Should women hold out on sex while dating until a man commits to a relationship?

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My personal opinion: if a man likes you he likes. It don't matter rather you have sex on the first or the last date. If you hold out until you get into a relationship how will you know if you two are sexually compatible? I think you need to be all around compatible.

What do y'all think?

Should women hold out on sex while dating until a man commits to a relationship?

kaylaS91 · Accepted Answer

Not necessarily. I mean.. for one, more and more women are going the way of just wanting NSA versus actual relationships. Women have a desire for sex as well and using it as a bait to get guys to settle down with them is harmful to both parties, in my opinion. If the woman is doing so to prove she's 'worth his time', it'd be better if she did so by using more than just her vagina.

The men who will commit to a relationship only if/after they get some puss are the minrotiy, in my opinion. The loudest by far, but still mainly active online. I feel like a lot of potentially good relationships will fail to get started because of that mind-set which demonizes men unnecessarily.

KelliCub · Accepted Answer

This question assumes that sex isfor the guy’s pleasure and not your own. In any case, it’s bad to weaponize sex.

pajamasam · Accepted Answer

Sexually compatible doesn't mean the same thing to men and women. It took me time to learn but women have so many other things they consider before they are comfortable with sex. Where a lot of men can basically look at a girl and in about 2-3 minutes decide sexual compatibility on the spot.

I think because women have more requirements for what determines sexual compatibility then it should really just be up to the lady about when she is or isn't ready for sex. Just be upfront about that time window is all, I dont mind waiting because I prefer reationships anyway. But I really don't want to wait months upon months before a girl finally decides to trust me with sex.

MrNameless · Accepted Answer

This is dependant entirely on the person and couple. You can tell if someone is really interested in you for a relationship vs just a fling. He'll want to get to know you more. I don't think having sex sooner than later (a couple of weeks vs months) doesn't change anything. Really depends on both your values

Cynicaldreamer · Answer

Absolutely! And I don't care who downvotes me, I stand by that point.

I was raised not to sleep with a man until he commits to you!!!
Nowadays people have sex WAY too soon, and as a result it gives the men no incentive to want to get to know more about you or connect with you.

Ladies our body is like a grand prize... it should be earned, not given out! Don't just let a guy sleep with you to keep him from losing interest, or finding some other cheap slut. If a guy wants you bad enough, he WILL wait! If he won't wait, he's not worth it.

One of my exes waited over a year to sleep with me until we were in a serious relationship AND when I felt ready.
I'm not saying a man has to wait that long, but my point is, he loved me so much he waited. That's a good man.

DestinyElizabeth04 · Answer

I think this is different for everybody. With my ex, we didn't have sex for nearly a year because I didn't feel like he was fully committed and honestly, I am the type to get hooked after sex if I already like the guy. So to save myself, I waited. I was with him for 7 years and we honestly weren't compatible at all. I do believe that I knew this long before dating him but I was too naive and young to care at that point of my life.
However, with my current boyfriend it was the polar opposite. We met, became inseparable immediately afterwards and had sex after a week of knowing eachother. We have now been together for 2 and a half years and our relationship is still fantastic.

Mystic_Nova · Answer

That's always my plan, as a. Virgin who is to busy right now for a relationship, when I'm finally ready for one, if I don't have a decent connection with you, I can't ha e sex with you. Why would I give myself to a guy I'm not fully comfortable with
Also, he needs to have a std check before as well, ill take one for fairness reasons, but u don't do anything to even get one so I already know I'm good. If he refuses, then we're through, cause he just showed me I can't trust him with my health and trust.

If a guy cares for he, he'll wait when your ready for it. If not, then you saved yourself fr ok m having sex with a asshole🤷🏼‍♀️

DizzyDesii · Answer

The testing of sexual compatibility is what leads to some people being easy or becoming little hoes (and that goes for guys and girls). So i personally dont need to test out several people for sexual compatibility. If anything i’d just wanna see what he looks like down there to make sure i find it appealing in a fckable suckable way. Other than that, if his stroke game is wack, i’d just teach him to do better. I rather teach someone who sucks then dump em and keep test driving different people. We all sucked once upon a time at something. It just took practice

Fatherhere901 · Answer

I actually agree that Men and women should both abstain from having sex  before you get married. Unfortunately, a lot of women confuse sex with affection. What I mean by this is, they won't show affection to someone there dating, believing that that is also a form of sex. In either case, it will definitely be funny when someone that refused to have sex with you all of a sudden, jumps in bed a week later with somebody else. And their only defense to doing this will be  “they don't mean as much to me as you did “

anonymau55 · Answer

Whatever makes you comfortable honestly. I've waited and I haven't. It hasn't made a ton of difference.

TonyV · Answer

How ever you want to do it, I mean I think I'll be calling her girlfriend before we do it so I I geuss yeah

OlderThanILook · Answer

I wouldn't continue to date someone if I knew they were trying to use sex as commitment bait. I have too much pride for that. I'd literally rather eat mud.

SphynxUK · Answer

It’s not about holding out, it’s waiting until you feel ready. If that’s day one, go for it. If you don’t do it you’ll never know if you are compatible or not.

Freddy78361 · Answer

It depends on the woman's attractiveness in the sexual /romantic marketplace.

If she can get another better deal (man) quickly then yes because in today's dating market if he has other options available he won't wait.

If she isn't 'high value' then she should take what she can get and get it on.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes. That is how they screw and leave... you were easy. You didn't weed out the guys who do not really care about you and just wanted to screw you.

NarutoUzumaki007 · Answer

yes why not

TraceyByrd · Answer

I voted , it's my own choice I'm stickin to it 💯😁

Dargil · Answer

Seed the relationship with a paced walk of the bases and then decide if you think he has earned the bounty.

NerdInDenial · Answer

It won't happen; women should be more selective in their sexual partners.

Bandit74 · Answer

I would be fine with waiting if I think she is consistent/genuinely hard to get. However if I think she's been easy for other guys in the past then I would probably lost interest and give up...

Broken_doll · Answer

I say hold out for your own protection. Sex is the most valuable thing you can give a man, so if you care about him, make him work for it.
If you're that horny, u can fuck side bitches while you're waiting for that dream man

Ripper_E · Answer

Liking someone takes time. Anyone can appear to like you. You are right. If he likes you, he likes you, but it doesn't help to simply have sex with any guy you are interested in unless you see he is interested in you. If not, then it's your own fault when the guy only wants sex. You gave it to him and he left after he got it.
I think you gotta give somewhere because everyone is different, but leaning too much in either direction is bad.

Katie_Mae · Answer

I think it’s up to each person. I’d say they should wait till they are both comfortable then once they are both comfortable they can do it any time

pigoat · Answer

It's not really a right or wrong answer here Shit either works or it doesn't

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