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My boyfriend is upset with me... Over my dream?

Long story short, I keep having recurring dreams where I am cheating on my boyfriend but I do not enjoy them, I wake up highly stressed and feel unfaithful.

Today, I decided to tell him about these unpleasant dreams as it was incredibly uncomfortable and I didn’t know who to tell (Maybe a mistake on my part)

Anyways, he FLIPPED out and told me how much this had hurt him, that he thinks I want to fuck other people (when i definitely dont, these dreams distress me!!) and thinks I am not attracted to him anymore, since my libido is lower. My low libido isn't because of him, if it was id find myself horny away from home, and I dont.

My point is, is he being unreasonable? How can I fix this from now?
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  • You really just shouldn't have told him. How did you expect that to go? "Hey, I just wanted to let you know that I dream about fucking other guys every night. And I know that dreams are often said to be subconscious thoughts, desires, etc.--but that's not true in my case. Just trust me.", "Ok cool. What's for dinner?".

    Maybe he's overreacting if it really is the case that they mean nothing, but how are you supposed to convince him of that? Why should he believe you? I don't know if I'd believe you if I were in his place. I just can't conceive of any reason you could've possibly had for bringing it up besides intentionally hurting him and making him distrust you. I mean, best case scenario he doesn't flip out, but even then, it's not like he could've made the dreams go away.

    Now that the damage is done though, I guess all you can do is keep reassuring him that the dreams don't mean anything and wait until it blows over. If it blows over.

    • It is because they are not just dreams, they are night terrors and force me to wake up. These dreams are not something I am enjoying and I thought he might be able to help me. I agree I shouldn't have told him and apologised to him for that.

  • He is unresonable, you can't control what you are dreaming and if you cheat on him in dream that doesn't meen you want to do it in real life.
    You 2 need to foget that dream, because is not important and will not afect you 2 whit nothing.
    In my dreams i whas from a superhero to a criminal.
    What that meen when i dream something bad? That i want to bring destruction?
    What about when i save the world and other things? I want to be the hero?
    Keep talking whit him, you 2 don't give a fuck about that shit. If you have a low libido try to do something new whit you partener. Change the place, come whit new pozitions, try to see some new erotic movie or read an eroctic book and do some stuf togeders. You 2 just need just some new inspiration.

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  • I'm sorry to hear a dream has had such negative impact your boyfriend should realise it has no real meaning. Personally I just think your mind was just playing out the scenario but you realised you don't like it

  • it doesn't really sound like you're devoted to this guy and you're having second thoughts. it's never a good idea to tell someone close like that your dreams because they interpret them their own way

  • Hyy, dreams mostly don't mean what you exactly see. For this dream it can mean multiple things. 1, you are afraid of betrayal, that he or another important person maybe would do to you. 2. you are afraid he would cheat. 3. something in your life can change. Please tell him this. I get it that it hurts him, but this dream does not mean, you want to cheat on him.

  • He cannot help it.. Babe... He is in love with you..

  • talk to him about it

  • Dreams don't have a literal meaning. They represent something that's important to us. Your feelings within the dream about cheating are what carries the meaning.

  • First off he is being unreasonable. It was just a dream.
    I use dreamforth. com to analyze my dreams. According to dreamforth:
    Cheating =
    To dream that you are cheating on your spouse, mate, fiance, or significant other, indicates that you have let yourself down in some way. You may have sacrificed your morals and ethics and received little or no benefits in return. It may also represent your increasing desires or fantasies regarding sex. Often, those who are about to enter into matrimony may dream about sensual encounters with other people. This may symbolize the anticipation or apprehension regarding this relationship.

  • Men really go about jealousy the wrong way. If you want to really take control of the situation, just turn any guys you think she is interested gay towards you loool.

  • Wow! He flipped out over a dream. Why not sit down and talk to you and get to that root of these dreams. Wow! That's crazy. Now if you dodnt tell him he would've been mad over that too huh

    • lol he would definitely be mad if i didn't tell him, any idea how i can patch things up?

  • Your mind uses dream to rid of old or not useful information, sound like it's your minds way of letting you know how you would feel if you did, he should be glad your honest to him how does he go weird over dreams, lol

  • He's being a douche

  • It's seems like your mind want it so bad, and you are considering it.

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