Do you wish you didn't desire sex?

[pocketman]

I hate that I desire sex. It's such a weakness, it dilutes my decision making. I hate that I try persuing women because it distracts me from things that actually matter in life. The effort and mental attention I've wasted could have been used towards far more productive work. I do like how sexual desire motivates me to work on myself (strength, career, nutrition, health, socialize). But I still wish I didn't have a need for sex. Maybe you feel the same?

[BeingAnzalKhan]

Everyone has desires for sex but some people finds it interesting.
There is no harm in it but you need to understand that sex is not the answer to everything. There are lot more things which is compiled with sex. The love is something which gives a proper way of judgement to such a feel. Try and date out someone, do good sex but spend more time apart from that too.
That will help you to keep focus on other things too.

[bluehen46]

I would make my marriage much better and i would not wonder daily if we are going to make it. How long we have been married and guilt are big factors why.

[Yads_Is_Back]

I love the passion of loving a man and also I want kids, so no.

By your description, am I wrong to assume that you’re not successful at getting the women you approach?

[pocketman]

Yes: many attempts, very few successes. It's like the women I have interacted with have no interest. I feel depressed about it and don't want to try anymore. But I know I will feel the urges later on and the cycle will continue.

[Yads_Is_Back]

Well for one thing, if you’re only in it for sex, there are much higher standards than if you actually want to show her love and be in a relationship. If you’re not able to “fool” her or meet those standards, then I can see where your problem comes in. I’m not saying you should do that, but I’m just being honest.

[pocketman]

I agree with you. But I'm not in it only for sex. If I was, I would just hire a hooker. Obviously sex is desirable, but only within a loving relationship. If sex never happens it feels like something is missing. Maybe those urges for a relationship can be satisfied some other way.

[Red_Dragon]

I understand that and if you focus on the other stuff women will come. I get it.

[BlondeGoneWild]

Not at all

[BoxySama]

I know what that's like, I satiated that urge when I went through puberty 😎
I definitely understand that urge to get it in 😜