I have irrational insecurities my much younger boyfriend will leave me for a younger woman (he's 27. I'm 44) How can I get rid of these insecurities?
However, when we started the relationship some deep insecurities came up for me. My ex-husband of 20 years (who is my age) left me for a younger woman It tore me apart. I went through the healing process. Until now I fully believed I had recovered. However, ever since I started dating my current boyfriend many of those insecurities have re-arisen. I get reoccurring fears that he'll break my heart and leave me for a younger woman. The age gap very much adds to the insecurity. My boyfriend is legit a ripped sexy man. Younger women check him out/try to flirt with him all the time. There's a huge part of me that thinks there's no way he would prefer me (a middle aged woman) when there are all those fit, cutesy young bodies out there.
I know I'm being dumb about being so worried. He hasn't given me any reason (as of yet) to believe he wants to leave me. He doesn't flirt with younger girls (even though I know some have come onto him). He frequently expresses affection and attraction towards me. He has no problems maintaining a hard erection during sex, and if it were up to him we'd have sex every day.
I know he's attracted to me. I know he wants to be with me. However, I can't get these worries out of my head. Part of me thinks one day he'll suddenly wonder why he was ever attracted to me at all and leave me for a younger woman. I know these irrational insecurities are negatively affecting our (otherwise healthy/happy) relationship. I want to get rid of them, but I don't know how. How can I get rid of my insecurities that he's going to leave me for a younger woman?
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