Do straight women hate gay men for stealing potential partners from them?

I've heard women include men being gay in their complaints when they talk about not finding a suitable partner, so I'm wondering do straight women feel threatened by gay men?
Do straight women hate gay men for stealing potential partners from them?
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  • Considering a gay man can only attract other gay men (I know there are bisexual and pansexual men out there, too), I'm honestly not worried. If a guy is attracted to another guy, I don't stand a chance from the start because he's going to go for the one he is attracted to no matter if I was included in the equation or not.

    So no, I don't hate gay men and I also don't believe they're "stealing potential partners". You can't steal a potential partner in the same way you can't steal someone's boyfriend. That boyfriend made a choice and his choice was to leave you for someone else, ergo your "potential partner" made a choice and decided they wanted to be with another guy. It doesn't even necessarily have anything to do with me; the guy might not have even seen me as a "potential partner" as I did him. That whole "stealing" a partner thing is honestly just victim-blaming bullshit because we're putting the blame on the person the guy chose over you instead of realizing the guy is old enough to make his own decisions.

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  • Not sure about others but I don't feel like gay men are competition for me in the dating world because gay men would be most appealing to and interested only in other gay men. If a guy was looking for some dick he wouldn't be interested in me any way so...

    • How does vaginal intercourse feels like for you?

    • Whoa tony why do you wanna know so bad bro?

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  • I doubt it. I can see being annoyed at an attractive guy for being gay, since that means he's not interested in you, but the guys he'd be "stealing" would also be gay, and thus not into you. Unless they think that gay men have magical powers to convert straight guys, but if that were true, there'd be a LOT more guy dudes in the world.

  • REALLY? I have several Gay Male friends and a few more, Gay, Female Friends, and NONE, have EVER said anything about that!! None of them are interested in 'Hetero' people, usually, and that is just a SAD 'excuse' when being alone on Friday or Saturday night, for either gender!!

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  • How do you even figure that those men were ever potential partners? They weren't.

  • No, and it's really funny that they would.

    Gay men aren't interested in women, so that "potential partner" was never really potential for any woman.

  • Considering I don't date bi men or gay men, go for it Idc lol

  • Lmao i dont hate them but if he can steal the guy away then the guy was not something i was interested in to begin with since im not into bi/gay men

  • Gay guys can't steal a man from men. It's impossible because I only like straight men. Men I like would tell a gay guy off lol

  • How would a gay man steal a partner from me? if a guy was interested in turned out to be gay it means he wasn't going to be with me no matter what the circumstances.

  • Umm no💁🏾‍♀️😂😂😂I have a problem with gay guys who have this mindset. And tbh can’t nobody ever take my man nor any potential man because he’s straight not bi or curious or gay. The narcissistic shit has to stop 🙄🙄.

  • i will discuss about this both on a personal and general perspective. I had a guy i liked back in high school, we were best buds and got along really well, we still do, and he rejected me then, he later came out as gay.
    So in my case u could say i lost a potential partner to being gay, but i dont hate him for it.
    The same goes for if they take a potential partner away from me. I dont own whoever i like, so if they happen to settlefor someone else, i would definetely get upset, but its ultimately my partners choice to choose. So i wouldn't really be mad.

  • I have nothing against gay men and I don't feel that I'm competing against them. The men who are interested in them are gay too. So, they wouldn't be interested in me anyways.

  • Not in the slightest.

    • I don’t see why this is relevant.

    • I just want to know that

  • This makes no sense.. Gay men go for gay men, and maybe bisexuals. There is going to be little to no competition for straight women

  • I am a straight woman and do not hate gay men ! God does not approve of them though for - male and female created he him , male and female created he them ! homos and lesbos God does not approve of ! for they gave up the natural use of the opposite sex ! I am not afraid of these people contaminating other men that they tried to have sex with for my man is a man and not like these perverts at all ! thanks

  • It's more that gay men pay more attention to their appearance which can make them really attractive sometimes, and it's a little bit of a letdown to find out that they're gay. "All the hot guys are gay or taken".

    • @tonynaik don't really see how that's related but feels good. I'm not attracted to gay guys I've just had friends who say this sort of thing.

    • Some womens says that, vaginal wall is totally insensitive, and they can't feel anything inside their vagina during intercourse.. I want to know your personal opinion about this..

    • @tonynaik you probably oughta ask a question officially then. I can feel inside but I don't know about other women.

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  • Most women I know get along really well with gay guys... sometimes even purposely targeting them as friends.
    I think women are aware that gay guys have little to no power on straight guys, and women have no power on gay guys either, so they work well together as friends.

    • @tonynaik what

    • How does vaginal intercourse feels like for you? Please describe me that

    • Please give me reply

  • Sometimes yes

  • lol, I like straight men, not gay men,

  • Women don't compete with men for men, we don't want men who are potentially gay. Most women see gay men as mentally women but physically as men. We compete with other women for men but definitely not men, we may think a gay man is super fine and think "damn, he is too fine to be gay or why does he have to be gay" or "that's a waste of a man" something like that, but we don't feel like we are loosing to gay men. Majority of men are straight, majority of humanity is straight so there's no reason to feel like we're losing potential partners to the same sex. Now if he's bi or something, then maybe but I'm pretty sure most women want men who are straight nothing else.

  • Nope, gay men date other gay or bi sexual men. I’m not into bisexual dudes, so they were already not an option for me. I’m not missing out on anything.

  • That's ABSURD! -- That's like a cheesy sub-plot for a straight to cable movie!! That just does not happen in real life -- It's not a thing! They LOVE gay men and gay men are not looking to snag a 'str8' man 99% of the time.

    • Actually, there are some of those gays who try to "turn out" straight men and intentionally go after them cause they see them as a chase. Even james charles and nikita admitted they wanted or were attracted to straight guys cause they couldn't have them.

  • How could they steal potential partners if they are gay? They wouldn’t be interested anyway.


    An ongoing joke between my girlfriends and I is that whenever we see a guy who seems perfect, he always ends up being gay and then we say to each other “of course he’s gay.” Lol

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