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Is it okay for my boyfriend to ask a girl online for nudes?

my boyfriend asked a girl online who‘s from a different country for nudes.. is this the same as watching porn? should I be okay with it or should I be concerned?
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Superb Opinion

  • I personally think asking for nudes is different than porn. In porn, most people are fairly detached from the pornstars. There isn't a lot of emotion besides lust. With recieving nude photos from people you've spoken to, there's a more personal and emotional connection. So I think it's quite a bit worse than porn. If two people in a relationship hadn't discussed what they consider cheating and a girl found out a guy had been watching porn, I wouldn't consider it cheating (but if she did tell him she considers it cheating, then I would consider it cheating, even if he disagrees), but if two people in a relationship didn't discuss what is cheating but she found out that he's asking other girls for nudes, I actually would consider that cheating, because in my opinion it's like a greater offense. That being said, some guys disagree and they wouldn't consider that cheating. I think most guys would and I'd be inclined to think your boyfriend did, too, but depending on how much you feel for him, maybe it's best you tell him how you feel about it and give him a second chance. And if you plan to stay with him, I'd suggest going over other things that you and him consider cheating, such as flirting with others (some people don't consider that cheating).

Most Helpful Guy

  • I would consider it cheating. Porn doesn't involve connection between two people. It's only one sides. Viewer enjoy it in spare time. Nudes involve other partner. It shows he is betraying you by asking nudes of other girls. Ask yourself. Does he deserves to be your soulmate? It's your life your choice. What might be right for me might not be right for you. Take your decision based on your relationship and expectations from your partner. I hope I answered your question. Any queries?

Most Helpful Girl

  • Nudes and porn are different. Porn is mostly fake and produced - the people in it are actors; it's their job and they get paid. When you ask someone for free nudes and it is NOT their job, it could be considered cheating. He could ask for yours instead lol. But it's up to you, whether or not you're ok with it.

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Why did he do it, how did he excuse it? How often?

    • he said he wanted to see if it‘s a fake account which i think is a bs excuse. he said he didn‘t think much about it and it wss onöy once. about half a year ago

    • Keep in mind that they lie and trickle truth all the time. Yeah, it is a bullshit excuse. And I do doubt it happened once. If he continues to lie then I am sorry to say but this is a lost case.. If his head is still so far up his own arse where he thinks that he can treat you like this, please let go. I do believe in second chances in cases like this but only if they earn it.

    • how do I know if he really stops? would you just trust him? I don‘t want to control his phone because that‘s toxic too and he could just delete it..

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  • He has zero respect for you...

  • Be concerned -- and start thinking about moving on. If he is unfaithfully looking beyond you for sexual excitement now, just imagine what he'd be like if you're in a long-term relationship with him or married to him

  • It's worse than watching porn because he is communicating with her. It's completely unacceptable.

  • Not really.
    If that girl is not a "public" one, like a celebriti or a pornstar who especialy do that for money fisrt then is cheating.
    Is the same like he will ask your friend.
    That girl don't show to evrybody on internet so is not a public personality

  • If you have to ask the virtual peanut gallery how to feel about this you have bigger problems than your boyfriend scamming pics from dumb girls

    • what does that mean?

  • I wouldn’t like it if it was reversed

    • I already talked to him about it and he said he‘s sorry and he will stop and I forgave him.. but it still makes me sad and I keep thinking about it. should I talk to him again?

    • If I were with and into a woman I’d never think of asking someone else for nudes

    • Tell him if it happens again, you will dump him.

  • Its worse in my opinion, because he's actually talking to someone that he could hook up with at some point and likely would if she lived nearby.

  • Naw, it's fine.
    She's far away, you're there.

  • its not okay at all.
    its cheating.

  • It's worse than porn because the person he is asking isn't as detached as porn is. Porn is detached because it is made for widespread and public consumption and use. Webcam models are similar but closer to cheating. Another person sending nudes specifically to one person and nobody else is as close to cheating as it can be without physically doing so.

  • Fuck no it's not okay, you should be concerned

  • Nope

  • You tell us

  • No it's not

  • It's your call if you're ok with it or not

  • Concerned; it is not like watching porn as he is directly requesting its creation.

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