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Does anal really hurt so much , hard and not enjoyable?

I'm a virgin so I don't wanna to lose that just to anyone , at the same time I'm always horny , I've never tried anal , I wanna give it a try but I'm really scared , maybe it hurts so much? and maybe I won't be satisfied from doing it?
Everyone is welcome to give an opinion , but I'd appreciate to hear from girls who tried this and share with me the exprience , so I can decide.😊😊😊
Does anal really hurt so much , hard and not enjoyable?
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  • Some people are quite inhibited about this and hate the suggestion that they are inhibited, so they make up stories, say that anal sex means you're homosexual, etc.

    I've had anal sex with five or six women. None of them said it hurt. Some said it was a bit uncomfortable until their sphincter relaxed, then it felt good. Two of them had orgasms solely from anal sex, and the rest had orgasms by fingering themselves while I was in their butt. You need to already be aroused, you should probably already have had one or two orgasms from his fingers or tongue. Let him start playing with your ass while he's going down on you, lick your ass, then add lube and finger your ass. The point is to get used to the stimulation and to learn to not tense when you are touched back there. When you are ready, have him put lots of lube inside you and lots of lube on his dick. You can't have too much lube. Go slow when he is penetrating you and maybe even stop for a minute once he is inside you. Then start going slow. You tell him when to speed up, when to thrust harder.

    One partner said it was the most intense orgasm she ever had. It's not something you should do every day but is great occasionally for a change of the routine.

    Make sure you are comfortable with your hygiene before you start. Wet wipes are handy.

    Return the favor later. While giving him practice sex, lube your finger and put it in his butt up to the second knuckle. You'll be on his prostate and his orgasm will be out of this world.

    • HITF does autocorrect change "oral sex" to "practice sex?"

  • From a guys side, and my experience, use a lot of lube, he needs to start slow and work his way up to using his dick, so use fingers, then a toy until he can fit in you comfortably. And once he’s in he needs to be calm and not just go to town, but start everything off slow. Too many guys are inexperienced and stupid as shit and hurt a girl because of ignorance and then women don’t wanna try again. You will be able to cum from anal and there’s a lot of girls who really love it, and some that do it to please their man. Hopefully that helps from a guys side and other girls will share their experiences- good luck!

    • Good writeup

Most Helpful Girls

  • I love teach anal sex to people, both men and women. Women especially I love teaching them how to have sex the first time without pain. But more importantly to have vaginal and anal sex enjoyable. The most important thing I find it being able to trust whomever is penetrating you.
    For example yesterday I showed a guy how to bottom without pain. It was his first time and he loved every minute. PM me if you’d like to know more.

  • loose your virginity to your opposite sex husband on your honeymoon ! thanks

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  • Well, you said you'd appreciate hearing from girls, but for all practical purposes in answering your question, I am like a girl. So, maybe you'll find my following reply useful:

    I am a gay man and an exclusive bottom who just loves getting fucked in the ass. If done right, anal sex does not really hurt at all, but can be a great source of pleasure for the person receiving it.

    The key to success is physical and mental preparation. The physical part requires a clean hole and a lot of lubrication where water-based lubricants often work the best. As for cleanliness, I would recommend making sure you have a complete bowel movement and a good shower before getting fucked. As you can guess, food that helps digestion will also work here to your benefit, like fibers, etc.

    The mental part is about relaxing your body and your asshole. Once your hole relaxes, it can stretch beyond your wildest imagination to help take your man's cock into you...

    A butt-plug may also help. This has been one of my biggest helpers to stretch my hole in order to be able to accommodate guys with really thick cocks. To that end, I'd recommend starting with a small enough plug that you can wear at the beginning. But, it should still be thick enough so you can feel the walls of your asshole stretching a little. After wearing that for a few days, you can gradually move to the next larger size, and then increase the size of the plug to really thick ones that you could not have accommodated at the beginning. This way, I've been able to enjoy really humongous cocks in my ass. I sure hope you will, as well!..

    Finally, the position of anal sex is also important, especially for the person taking it. That could depend on gender, but also personal anatomy. My favorite position getting fucked is the missionary position. Lying on my back with my man on top of me while raising my legs over his shoulders proved to be the most natural position for me where I always draw a lot of pleasure.

    Please feel free to write back if you have any more questions. Good luck!..

    • Thanks a lot 😊😊😊🤗🤗

    • My pleasure!.. I sure hope it will be useful, and you'll enjoy receiving anal as much as I do!.. ;-)

  • Having anal nullifies your virginity... anal can be really enjoyable when done correctly but if you’re looking at it to avoid losing your virginity that’s not how it works

    • Who says? Do you own the definition of virginity?

    • Try a dictionary 🙄

  • Read my post here:

    What's the best way to do anal sex for the first time?

  • I've had anal sex with literally dozens of women and they all loved it. Here's how I do it first time.

    Comfortable Anal Sex for Beginners: A Guide to the First Time ↗

  • sometimes it can be a big pain in the ass if the guy wants to keep driving into you... ask him to take strokes rather than going deeper and deeper... anal can hurt but it also can feel great... very intense and you can feel his cock so well it's exciting as anything can be... sure if you fuck too much and too long you can become very sore the next day but it's worth it if it's good.

    • What do you mean by strokes?

    • @jdog5525 she probably means by pulling out then putting in then pulling out then putting in. Just a little bit at a time to help the girl not tense up so much and eventually you can work your way in. But don't just keep jamming it into her. Lol

    • @COMMODOREII you got it exactly right! there's guys that want to drive it in you deep as possible

  • Anal is quite painful initially however the feeling of sex is better with pussy.
    The orgasm or G spot is in pussy and not on ass.
    The feel of sex is better with pussy.
    Anal sex is for Fun aa the pussy skin is quite soft and once you have sex its expands quite easy but in anal sex the wall of the asshole is quite hard and the area is quite small. So, its very painful initially for few times. As the skin is rough hard.

  • If he tries to enter before your sphincter is relaxed your in for a world of pain. I'd strongly recommend learning with a patient guy who's experienced in anal sex. Remember it should be enjoyable for you as well as him

  • Id avise avoiding it.

  • Sex hurts a lot

    my first time there was some bleeding

    it really hurts

    I about cried

  • Anal hurts a lot that doesn't mean I don't do it

  • Buy a dildo and find it out yourself

  • I think it's really stupid to do anal just to preserve your so called "virginity "

  • Sex is sex homie. It hurts your first time. And anal for ur first time. A** holes are meant for one thing and one thing only...

  • It hurts so much but with enough lube it feels good

  • Just try it but make sure to go as slowly as possible and keep your self clean before the session. You will like it. Some girl did it some days back and shared the question. She liked it too. You might get experience from her too

  • It hurts but it does feel good.
    The felling of pleasure and pain together feel really good.

  • It will hurt the first time you try it but not so much that you will pass out or anything. Make sure you use lube. After that, it will be ok and feel really good because anal can also stimulate the vagina at the right angle.
    Don't listen to that guy about losing control. You would need to be doing it every day multiple times for years for that to happen. That could happen if you got into stupid things like putting massive objects in your arse too.

  • A girl who has done anal a lot has lost her ability to control her sphincter. When she has to go, she can't hold it back. She's still in her teens and has to wear a diaper. She's ruined her ability to control her bowels for life. It's due to anal sex.
    So be careful what you wish for. I have no idea how much anal sex she had to get to that point but she's still in her teens.

    • You have no idea what you're talking about

    • @Neko911 Actually, I do.

    • Clearly not. As everything u just said doesn't happen

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  • If it's done right the pain is minimal use plenty of lube go slow and most importantly you take the lead the wife and I have found that her on top works best because then she controls the depth and speed

  • I don't wanna know, so I won't try it

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