Why do men think that money is the ultimate what attracts a woman?

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its Something I never understood because I would never ever marry an ugly old man who I have absolutely no physical attraction to for money. Like I can’t imagine how uncomfortable it would be to have sex with a guy like that. It would simply be a nightmare and scar me for life.

And as for dating life , money has never been what Ultimately attracted me to a man. Flashing stacks of money or gold watches is only gonna make me want to use you for your money. It’s kind of like a woman thinking that she can get a man to fall for her by flashing her breasts. It’s only gonna make him use her for sex.

And just just because you have a lot of money, it doesn’t mean I will be happiest with you. As soon as I’m done dating you for your dollars , I will be onto the love of my life. Love is something that money cannot buy. And money cannot make up for lack of personality or ugliness. Because if sex is a nightmare for me , it’ll only be a matter of time before I find myself a new man.

Barbaric · Accepted Answer

I think that there are a number of reasons for why they think this.

1) That has been their experience and the experience of the men they know. I've lost count of how many times guys have said to me (about themselves or in general, not about me) "women only want you for your money". That's because the only way they can get women is by spending money, and that's the only reason women get with them.

Therefore they assume that it's the same for every guy everywhere, and that that's how it works. They don't know that it's because they lack any other attractive qualities.

2) Many women WILL go for a guy who is less good looking if he has money - only for his money. Not because they're actually attracted to him. In order to make this less obvious rather than scare him off, they fool the guy into thinking that it's not purely trans-actional and that they do like him.

Those men either know it's bullshit but play along anyway because they're getting what they want from it too anyway. Or they're naive and they actually think it's real. Maybe they even have a feeling that it's bullshit but it feels better to lie to themselves that it's real and to believe their own lies.

3) Very few women are as bluntly truthful about it as you're being here for this reason. In fact for some of them that would fuck with their long-term strategy so they actually prefer it if some guys stay naive.

In their youth they want to have their fun with hot guys, but those hot guys are often no good for commitment. They're hot, they have a lot of options, and they're having fun too with different women. They're harder to lock down.

The guys they ignore though, the "boring" guys, they're more stable. If they haven't managed to lock down one of the hotter guys, they changed their priorities. This tends to happen with women around 30. This is the point where they "find God" or just start to talk about how they're "done with fuckboys", have finally "come to their senses" and realised how much they appreciate "nice guys". Maybe these women believe their own bullshit too, but really it's just a change of standards because they're looking for more stability and they find that more in the guys they're less attracted to.

In her book "Lean In", Sheryl Sandberg says this openly. Here's the quote:

“When looking for a life partner, my advice to women is date all of them: the bad boys, the cool boys, the commitment-phobic boys, the crazy boys. But do not marry them. The things that make the bad boys sexy do not make them good husbands. When it comes time to settle down, find someone who wants an equal partner. Someone who thinks women should be smart, opinionated and ambitious. Someone who values fairness and expects or, even better, wants to do his share in the home. These men exist and, trust me, over time, nothing is sexier.

In these cases, again in order to compensate for the lack of desire, they expect the guy to have money. For some guys actually, being the guy women settle for during this phase becomes their strategy too, and in that case it is money that helps them - not the stuff she's talking about here. Women like Sandberg want them to believe that the last part, the part where she says that these men are "sexier", is true. And they fall for it.

MrOracle · Accepted Answer

While there are plenty of women who think like you do, there are also plenty of women who would definitely choose men for their money.

So, here's an example: researchers showed women a large sample of pictures of men who were between a 4 and a 9 on the attractiveness scale, and those women rated almost all of them to be "below average." They did this multiple times with women from around the country, with the same basic results.

They then repeated the test, with the same pool of men, but this time they also added the men's annual salary next to their pictures. This time around, somehow, the men who made good money were suddenly seen as much more attractive (averaging over 3 points higher!) than they rated without their salary information taken into account.

If you say you wouldn't do that, I believe you, but you need to recognize that LOTS of women absolutely DO this, and guys are simply doing what works - just as a lot of women use their sexuality to attract men because it works.

Neko911 · Accepted Answer

Because most women are shallow and this statement is true 4 them

beetie · Answer

I guess some might be thinking: rather have a gold digger than no one? Ill be honest i dont understand the sentiment either. At this point i can't do much more than guesswork.

Venicebeachretro · Answer

im not going to act all innocent and judge others but I have to admit Because of social media put massive pressure on you her generation including me. You see all celebrity’s with too designer clothes , veneers lots of money and fun lifestyle. Then they have amazing looking girlfriends, like dream girlfriends. So a lot of guys including myself try to match the celebrity’s to get those girls. Like myself, I worked hard and try to replicate being celebrity with Mercedes , too seisnfer clothes and veneers. It does work on getting more attention from women. But it for the wrong reasons. I think personality is what counts. And guys don’t realise that until they lived life a little. That’s my take anyway. I think it’s social media. Because they see the rich celebrity guys have masses of attentive women throw themselves on to them on social media they think damn I got to be like them

TonyV · Answer

You would be suprised how many women on dating sites say something to the effect of "all about that paper" "get that money" or
"no broke guys", gold diggers do exist. Seen a girl or 2 on youtube that say he needs to take you shopping often. Girl who put a guys money number one are out there.

DCooper · Answer

Who ever heard of a divorce settlement where the woman says, "forget the money, I want to take half his dick with me" ?

Bandit74 · Answer

Maybe Hollywood. They see a bunch of super hot women with rich men who are older and uglier than them.

nodnol32 · Answer

Money is important but I don't see the point in showing off to a woman who I'm dating about it. Even if lets suppose I'm rich, she could be even richer than me but isn't bragging. Everyone should focus on their career, thats not a bad thing. But when it comes to relationships, one should focus on the bigger picture for eg if you two share a connection etc. A serious relationship is not something one can buy.

Tonytoutouni123 · Answer

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I also believe that money will not make a woman sexually aroused if the man is not also visually more or less her type.
But if she finds him visually fairly attractive, money will definitely increase his attractiveness.

Alexandrubaschet08 · Answer

Money can buy happiness and love.
You don't like an ugly man's money anymore, there's no problem and he can buy another girl, an escort, a money sucker.
You need money to raise a child, to receive gifts to live in a smoky house.
If you want a beautiful and poor boy, unfortunately I am also in this category that I hate to death, there are no problems again, but I don't think you will be happy to receive only flowers for years and not to have a beautiful house and spacious, the car can get you where you want quickly and without discomfort, one that I do not have so cv so dc not attract money?
Instead of the rich, I gave a phone call and I have another.
How many women have not left their lovers and husbands for others with money?

NewZion · Answer

Because most girls are poor and have low status. They're trying to elevate themselves out of their social class.

The only time you usually don't give a fuck is if you're born with that and tired of the pretensions (e. g. Maybe Princess Diana dating outside of royalty).

magiusX26 · Answer

because it often works trump and melania anba nichole smith and that old guy she married

YHL6965 · Answer

So you would still use a man for his money if you had the opportunity? You're basically reinforcing the idea you're trying to fight here.

OpenNudist · Answer

Money and Power are the ultimate sexual attraction for Girls in my humble opinion

In_Trance · Answer

It might capture their attention, but it won't sustain their interest

Cryptic-Game · Answer

With plenty of women, it is a man's wealth that she cares about.

Anonymous · Answer

a lot women are prosititues thats why.

Anonymous · Answer

Because women’s actions prove it.

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