Is sex and sexuality something to be shamed, in your view?

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  • my view is that it shouldn't even come up as a thing to be judged and i have to say that those who choose to push the fact they are lgbgtqrs or whatever are just as guilty of making sexual preferance or sexuality a big issue as those homophobic conservative extremists who think all gay people need conversion therapy... personally i dont give a fuck what your sexuality is and if you judge mine you are likely to get it thrown straight back at you... now i know many gay or bi people will take this the wrong way but all i ask is that if you think also that it should never be an issue then why make it one.

    ps asker im sure you know this isn't aimed at you personally, just a rant aimed at those who place too much importance on the trivial

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  • It's complex. It's a powerful part of most people, and shaming for sexuality alone rarely works. What gets shamed is usually any kind of socially unacceptable sexuality, which changes from culture to culture. Whether it should be shamed or not is a matter of what kind of culture you want to promote, and on what scale.

    Traditionally, men and women were compared to each other as a form of shaming. Calling a man feminine traits was considered shameful and calling a woman masculine traits was likewise shameful. We lost the latter somewhere in the last half a century. There have been efforts to get rid of the former, but's proving more persistent. Maybe both of them should be.

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  • Of course not. It's quite normal. All mammals do it. It's the reason we exist. Our race, homo sapiens, or just humans, reproduce the same way other races do like canine and feline. If a black person and a white person of our race homo sapiens reproduce, they have a brown baby of the race homo sapiens. It's very easy right?

  • Definitely not shamed. But it should not be treated as a personality trait. Be who you are, personally I give 0 fucks, if you're a good person then you're a good person. I've met plenty of people who are all up in the face with their sexuality and gosh is it annoying.

    • What's wrong with it being a personality trait? Some people are good with people, some people like talking to people, some people think about stuff, some people are intellectual, some people are sexual, some people are demonstrative about sex and so on So what?

    • I genuinely do not think that being pansexual, demisexual or an attack helicopter is a personality trait. Sowwy.

    • sure it is. well being an attack helicopter is stupid, if you are going to choose, be a dragon, always be a dragon!! But personalities have multitudes of traits, sexuality is a small part of that.

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  • Absolutely not!!

  • NO! Certainly not! Whatever the sex/sexuality is, if it’s consensual then it’s nothing to be ashamed of… And if you are ashamed of it, perhaps you need to rethink what you should be doing it or not?

  • No it is not. Sex and sexuality is a part of our cosmetic make up...
    But on the flip side, someone comfortable with their sex or sexuality shouldn't be treated like they're easy... Or are sexual with just anyone...

  • Sex and sexuality are NOTHING to be ashamed of.

  • Humans have always been hellbent on finding reasons to hate each other and shaming those who don't conform to whatever is fashionable at the time. Sexual behaviour is no different.

  • Never, but that doesn’t mean it needs to be flaunted either.

  • I don't think so, I mean why you should be ashamed? It's your life, It's your sexuality, who are other people to judge on that. I think people should be vocal about their sexuality because it defines who they are. They should be proud of their sexuality! And, wherever you go, in every nook and corner people are having sex. So, if you are open about it, this is not a big problem!

  • no it is not anything to be ashamed of ! sex is a beautiful and loving thing to be shared between a husband and his wife only ! thanks

  • No. I've seen girls get slut shamed for having sex with their boyfriends or having open relationships, but making their other aware beforehand. Then vise versa the people who slut shame are not exactly private about their desire to get all the head they can.
    I'm tired of it. Be safe about sex. That's all. It is nothing shameful. That is up to the individual and their morals.
    Along with sexuality. I say embrace it. There is nothing wrong with loving in preference.

    • Well said, I couldn't agree more.

  • If everyone consents, everyone is legal age, and no one is getting injured no reason to feel any shame, if your ashamed dont do it, if you like it and they shame you they're a bad person.

    Some people like shame so I geuss for that reason alone yes technically sometimes shame is part of it.

  • I don’t think it should be openly talked about, and stop taking pride in it, we don’t care because everyone does it. People act like they’re special and cool when they brag about their sex lives. It should be kept private.

  • No, not at all.

  • Only when it results in broken families, increased crime, incurable disease, mass abortions and antibiotic resistant STDS.

  • Sex is the cornerstone upon which all male confidence is built, and as long as that is the case there will be "rules" to The Game. Shame is merely the counterbalance to pleasure, so to ask if it should be shamed is to ask if it should be pleasurable. The only way to break this weird requirement is to give men something else to base their confidence on.

  • In what sense?

  • If something that's to be shamed about is not talking about it.

    Talk it out and get your doubts cleared rather than assuming wrong things.

  • I'd say it's special and secret. It's something to be treasured and preserved rather than wearing it around your upper arm as a part of your daily habits. I'd prefer to keep it in a lockbox in my drawer for safekeeping to use at the right time. It's special and good to save for the right person.

  • No, but it should be kept as private as possible. Unless it's hurting someone, like having an affair, then it absolutely should be shamed quite extensively.

  • Not at all, it's natural and necessary for happy, healthy and enjoyable relations.

  • Not at all. It's an normal and important part of being human and it should be possible to discuss it openly.

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