Can Men and Women Be "Just Friends" without any sexual innuendos?

[Uptowngirl88]

[HeyMikeyLikesIt]

Yeah absolutely, I've got several girl friends I’m really close to that I've had for the last 10-15-20 years, and they are all attractive to different degrees. Now that being said, only one of them is like my sister, and I wouldn't ever get involved with any of them. BUT... BUT... that doesn’t mean I’m not human, I’m still a man, they are still women, we are all attractive, but there’s always situations where would I fuck them? Sure lol, we’ve actually talked about this and two of em were surprised how honest I was with them when I said yeah there’s situations where I’d still fuck you lol, but I’m not pursuing that, or wanting that, and that’s definitely the reason were friends, its just that our privates fit together and if we were on a mountain stuck for two years... yup I’m sure we would come to an agreement together where we would fuck lol. But fortunately that hasn’t happened. But I genuinely love them all, I truly care for them and I like two of their husbands and want the best guy for them as possible. And even the girl who is like my sister lol, when we were all talking about this idea / question, even she said well if we were stuck on that mountain... she’s like I could turn the lights off and do it doggy style and imagine its anyone else besides me, like a step brother/ step sister situation.

[MrOracle]

I voted B, but the answer really is "yes, but very RARELY." The vast majority of the time, the answer is NO.

And, I'm fully aware that most WOMEN can be platonic friends with men, but men simply aren't designed to have platonic female friends (unless she's not attractive to him, but guys rarely make friends with women they aren't attracted to). Many women don't seem to grasp that most (single) men want to bang each and every attractive woman he sees, and if he actually knows and likes her, he only wants to bang her all the more. That's just how men are, and women need to not be naive about that.

Ladies: most or all of your (single) "guy friends" would bang your brains out if you let it be known you were interested. Just because YOU don't feel that way doesn't mean he doesn't, and if you are honest with yourself, you probably already know this is true.

[it2ly]

You havn't met every male on the planet. Just because men have more hormones than women doesn't mean they are gonna bang every single pretty girl they meet jfc you really think your gender is that retarded

[MrOracle]

That's why I said MOST, not ALL, and RARELY, and not NEVER. Obviously there are exceptions. But to deny that the majority of men feel this way is foolish - men widely understand this about other men; it's mostly women who are in denial about it.

[Smoke-n-Growls]

Very possible.

But I prefer having male friends who can platonically flirt with me, or at the least be platonically physically affectionate.

It's more than possible. Strong boundaries, good communication, and a constant close eye on the other's comfort level (and respect for their partners if applicable) is of course necessary.

Basically, if you're both adults about it, it's fine.

[katiesmuff]

Yes it can! I've been very good friends with guys since before high school where we have gone camping together, been skinny dipping together and just generally had lots of fun together and never was there anything sexual between us.

[MrOracle]

So, you believe that if you offered them sex (let's say you were single, before you got married), they'd have turned you down?

[katiesmuff]

@MrOracle That is a bit of a dumb way to look at this. If I'm offering him pussy then we are moving away from just being friends. My guy friends were guys I could freely skinny dip with, change clothes or pee in front of without any sexual things happening, but we always continued to have fun with.

[MrOracle]

You're thinking about it like a woman - but the reality is that we both know that those guys would jump at the chance to sleep with you if they could. That, by definition, is NOT platonic. They are not pursuing you because they know YOU don't want to, not because THEY don't want to. That's the whole point: women generally have the ability to be platonic friends, but men generally do not - they have to pretend, but it's not genuine, and their physical attraction affects the way they treat you, even if you don't realize it.

[katiesmuff]

@MrOracle I have to disagree with you thinking on this point. When a guy is sexually interested what naturally happens? The mighty penis stands up at attention! So when some of these guys I am friends with see me naked (and they do) why would it be there is no penis reaction?

[it2ly]

Uhm... I just wanna know why some of your friends see you naked...

[katiesmuff]

@it2ly Skinny dipping mostly and sometimes it would have been around the house.

[MrOracle]

"So when some of these guys I am friends with see me naked (and they do) why would it be there is no penis reaction?" Because he knows you don't want it, doesn't expect to be able to use it, and because he doesn't want to make you uncomfortable. But had you asked him for some sex, it would have woken right up and stood at attention. Men have been conditioned to turn off their sexuality around female "friends", but they do it to conform to society, not because it's what THEY want. But while they may suppress their more overt sexual desires, they still have them, and those desires WILL alter their behavior and attitude towards you. Of course, that gives women an advantage in most cases - the guys will be nicer to you, do things for you, put up with a lot more crap from you, etc. If you told them "I'm not attracted to you and we'll NEVER have sex", you'd see a lot of those "friends" fade out of your life - not all, but many - because the hope for sex (or perhaps a relationship) is a lot of what is keeping them around. I know women don't like to hear that, but it's the truth, and you should be aware of it.

[DizzyDesii]

If theyre unattractive to eachother

[OlderAndWiser]

Yes, I heard that it happened once in 1966.

[Jess1812]

Anything is possible, but most guys will go after a girl if she's their type and they see a shot.

[sophiejo]

Yes it's possible I have many guy friends

[ChelsiChu]

Heck to the yes! I'd say like half of my closest friends are guys (and they're TAKEN so I know they don't like me. that would make it awkward)

[Tamera952]

Sure just ask my boyfriend... hahahaha

[FriendlyDrugDealer]

I think it depends on how they met , the individual’s personalities and their environment but for the most part? Yes it’s possible.

Mature people can relax and respect the boundaries with other people so it’s definitely possible. I understand people getting attracted eventually over time but there are more appropriate ways to get your point across than a sexual way

[AaronKrieger]

Yes, I have a few good female friends where we've all made it clear that we have no romantic interest to each other, so I don't feel any romantic interest towards them. I just don't see them in that way. Really it's more like a brother-sister dynamic which I prefer over dating them.

[ItsTheNephilim]

Possible but rare.

[smart_sexy_redhead]

Nope!

[smart_sexy_redhead]

almost every guy I try to be friends with at some points develops feelings and wants to date me

[strongmother]

One of the two is sexually attracted to the other. That is a 100% fact. The one who is attracted is hoping that one day eventually the other one will break and fall in love. It is really sad.

[Steve-ram]

Exactly that's what i wanted to say

[Prof_Don]

It’s possible.

[beldath]

If I'm not attracted to the person it's possible.
However, one of my ex's was and still is smoking hot, but because she has hpv, I lost all interest in being more than friends.

[Phoenix98]

Yeah it’s possible.

[NewZion]

Depends if you guys are both hot, but you guys aren't each others' types? Probably.

[jessicasissy]

Men and women can easily be friends... SO long as there never develops any feelings of more than friendship. Once romantic feelings get involve, unless you both have them for each other, things will never work out. The one who has the feelings will almost without fail always think they have a chance and will get pissy and moody anytime the other starts seeing someone else

[chriscdi]

yes but they can't find each other attractive, its the only way

[MannMitAntworten]

Without innuendoes? That part, probably not. I say this because nen with men use them and women with women use them. My women friends use them with me which only gets me started using them too. So, not likely. However, can they be friends, that part, yes.

[magiusX26]

yes they can and sometimes are

[Makeushiver]

I suppose it's possible. I've had plenty of women friends without any sex but in most cases, I'd change it if/when I could