How horny would a guy be who has not had sex in over a year?

[Amy1996]

So, I've recently started an online relationship with a guy about 3 months ago – he's 26 for the record if that makes a difference to my question. Because of the coronavirus lockdown we just chatted online and went slow for the first 3 months. We had our first date irl last week and it went really well.

Long story short we have been chatting about relationships and sex online and he admitted he has not had sex for over a year (he is a single dad who went through a really tough break-up about a year ago now). He basically admitted to me he's not had sex in at least 16 months. At the end of our date we had a quick kiss. It was just in the moment and didn't last long but it was really nice.

I'm wondering how turned on would it make a guy like that feel? I'm not going to lie, I kind of like the idea that I'm the first girl he has kissed or done anything with in so long. Would it have turned him on big time? And if so how much? Are we talking cuming in his underwear levels of turned on? Thanks a lot for taking the time to read!.

[pajamasam]

I've been in that situation before. It is a huge turn on. No he probably didn't jizz in his pants. But he has probably sat around at home and thought about that kiss a lot. He has probably replayed the memory several times in his head and the thought that you liked it has so many implications to a male sex starved mind.

"Is she ready for more?" "If she liked that what else will she like?" "What if I move to fast and scare her away?" "What if I dont move fast enough and she gets bored?" "Why is my heart pounding?" "I haven't felt like that in years"

All just quick ideas of the thoughts that may be racing in his mind in the following hours and days after that kiss. One things for certain though, if he hasn't been intimate in anyway for a year or more a simple kiss is going to reignite passion he hasn't felt in a long time.

It wouldn't surprise me if he's laying awake at night thinking out loud about that kiss and what it might mean going forward. Almost like a teenage girl day dreaming about the perfect prom date.

Men are completely capable of being deeply romantic creatures, and situations like this are what awaken those feelings.

[Amy1996]

Wow I love this answer! Thank you so much. It's kind of exciting to read that!

[0112358]

I'm married and it's been like 3 years.

Ehhh, I think it's more the kiss would really be likely to make him … you know happy. Legit happy. Hopefully anyway.

I don't think he's likely bouncing off the walls horny, but it might take him a few times to get ejac. control.

To some extent it depends -how- he's been masturbating in the interim.

[Amy1996]

By happy, you mean turned on right? haha. Also if you don't mind how exactly do you mean ejaculation control. Like he will cum really easily? lol.

[Forestfox]

Boner for sure. But I don't think prematurely ejaculating

[Amy1996]

Lol the premature ejacuation was kind of just wishful thinking. It would be nice if I was giving him a boner just from a kiss!

[Forestfox]

I agree!! It's a turn on to know your kiss gets him hard. If it does happen and you notice it either by accidentally touching it, or seeing it, just look at him and smirk 😊

[Amy1996]

It's super hot isn't it. Next time I'm going to try and push up against him slightly to see if I can feel anything!

[Forestfox]

Crossing my fingers for that you feel something and hopefully big! 🤞

[Forestfox]

Thanks for MHO!

[Amy1996]

Lol thanks! :)

[NamerOfStars]

It depends- is he masturbating? If so, the appeal is not so much the orgasm as the sex, if you see what I mean.

[Amy1996]

Yeah that makes sense. I hadn't asked him that actually. Seems a little personal. Makes me wonder. I guess most guys would masturbate if they've not had any sex for 16 months right?

[NamerOfStars]

Most guys would masturbate even if they had.

[Amy1996]

Yeah I guess so. I mean I'm not stupid I'm sure he has but I have no idea how often he does it.

[God_of_Thunder]

It's impossible to say, really.

It depends a lot on his own physiology, health, and sex drive, which would be unique to him. It also depends on how much, how often he masturbates. While not being a substitute for a real woman, it will still take the edge off.

He could be anywhere from "rip your clothes off and ravage you" to "doesn't really care" at this point.

I'm sorry, I wish I had a better answer, but there's just no real way to know.

[Amy1996]

Thanks it makes sense. For me masturbation is just not the same as sex. I simply can't imagine relying on masturbation for as long as he has with nothing else.

[God_of_Thunder]

Oh, me either; there's just no substitute for the real thing. I simply included it because masturbating to orgasm can at least temporarily sate a guy's sex drive. If he were to masturbate immediately before going on a date with you, for example, then his sex drive could be radically different than if he hasn't masturbated in a week, simply because he had "taken the edge off" very recently.

[Amy1996]

Thanks that makes sense. I'm not an idiot, I'm sure he does masturbate but I have no idea how much and how often. I guess I just have a thing for the idea I can drive him wild with a simple kiss.

[SjE78]

speaking from experience I'm always horny, and it's been beginning of last year since i last had sex so yeah pretty much but it doesn't control my life though

[Avicenna]

Yes, cumming in his underwear. A guy without sex for a year is going to be going out of his mind.

[victorvolf]

"Would it have turned him on big time?"

No. Lack of sex does not add up like that if you masturbate, I speak from experience. Two years ago I haven't had sex for about 3 years and when I did it was with a girl I was not attracted to, so I couldn't even cum.

It's kinda cute that you thought he came in his pants, not going to lie.

[Amy1996]

Well I didn't mean literally but I sort of hoped something close. Maybe I just want to have supernatural powers over guys I like.

[goaded]

I doubt he hasn't done anything sexual in 16 months, just not with a partner.

[Browneye57]

Perhaps not with a woman, but I guarantee you he's been jerking off. A guy doesn't just shut his sex off like a woman can or will. This what scares the living shit out of normal guys.
And a 'relationship online' is not a relationship. More like pen pans. Ya got nuthin' here.

So, you think you want to step, eh? Its not what you think, I guarantee it.

[Amy1996]

I never said he wasn't masturbating. I get it I'm not an idiot. But masturbation is not the same thing as being with someone. Plus as I said we already met irl and kissed as I noted above. That was sort of my question!

[Browneye57]

Surely yes. And he's beyond horny. He's likely grateful for the interest. I would last about a month before I had a new woman. I'm just like that, they wait in line. LOL

[Amy1996]

Sometimes people go through really horrible break ups though and you just need a break. I think that's what happened with this guy. Plus he's a single dad so dating is probably harder for him than most guys his age. Even with masturbation he must still be horny though right? Maybe it's different for a women but masturbation is not the real thing for me. 16 months would be an eternity for me.

[Browneye57]

I moved out of the mansion we had just built, two kids, the yacht, five cars, and the estate, into an 800 square foot apartment with her and her girlfriend. That was a little over thirty years ago. That divorce cost me right about a half-million. People ask why divorce is so expensive... BECAUSE IT'S WORTH IT. And yes, we're still together. Everyone said 'it will never work'. :)

[Amy1996]

Not sure what that's got to do with sex though! :)

[Browneye57]

It means bailing on life is a red flag. I never missed a beat. Maybe she cut off his dick. LOL Proceed with caution. :)

[Amy1996]

I don't think he bailed on life, I just think he had to prioritize other things straight away like being a dad. Also not everyone deals with break ups in the same way.

[Browneye57]

May well be so. And because of all that I question your desire to jump into the middle of it all. GIANT RED FLAG. But you will anyway, and then you'll realize that you'll just never be his priority. EVER. Even after the kids grow up, cuz they'll always want something from him and they will be his number one priority. This is a horrible way to live your married life. Just horrible. For a good many other reasons as well, but we don't go into that yet. Good luck - you're gonna need it.

[Amy1996]

For that very reason I am taking it slow and just enjoying what it is for now. Trust me I'm well aware of what the deal is and I'm not going to jump into anything and suddenly commit myself to a relationship with two little people as well.

[Browneye57]

I get that too. But you're just lying to yourself, ignoring the red flags, just HOPING things can be different. Newsflash: THEY'RE NOT. It's not changing, it's not getting better, you're only committing yourself to him more and more every time you spend time together. It's like a GIANT LIE. Do you know ANYTHING about being a STEP MOTHER? I'm here to tell you I'm an expert - I had two little ones and my new wife became their step mother. The oldest, now 34 herself, has married a guy that has a kid and now SHE'S a stepmother. 1. No matter the love and commitment you give to him or his children, NEITHER one of them will ever properly appreciate you. You will ALWAYS be just the 'step mother'. 2. You'll never have full control or final say in ANYTHING. EVER. Even the kids realize this. 3. You will NEVER be the most important thing to him - you will ALWAYS take a back seat to these children. If you start your own family then you are ALWAYS in charge, a priority to your spouse, and have final say in whatever is decided. 4. If his ex is anywhere in the picture she will make life miserable for you. She will always HATE you. I could go on, but you get the picture. This has to be the most selfless thing anyone could ever do - the raising of someone else's children, basically for free. YOU don't even get the child support!!!

[genericname85]

in my experience, hornyness caps at a certain point. for me it's like after a week. i don't get "more horny" after that. it's just a constant stagnant state.

[Worshop]

Probably enough to pop a boner just from the kiss. Jizzing his pants is a bit excessive lol, but I'm sure he'd be turned on. Wish you the best of luck lol

[coffeewithcream]

Depends on the guy.
He's likely thinking about you.

[Amy1996]

Thinking about me how?

[coffeewithcream]

Well, you'd be a few points up from a cocker spaniel.

[Amy1996]

Lol. I kind of hope so honestly. I mean if he is going to be jerking himself off I want him to be thinking about me.

[coffeewithcream]

:) :)

[FreeOhSeven]

I’m incredibly horny…all. the. time. I just got out of prison a short time ago and it has been nearly a year. I was having sex probably 3-5 times a week before going to prison.

[red_knight]

No1 cums their pants but he definitely went home and jacked off 😂

[Yellovv]

Very difficult to stay calm when you are horny..

[fett253]

If I'm incredibly horny on skipping one day, I'd imagine exploding in shorts is very possible.

[Amy1996]

Lol thanks. I hope so. haha

[LivingOnTop]

If he has porn and a hand he’s probably doing OK.

[Anonymous]

not unusual for a large portion of guys worldwide.

[Anonymous]

If this man releases his horny feelings with you. you will get fucked 24/7

[Amy1996]

Can't say I would complain too much if this happened. He is super cute.

[Opinion Owner]

Good for you get ready then cause you will get used a lot and filled with cum soon 💦