How to feel comfortable in your body and sexuality?

[Anonymous]

Looking for advice on how to feel comfortable enough in your body to have sex. I want to have sex but I find myself feeling embarrassed and insecure when I really think about it. Will that feeling go away when I have sex? And if it won't, how can I make it go away? (I am above the age of consent in my country FYI)

[boggboss]

Being uncomfortable is normal pretty sure most people are not sure what your insecurities are and how they play a part but take it slow and don't compare yourself to others also understand males don't tend to be as judgmental in the act of sex

[Iron_Man]

The Question Asker is really rude she likee to delete post not professional. And she's a minor

[Asker]

@Iron_Man if you read my question properly you would see that I stated that I am above the age of consent in my country. Stop leaving replies like this.

[boggboss]

She did state in her country she is above the age of concent so I'm not sure what to say mate

[Iron_Man]

I told you all the other things as well and it was rude of you to delete my post after I read your question and spent all the time writing it out

[boggboss]

And by what u said she is not a adult so why would u expect her to act professionally but that aside is irrelevant as by the info provided she is allowed to ask

[Iron_Man]

I've already explained everything in this post here People that do that are rude and unprofessional.

[boggboss]

She may be rude but you keep coming back to being professional why do u expect her to be and whilst its not wanted rudness is not a crime with people that think that way simply ignoring them tends to be the fix

[Iron_Man]

Because you keep bringing me back in here getting involved I just left the simple comment to warn people about her rudeness and she deleted the other post as well. Minors have responsibilities and professionalism and to respect their elders maybe you don't understand that

[boggboss]

Yet you are not her elder but a stranger online that although maybe her senior this issues you no more respect the the respect you have to earn and its not given freely and to claims of bringing you back I at no point forced you to respond you have decided to im just pointing out that you expect professionalism from not only strangers online but people from your words that are still considered children

[Iron_Man]

You've got to be kidding me obviously you want to debate just to debate. You support that kind of stuff anyway her wanting to have sexual activities for minors. I should have never have bothered to come here. Tell all that to a school teacher about you have to earn respect from a child the has improper Doctrine see how far that gets you. Grown wise men lead they don't have to earn respect from a child that has bad intentions she did what she did she was rude. I expect professionalism in person and online what makes you think that something online can be tossed around deleted and disrespected. I don't know where you come from but I'm a man of honor and great respect a military family

[Asker]

@Iron_Man first of all I'm not a child lol. Secondly, if you "shouldn't have even come here" then just stop replying. Thirdly, you've gotta be kidding if you "expect professionalism" online - this is the internet buddy

[boggboss]

You like me are nothing but another stranger online with a opinion yes teachers and demand respect but thats between a preastablished ruling that for teachers to teach and a student to learn respect has to be given you are not a teacher she is not your student if she claims to be of age in her country then saying she is a minor shows you don't respect what she is saying I am debaiting that fact as you are choosing to neglect the information provided because you don't agree with it on the sole basis of you feeling she is not of age which is irrelevant you claim to be a grown wise man yet are arguing like any random troll that is on this site on the only fact that you don't like that she is not 18 and asking about sex or that she is not married and asking about sex if that's your opinion fine good for you but don't be surprised that she deleted that comment when they are not the subjects being discussed

[Iron_Man]

You don't disrespect people online or in person. I've been here for nine years you're a pink Anon rookie that's rude stop trying to change the subject. You don't delete answers from people that are trying to help you and give you good advice just because you don't like the answer. You have to have professionalism and respect people. People go out of their way to read and type out long answers you don't do that to them.

[Asker]

@boggboss you hit the nail on the head there

[Iron_Man]

You're under 18 you are a child. Look under your Anonymous part it says under 18 there is a reason for that

[boggboss]

Lol the age of concent and being a conciderd child are two different things why are u being willfully ignorant its know 18 is not the universal age of concent so why are u bring it up 😑

[Iron_Man]

This is girls ask guys I am here to help people and to guide them. They need to be taught discipline and shown the proper path to follow. Everybody is a stranger to everybody I'm not going to allow disrespect from a kid or anybody else for that matter. It doesn't matter stranger or not. You have to respect your elders. You got it all wrong and you're supporting a minor that's wanting sex. What happens if she gets pregnant who's going to take care of the baby? The parents will inherit the child. What about all that stuff? Huh? You are not being a good role model coaching her up. And why would you expect for me to cower down not to say a word to minors and let them have their Way? It's not right What she wants to do its improper bad Doctrine. I don't allow disrespect in person or on the computer from anyone. You're not helping this girl out you're just supporting her bad Doctrine.

[Iron_Man]

You're the one that's acting ignorant because it's 18 you should know better than that. You just share her bad improper Doctrine values and that's disappointing for a man your age. You Should be telling her she should be married first. Have good Christian values instead of just talking a bunch of trash. Debating just for the sake of debating

[boggboss]

Because I can't also explain that contraception and ensuring to practice safe sex past that its her choice to do it or not if she is above the legal age of concent simple the advice you give is unhelpful how many times has someone asked u something and simply saying don't do it bad has actually stopped them from doing it I'm 25 and even I know if someone wants to do something and wants advice for it if they get it or not most likely they will do it anyway and the lack of educating them will lead to things going wrong again the age of concent is not attached to the age of 18 again why are u being ignorant to that fact

[boggboss]

Lol mate I'm not a Christian and have never claimed to be if u believe my values to be lacking great stuff but again thats irrelevant as for me your doctrine is silly and outdated hiding information because u judge others not able to act on it properly or maturely is silly again u keep saying 18 18 that means nothing I live in the UK the age of concent is 16 do I like that no would I fuck a 16 year old not but thats as far as that goes saying I should know better also means nothing if u truly wanted the best for people as a Christian you would know being heavy handed with your religion being used as a bludgeon on others would only push them away from the values u wish to install in them being counter productive to what u want but meh

[Iron_Man]

There you go again Dodging my questions changing the subject bringing up the ignorant card on age consent. You have no idea where this girl lives at and you just assume that being under 18 or close to it like 16 is official age to have to sex and it's not that way so that's ignorant of you to think that way and tell me that its universal. You don't even know this girls true age. The girl sounds like an American to me the way she types and says the word buddy that's an American statement. How many accounts do you have on here you sound just like somebody else that I know on here. Telling me if you don't say anything they do it but if you do say something they will rebel. That's not how it works you have to teach these kids the proper way to live. Not saying anything and Hoping for the best doesn't cut it, then what are parents good for Besides paying their way if you say nothing?

[Iron_Man]

I live in America. My Doctrine is silly you say? Trying to help out others do the right thing in life? You have trash Doctrine you have no moral valves. You don't even know this girls age and you assume its ok just because she says so

[boggboss]

We both don't know her age its that simple your only claim to her age is I think she is American because of how she types that it my claim is with the info she has provided yes she could be lying but she also could have simply made a new account with the age as 18 which we both know is more then easy to do so with that what would make more sense to believe what u think on a feeling or with the information provided in the question and lests say she is from the US do you know what state she is from to then claim she must be 18 as it does vary that aside you can claim u are trying to help you are not you are forcing your beliefs on her in a way that would push her away even if objectively what u say is right even after that your attack on my morals or doctrine mean pretty much nothing as that would be equal to me claiming your god is as real as the Easter bunny or the xmen its just another opinion then again you come off as more of a zealot then a actual wise man trying to save souls but meh

[Iron_Man]

Name calling you are now resorting to because you know you have no valid points and you claim I'm attcking just to brain wash yourself making it look like I am the bad guy which is just crazy. So you are basically telling me don't say anything don't do anything just let her do what she wants. Way to go big boss you're really a man of great wisdom and somebody to look up to NOT. I left one comment and you have nothing better to do but get into a two-hour debate with me just for the sake of debating You are a bad guy and also disrespectful to my religion. You have bad moral values and you ignore helping out the youth coming up with very stupid comments like telling me to say nothing is just ignorant. You are not grounded in faith you bring no value at all to the Youth of the world supporting people's bad Doctrine

[Iron_Man]

You have wasted my time 100% across the board

[boggboss]

If you have wasted your time that is unfortunate as you made every choice to respond you went out of your way to avoid every point I made and catch onto a insult I made your way in response to once made mine but thats fine you also claim im brainwashed but can the same statement not be made about you and your faith that u belive makes you superior to others no in the way u speak and treat others believing your age demands your respect for nothing more then that alone at no point did I say to say nothing only that if you be heavy handed and tell people what they can and can't do which is also not illegal all u will do is push people away from the faith you say u are if u can't see that maybe you should watch better how your pastor speaks and learn from at no point did I claim to be anything more then a stranger online with a opinion you was the only one to claim to be a man of wisdom that demands respect yes we got into a 2 hour debate to which I quite enjoyed picking apart your arguments guess that is a character flaw the only time I disrespected your religion is when you felt the need to call my morals into question so I simply showed a example of how that works in reverse no I'm not grounded in faith but it would seem you that claims to be grounded in faith means nothing as all you did with that faith is push someone away from said faith

[Iron_Man]

Basically you are copying my words trying to turn it around on me which makes you look foolish you dont make a good debate at all. It's kind of like debating with Charles Manson on some of his views all you do is say the same old repeated words over and over don't say anything don't do anything give me a break man you call this education along with good moral values? You have not picked a part anything. Basically you're just trying to get me to blow up and have a laugh at my expense Probably doing some copy and pasting for your friends to look at which will never work I don't blow up with guys like youI. I just Don't enjoy debating with people who have bad moral values. You've already Resorted ro name calling which automatically disqualifies yourself from a debate. You have no say so here you let troubled youth do as they please. It sets a very bad example to Mankind. Most 25 year olds like you dont debate for over 2 hours I doubt very seriously you're the guy behind your picture or the age you claim to be. Once again you bring no valid points to the table at all. Talking to you is like beating a dead horse. And all you bring back is nonsense and repeated words

[boggboss]

I have repeated myself many a time because u have not given answers to what I say just making accusations like they are fact you never gave answer to any point given that u couldn't or didn't wanna respond to which is fair enough you not believing im 25 is a fair point or that I'm catfishing as that pick although if I wanted to catfish I would do it as a good looking guy no but meh again I quite enjoy debating strangers if u feel a rude word disqualified me fair enough I could claim u judging my moral ground is the same but its not something I would get upset about I don't really care to if you blow up or that I don't care for your mental state just enjoy pointing out that most of what u said here can be boiled down to what u want is wring I'm right be a Christian if you don't you are a bad person which in itself is funny

[Iron_Man]

You support bad Doctrine and you don't try to help the girl out and you debate me for 3 hours over it because it's amusing to you. You've admitted you enjoy debating others and you're probably some nerdy computer guy catfishing. You are Talking nonsense just trying to get under my skin knowing what you're doing is wrong and what you're saying is wrong all this just to debate for the sake of debating no matter what. So yes you are a bad person plus you insulted me and made a joke out of my religion. I point out the facts and the way things should be in this world and you are basically trying to twist and turn my words around throwing back repeated junk trash words that don't make sense or add up. I have finally figured you out it's all about shock value treatment for you go the opposite direction to get a rise out of your opponent no matter what the subject is or about good values or not. When I came here I didn't realize that you're a professional troll. So that being said I have proven my point and the girls should do the right thing in life and be a good Christian girl instead of trying to sleep around and being underage. I don't debate trolls that are looking just to get a rise out of their opponents shock value treatment that have no honor and mortality. So that being said I don't care how many times you come back here or mention me or tag me I refuse to come in here and read one word of what you're saying so you can talk back and forth with the girl all you want but you know you're dead wrong for doing what you're doing the way you are talking to me and she's wrong to for wanting to have sex underage plus risk pregnancy. Leaving all the responsibility for her parents to take care of if she gets pregnant and it does happen a lot Teen Moms

[boggboss]

Meh well if you choose to end it there thats fine if you belive me to be a troll I guess thats also fine as stated we are all entitled to our opinions at no point did i claim other that I was enjoying debaiting with you why would I do something I don't enjoy to me being a computer nerd guy thats not far off the truth to me being a catfish again thats just a accusation made from silliness but again thats fine I have explained why I insulated u and your religion as a response to you insulting me was that right no but I never claimed to be perfect u say u pointed out facts I don't think u ever pointed out 1 u just said she must live her life this way which is far less helpful as to her being underage again means nothing its your word against hers and I'm pretty sure she would know if she is off age over you who is making a guess again sex can be practiced in a safe manner but you are choosing to ignore that which is fine but don't patent that u are helping her or stating facts just using your religion as a podium to point out how others should live

[Alexandrubaschet08]

Why will you feel insecure? You are not human or what?
750/5000
I have seen people who look like monsters and consider themselves great beauties.
Why would a person who looks like everyone else feel inferior?
Why can't you accept yourself as you are? Fuck the press and the internet and TV shows and look at something more constructive.
They eat so much shit on TV in 7 years I don't watch television anymore, and when I happen to open a TV once a year I have nothing to see.
If you have 2 legs, 2 hands, 1 head, 2 eyes, 1 nose with 2 nostrils, a normal mouth with which you eat and speak a language that can be understood, I don't see why you shouldn't feel good in your place.
If you want, I will send you pictures of real monster girls who are considered models and hideous boys who have girlfriends worthy of going to the fashion show.

[Agape93]

It’s normal to be nervous or uncomfortable. Your entrusting your body, life and reputation with another person. Having sex is the easiest way to reduce that feeling. But only do it when you trust that partner.

[Browneye57]

How much under 18?
This level of narcissism is typical. It is ALWAYS about YOU, isn't it?

[Asker]

“Enjoy answering relationship and sex questions for the younger set here. What a great place to ask about what you’re not clear on!”

[Browneye57]

Not for children. If you're fifteen or younger you need to talk to your mommy and daddy.

[Asker]

I’m not 15 though lol, and I literally stated in my post that I’m above the age of consent in my country.

[Browneye57]

Engaging in the pleasure of consensual sex isn't about YOUR body. Your focus should be on your partner as much as yourself. That your primary concern is your own appearance is an indication of lack of maturity for the act in which you desire to participate. And hence, you're simply not ready.

[magiusX26]

remember the things you are feeling are new to you but everyone else (your age or older) have gone through these feelings before. a lot of things you think make you ugly, fat, weird, etc are usually in your head and/or normal things most others have

[es20490446e]

What is shameful about liking sex?

[Wise4myage]

Its all about accepting your body as it is and feeling good about it. Having insecurities are normal to some degree, so you can't let that stop you from the pleasures of sex. Being naked more often would help you too.

[COMMODOREII]

You can try looking at yourself in the mirror and accepting the fact you are beautiful. If a guy wants to have sex with you there are reasons to be sexually attractive.

[Twalli]

If a guy is willing to have sex with you chances are he'll like your body.

[GreenGold1992]

You learn to accept it, if not, do something to change it.

[andy530]

Look in the mirror at your body and begin to pick out positive things you like about it. They can be small at first but pay attention to every detail. Your body is a beautiful thing take some time to admire it