Am I wrong in this situation or is my housemate a big crybaby? Is she a pussy for going to my mom/ the landlord about this?

[Anonymous]

My mom owns a house that she rents out to people and I’ve been staying there rent-free. One of the housemates:

-left dishes in the sink for days
-washed her dishes in the right sink rather than the left sink (I use the right sink to wash my meats and vegetables)
-made the bathroom messy
-didn’t take out the trash
- hadn’t been putting the trash out on the curb
-put the trash out on the curb when it was my week to do it and not hers (messing up the order)
-only locked one of the front door locks rather than both locks when she leaves and we could’ve been robbed (and I’m home by myself during the day)
-left her clothes in the dryer for a couple of days

I’ve talked to her about all these things and she’s apologized and corrected these things and they didn’t happen again. I requested that we have separate shelves in the refrigerator and freezer because I have a compromised immune system and I don’t want her touching my things when she goes in and out of the refrigerator. She has still somehow managed to touch one of my items, put her frozen dinner on the same shelf as mine in the freezer, and she put her container on one of my shelves. I confronted her about it and she denies doing it, but I know it was her because my other housemate said they didn’t do it and he doesn’t lie.

She then emailed my mom and told her about the situation and that I’m constantly complaining about something and was wondering how to stop the constant conflict along with the fact that she will be moving in thirty days because she can’t deal. My mom requested that I come to her about my complaints regarding my housemate rather than confronting my housemate and said that I shouldn’t be assigning chores and making rules. I then confronted my housemate and cursed her the fuck out out b/c, she is being a crybaby about this entire situation. Being that this is my mom’s house. I feel like I should be the one making the rules.

[rkf_helps_247]

First off... just relax love. And take what I'm about to say, in a good way.

From what you said, it sounds like you're way to uptight bout things and also a control freak.
You have to loosen up a bit. Don't like like a robot with rules of dos and donts.


Just chill.


Actually... if you stop the WANTING for everything to go according to your PLAN, then trust me... it won't work out.




To be honest, i felt like you were the cry baby. No offense dude.
But you need to take a deep breath and just chill.



"Being that this is my mom’s house. I feel like I should be the one making the rules."


You saying this, it's so wrong.
Yes... it's your mom's house. And yes... you're her daughter.
But that gives you no right to come in between her and her business. Infact, you staying there rent free is coz it's your mom's house and your mom allowed that.


The others aren't like that. They're paying their rent to stay there. Not to listen and do what you want.


So just relax and mind your own thing love.

[rkf_helps_247]

*If you dont stop the WANTING

[rkf_helps_247]

Plus... she ain't a pussy for going to your mom. It was the right thing to do. Coz your mom is the landlord. Not you. And when she's obviously having trouble staying there with you, the only person she can tell this concern to, is the landlord

[Asker]

Fine. How can I make sure that she moves the fuck out? My mom is trying to convince her to stay and I need her gone. I’ve been opening her packages, going into her room, and using her things in the kitchen to get back at her and make it so she doesn’t want to live there.

[Asker]

How am I being a crybaby?

[rkf_helps_247]

But love... why do you wanna do something cruel like that? She's trying to stay somewhere peacefully. Why can't you just accept that it's you who has got to change and not her. Just try and not be such a control freak. And things will go fine between you two. Or else... you're just coming in between your mom's businesses and giving her a bad time. If you keep this up, she's gonna end up kicking you out of the house.

[rkf_helps_247]

You're being the crybaby because all along, I've seen you trying to control everything and wanting everything to go the way you want. And when it isn't going like that, and when someone is going against that and not listening to you, you're getting pissed and being a cry baby

[Alexandrubaschet08]

She pay, you don't, your mom and you need the money from her. So as long you want her to pay live her alone.
Whit the frige i suport her, i don't care about the order, if she know her food is ok, tell her to not eat your, sometime the space can be to big for a person or to small for the other, that why i suport her, if she need more space and you need a more small space in the frige i suport her, you 2 need to use all the space in the frice, not the levels.
As long it doesn't stink she can be as mesy as she want, you 2 are not her parents, whit the 2 sink is ridiculos, us them as you 2 want, but tell her to let you one cline all the time or both, because you will not clean her mess.
From what i read evrething is just estetical disconfort, some people don't care for usless things like that (including me). If she don't broke the house or make it dirty in a way that can't be clean it again, i don't see a problem.
Whit the door, ther i suport you, close all the doors you never know who can pass throw your house. At 25 yares old i have been robbed whit a bike from my garden.
She want to be confortable, no parents, no responsability, i like your roommate she is a cool girl/guy

[Yellovv]

Before I used to live in sharing house with another people, that kind of problem is never finish, specially if is dirty woman in the house that is more bad, even they leaving their tampon inside to bathroom in period time, never again...