I don't know if I like him touching me?

[Anonymous]

So I've had this guy friend for almost 2 years. The first year I liked him, he did not like me back and rejected me. He said that he used to like me but later on he admitted he was just trying to make me feel better. Anyways I've been sleeping over his house a lot lately because we are friends and I have a lot of free time. But in the night he touches me. He cuddles me, caresses my thigh, kisses me, puts his hands in my pants and grabs my butt, and unstraps my bra. I admit I let him do it and do the same to him when he does it to me. But I've been thinking if I'm okay with it and I don't know. I've been sexually touched by 4 other guys before without consent. In fact I told those guys to stop but they did not. Even though I've given my friend consent I don't know if I like it. Either way it is only a friends with benefits relationship. Can you tell me how I'm supposed to figure out if I'm actually okay with it?

[HeyMikeyLikesIt]

Well I don’t think its an easy answer, I think first of all you need to figure out if you really want to mess around with him above everything else, if you do, do you want to be boyfriend/girlfriend or just friends with benefits, what do you expect to happen in the next few weeks or the future?

Then once you come up with that answer, if you want to keep going, and want a relationship or friends with benefits, you need to talk to him and let him know what you want, and you don’t have to tell him anything you don’t want to but I would definitely inform him that you’ve had several bad experiences with boys and messing around/sex whatever. So you want to make sure your both on the same page and y'all can try and enjoy each other properly from here on out. Then maybe if the setting is similar to the other times you messed around and it was a bad experience maybe try to go in a different room, or a different place all together and go to town then, and that may not be necessary but I think mentally just you being in charge of everything and everything being your decisions and your in control might help that mental block where y'all can enjoy each other that way. I’m sure your friend will be more than willing to work with you on this since you’ve been friends for a long time and y'all care about each other as friends first and foremost.

Hopefully from there your okay with everything and can proceed forward the way teenagers do lol.. I’m extremely sorry that you had to endure that assault and those piece of shits will have to answer to god about that.

[Benjamin_HM]

If you feel you are ready to lose virginity , You are okay with that otherwise not. These kinds of acts could end up having sex.

[Anonymous]

If you're not sure you like it, you probably shouldn't be doing it. There is a chance that the only reason you "think you like it" is because you want him to like you and a part of you thinks that he'll only like you if you let him touch you. It sounds a little manipulative for him to say he doesn't like you but then touch you when stay over.
I've never met you, but I know, without a doubt, that you deserve better than a guy who makes you feel uncomfortable enough that you would need to ask about it on this site.

[zollo]

I wouldn't be doin' anything girl. A young guy with a girl in his bed, even if he doesn't like her if allowed would surely grope some stuff. He said before that he doesn't see you that way and I feel like he's taking advantage of you and the love that you had for him. Stay safe hun! <3

[Quackthulu]

If you aren’t sure then answer is no. Don’t rush into anything that you aren’t fully comfortable with.

[Crazyguy22tt]

Grow up kid

[Asker]

I am asking this question because it's very important. No matter the age I am being touched sexually and am not completely sure if I'm okay with it. If you have nothing nice to say or nothing that will help me then please do not put your opinion on my question. Thank you and I hope you have a very nice day.

[Crazyguy22tt]

ok.. report those who touch you sensually without your consent... that's a crime.

[Anonymous]

I’m confused. You already said you’re a friends with benefits.

[Asker]

He's my friend but on how things are with him lately it seems like friends with benefits. But nothing is official and I'm really unsure on how I feel about him touching me.