Why are girls with bigger natural breasts seen as stupid or a slut?

[lilsezza101]

In my previous job i have been called a whore slut slag and treated like i was stupid and had loads of comments made about my bodyshape by both male and female members of staff. I put formal complaints in which were ignored and so I quit my job. For context i'm 5ft1 and have G cup breasts small waist but wide hips. I guess i'm between a curvy hourglass and possible pear shape. Just wish people would see me for me not my bodyshape

[normalice]

For guys it's wishful thinking, for girls it's jealousy. No one is thinking about it from your perspective. Everyone thinks about it in terms of what they want or what they feel threatened by. Though, I imagine many will try to pass it off as a joke just to see if you are okay with them voicing their deepest frustrations in joke form. And if you don't accept the joke as "funny," it will stop being a joke and become increasingly urgent that you accept the premise of their frustrations to validate how they cope with their insecurities.

I would point out that any way you slice it these are damaged people who are toxic to be around, but you can still expect some degree of civility as long as you are cautious. For your safety try not to hang around them socially. Even if they seem to be alright, don't follow them unless it is to a place where many are in attendance who dont make such "jokes." As of late the insecure have been saturated with a sense of entitlement because of trump. I might even suggest taking a week off after the election - they are prone to react violently (either in celebration or despair).

[lilsezza101]

I'm. actually in england but i agree with what you say until the trump bit because it doesn't apply in our country haha

[normalice]

Ah. Lol. Well, from what I gather Boris is about as English of a trump as it gets. So I wasn't completely off the mark, but it's still quite true I was viewing your issue through the lens of U. S. culture issues..

[lilsezza101]

Haha yeah boris is just as much of a dick 😂

[NamerOfStars]

If that's the case, they're doing wrong; body shape is supposed to evoke lust, not derision. Man, if you're so screwed up you can't even do *lechery* right...

I'm sorry you had to go through that. I think part of it is an assumption that a woman who makes her breasts look big is trying to attract male attention, and presumably going too far in doing so, and that a woman with particularly large breasts is obviously trying to make them look bigger. The second part is envy. Big breasts will gather attention, and they see that and ignore all the downsides. The third part- perhaps the largest- if them just being jerks.

[EmoKate97]

Girl with big boobs here.

Why are you giving us shit and not the 100s of men who stare at us, talk to us all nice and interested, always treat us like we're the most important person in the room and telling us we're great, all in the means of trying to fuck us? And yes dude, if i'm out and about within 2 months about 100 guys will either stare at my boobs, try to hit me up or give me a compliment. And i don't like the attention most times and if i make it clear that i won't want to be approach, dudes will think i'm a bitch and get offended, shit is fucking lame.

Like if girls hit on you that much as guys hit on me you'd be a shameless fuck boy and think everything you said was funny and amazing.

[lilsezza101]

Not sure if i understood your post correctly, but i am not giving women shit. My post specifically stated that from my previous job i was slut shamed by male and female staff members for my bodyshape. I think men have pointed out it may possibly be jealousy from women and from the guys it's a case of they pissed off because they can't have me. I do agree with the unwanted attention though. I have cleavage in pretty much everything i wear and got told to have more respect for myself. I was wearing jeans and t shirt for fucks sake

[EmoKate97]

Ok that's weird, when i looked the op, it was blue and it didn't have a description explaining the context so i assume you were a toxic incel so my bad. I was messing Adnasueam and i think that messed with the colors. But as for the question, the main point i made still applies a little. Like straight up, there are a lot of shameless guys are just attracted to big boobs sexually, its annoying. Then when we don't respond to their flirts or "niceness" the way they want us too "by fucking them of course" they get mad and hold it against us and see more guys approaching us, and attempt to deflect that they were one of those losers by talking shit to the girl. I think because you're shorter, guys feel like you're not a threat and are taking out their frustration out on you since by your body frame you have a more sexually highlighted body, and i think they're sexually bullying because they seem to think you will put up with it, you should either report it or straight up bail and get a new job if they're not doing anything, the money is NOT worth being in such a toxic environment. That said, i have to ask, have you been fooling around with guys there? I don't mean to be rude but it kinda sounds like you might've, that would explain it also

[lilsezza101]

I have left the job now. When i started the job i was virgin and kept myself to myself. Its not just the guys that gave me shit the women would too. I spoke guys more simply because the team i was sat with had more guys on it. The girls made a group chat about me which i found out about calling me a whore because i hung out with one specific guy (who later did become my 1st boyfriend and 1st time) the girls based me being a whore by going for drinks with one guy and we hung out a lot. This was before i even slept with him. The lads often asked but i turned them down because they just awful. I mean to give full context to what the place was like a manager sent a facebook message to my male friend saying how i am toxic and he shouldn't be friends with me. Baring in mind he is 30 years old and old enough to make his own decsion. He basis for me being toxic... i got a boyfriend and was still friends with my male friend. My then boyfriend and i broke up quite publically after he emotionally abused me which was made public knowledge at work after i had to get police involved. And the shaming went from she is whore to liar from all genders. So no i dont sleep around the office. I met my 1st ever boyfriend there and was called a whore before i even got with him.

[kaylaS91]

Because boobs and ass have both been hypersexualized. So naturally, the bigger they are, the bigger your sex appeal. Simpletons then go one step further to think that the more sexually appealing you are, the more sexually active you are. Men (and women) don't like competition- hence why women with such figures will often be the target of sexual predators and/or sexism.

Just ignore them if this happens again in the future- whether it be at work, or even when you're just out and about. You're young enough to seek out moving to a completely new job field that will attract fewer asshats.

[MrOracle]

Those people were shallow assholes. Unfortunately, certain jobs tend to attract such people - people who are overly about image and not about the person - and so you were probably smart to quit and look for a different job.

[AustinMan]

I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's grossly unfair. No offense have you considered breast reduction and nipple lift?

[lilsezza101]

Multiple times i was rejected from NHS and can't afford private. But i shouldn't have to change my body because people are judgmental

[simonqq]

You should definitely not stop standing up for yourself and many will try to shut those down that they feel threatened by and I think you encounter that a lot especially from other women that can be really be bothered by someone really beautiful possibly taking their spotlight. As for men we can be nasty but I genuinely think you will find guys who will see you for who you are and your actual talents. Don't stop shutting the nasty and jealous people down.

I hope you will be appreciated for your contributions and not just your body.

This is something I've thought about a bit about women who are very attractive or sexually attractive that it's both a blessing and a curse and many probably think it's so easy being beautiful.

[Daniela1982]

Because before they were born the angels asked if they wanted big brains or big tits and so there you have your answer.

[MrKinktastic]

Jealousy from their female peers and increased sexual attention from men I would think.

Slut is them being optimistic
Stupid is what they call her when he rejects them or when her female peers are jealous of the attention she’s getting.

[JaneDoe377]

Yea people are dumb. Best answer.

[RydiaMagnifique]

Idfk but people who think that are retards.

Sincerely,

a girl with small tits

[ChocoBrownieMonster]

Honestly, thats well out of order, i am very different i'd support a girl whose being harassed. I have however been victimised for it numerous times, I've also had false complaints made about me by girls & women for standing up for myself. I dont think breast size relates to intelligence, but girls do use their breasts to get ahead sometimes. Goodlooking people find it tough in workplaces because there are more hateful ugly people. Dont care what anyone says, they wish they had your figure.

[Lynx122]

Some people can't control themselves big boobs seems to really bing it out of people.

[boggboss]

Just people trying to get under your skin for them if u have a sexy body clearly u use it and trying to abuse you for that belief they have in there head

[NaughtybyNature546]

But seriously I know one with massive boobs who's seriously stupid, we used to be roommates

[Reaperbot666]

sounds like a crappy place to work. glad you left and hope you can find something better.

[Dargil]

This will sound weird, but it's an example of cultural bigotry. Maybe out the 1950's
Big boobs and blond hair = airhead = easy lay. This woman, Jayne Mansfield, typified it.

A bra like this can flatten you somewhat.

And you should dress in such a way that will not show off your tiny waist. Better to look "thick".

[lilsezza101]

Or you know people could not be rude. I understand your point and well aware of the sterotype. It's just rude. I shouldn't have to change my style which is normally jeans and t shirt to accommodate for others

[Dargil]

No, but you can't control their reactions. Life ain't fair. I have to say that you in jeans and a t-shirt will turn heads. Call it a weapon you should conceal until you want to use it.

[lilsezza101]

I don't see how jeans and t shirt is sexy 😂😂

[Dargil]

Because they display your hourglass figure, assuming your T-shirt is tucked in.

[lilsezza101]

Well yeah but again why should i hide my figure. I cannot change my body shape. Person can put on and loose weight but you cannot physically alter defining features such as wide hips. It's part of your skeletal structure. Because someone isa judgmental prick i should cover up? Behave haha

[Dargil]

I agree. You should not be ashamed at all. Ignore the cretins.

[Anno2]

Psychology i guess. We tend to act the way we look and judge others by the way they look.

Good thing you quit, doesn't sound like a healthy workplace.

[Haelaeix123]

Thats horrible to have happened to you, one day you'll meet a guy who appreciates you for you :)

[_SOARER]

Why do you have a job? just find a man who can provide for you. You won't have to deal with this ever again

[Grond21]

That says nothing about you and everything about them. You did nothing wrong, and you don't deserve to be called those names

[AmeerX]

I have never seen this kind of bias in my country. Does it really happen?
Here fat girls are biased against.
Otherwise you see a girl in office and everyone takes his or her side

[Wise4myage]

You aren't, and whoever says that is a narrow minded moron.

[TheFlak38]

because they never go against the urge of flashing them everywhere.