The thing is his actions are reflex actions in nature.
That being said, I feel that his reflex actions are dangerous.
I just feel you should be careful around him. Because it does not bode well whenever you scare or hurt him unintentionally; he will just hit out at you reflexively.
Imagine years later, if you two are still together, you two married and you pregnant with his kid. What if you accidentally scare him or unintentionally step on his foot? Is he gonna punch you in the face or kick you?
I have been with my ex for 6-7 years, never once was there an incident where he hits out at me reflexively for scaring him or hurting him.0 0 0 0I accept his reflexes and will try to be more cautious to not provoke anything I might regret later. Once my dad was taking nicotine pills which had terrible side effects and tried to choke my mom while he was asleep and started swinging and hit her face by accident. It was a side effect and obviously he didn't mean to do such a thing, it was just an accident. My mom was acceptant afterwards and doesn't even talk about that event anymore. Yet here I am unable to forget these things that didn't actually get to the point of hurting me and were unintentional.
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Sounds to me like you just need to be more careful. He's trying to be as gentle as he can. Stop hurting him and there'll be no problem.
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0 0 0 0Yeah, he has changed so much. His reflexes have been better and a lot less accidents are happening. My family has even congratulated him on his change because he never really has intentions of hurting anyone. I feel that when these things happen they are truly unintentional and he is living up to it because they rarely happen anymore :)
I do not know.. You have to decide. Everything is not a guarantee to be a reject or an opportunity. So you choose.
I'm actually kind of confused because if actions speak louder than words (which is true I admit) does that mean that when he says it was an accident then it wasn't just because it happened and it was an action?
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0 3If it's just a few incidents, and they're years apart, it's safe to assume he's telling the truth. He may have a history of abuse, or at least of fear of it. You might do well to talk about learning to relax and let his guard down a little.
0 0 0 0Right... So all I'm seeing is you're allowed to have accidents but not him. Hell he might think you're the one doing all this nothingness on purpose
0 0 0 0The first two was in bed so having two people in bed will probably be a close and the other i wouldn't worry about it. Just remember this look whats in the future not the past
0 0 0 0Do you think I shouldn't worry about these things? Should I let them go and move on?
I say watch him not like a hawk but enough to make sure
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