]

Thank you ❤

[Gavilar1]

Your update has changed it a little. If that's yor body type then you ain't fat 😂😂 maybe a little curvy in places but no where near fat

[Asker]

That's almost my body to a T. I think my boobs are bigger. Thank you

[Gavilar1]

Yea so I wouldn't worry, that seems pretty normal as in body type, if the guy still thinks that way then toss him away

[Asker]

Thank you. 💜💚

[Shiome223]

Not lazy, you tried to go down in weight and thats dedication. Pro tip is to drink water, and do light exercise. Dont push yourself and dont rush it. I believe you can do it 👍

[Asker]

Thank you!

[boggboss]

Why pursue a ashore then get upset he is a ashore find better for yourself

[Asker]

I didn't think he was that bad until now. Thank you

[boggboss]

Maybe you should vet guys more then hun that your think a partner would call u fat to be fine is not good

[Asker]

My ex always did the same thing 😔 I'm honestly trying so hard not to cry right now. But thank you so much 💚

[boggboss]

This is what I mean you need to refocus your dial for what you want in a partner and stop going for guys that where not as bad as not as bad still may be shit

[Asker]

I just think I'm done with relationships again at least for a while. Thank you

[COMMODOREII]

Hell yeah!!

[Asker]

Thank you

[Tryach]

If he's that bad why have you bothered with him for years?

[Asker]

I liked him. Usually he's not that much of an asshole.

[Tryach]

You do like him it seems and he must like you. He may be teasing you about you're wait so you don't think he's a simp that will do anything you want? How over weight are you? It's ok to carry a few extra pounds and being obese.

[Asker]

I'm 195 at 5 foot tall. I carry my weight pretty well but I'm insecure enough. I'm trying to find a picture for an example

[Tryach]

Maybe he's worried about your health as 195 pounds for a 5ft female is pretty heavy. Not being harsh because losing weight is very hard. You don't have to be skinny but maybe aiming for a realistic weight to be would be good.

[Tryach]

Again you could do with losing weight but to be fair you don't look as vig as I thought.

[Asker]

Thank you.. I think

[Tryach]

Well you have a pretty face and are still young. If you were to lose the weight life would be on easy mode for you.

[Asker]

That's not me. I'm a long hair blonde, blue eyes and pale skin. Thanks tho

[bassinguy76]

Find a guy that appreciates you. You look good... screw him.

[Asker]

Thank you

[bassinguy76]

You're welcome

[Anonymous]

If you wanted to lose weight, you'd lose weight.

[Asker]

I've tried everything I can think of In the past 4 years. I just give up I'm done.

[Opinion Owner]

Have you joined a gym? Do you jog at least 15mins a day? Have you avoided the lift/escalator? Do you consume enough fluid and roughage? Anybody can say they've been starving for months.

[Asker]

I have joined a gym. I work out at least 45 minutes a day. I eat between 800- 1200 calories a day and 150 carbs. I always take the stairs and I take a mile walk every night. I don't eat bread, limited dairy, no soda, no juice, no coffee, dark chocolate only.

[Opinion Owner]

*inhales deep* You smell that? It smells like bullshit!

[Asker]

I dont care what you believe, think, or feel about me. You can't bring me any lower than I already am. I've heard it all a million times. Call me a liar, fat, lazy, I dont care anymore.

[Opinion Owner]

I know you don't. 'Cause if you did, you wouldn't be fat.