People are making fun of me because I am still a virgin at 20. What can I do?

I am dating a guy and I don't have a lot of experience. I feel quite ashamed about thw fact that I am still a virgin. I just don't think I am compelely ready yet. People make fun of me. Am I weird? What can I do about the situation?
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  • Ignore them and don't tell them about your personal life, including sexual experience, or lack of... whatever the case may be.

    I was still a virgin around your age and guess what? No one cared because I didn't tell them. The only people I told were guys I dated and close friends.

    It's none of their business when you lost your virginity, nor should you feel rushed to lose it to prove a point!

    Lose it when you're ready and with a guy you feel comfortable with, no matter how long it takes.

Most Helpful Girl

  • First of all, you should not give a damn about what anyone thinks. Those people making fun of you wish they were still virgins because their experiences probably sucked. You still have a chance to do it right and they envy that.


    Don’t be ashamed, it is a very good thing and you can make sure your first time is a good experience.

Most Helpful Guys

  • No, you're not weird because of being a virgin. A lot of people lose their virginity in college. Really if you care about losing your virginity that much then just bring it up with your boyfriend, but only do it if you actually want to do it and not because of others. If you want to keep your virginity for now, then just ignore others or give witty responses such as "at least I have standards" or something along those lines.

  • You're not remotely weird. They are just being mean.

    What else do you need to be ready?

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What Girls & Guys Said

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  • Move at your own pace. Your not weird. The age at which people first lose their virginity is extremely varied and different for lots of people. Dont let them add extra pressure on you.

  • For guys the will see you only as somthing to gain from plus it is something important to you so I think they are the weird ones

  • Just own it. There ain't any shame in it.

  • This is what you can do: stop letting idiots dictate how you feel about your virginity.

    It's your body dude, tell them to piss off.

  • There's nothing wrong with being a virgin at 20. If you don't feel ready for sex, don't let anyone pressure you into doing it.

  • Well, you could get laid...
    Seriously though, don't worry about what other people are saying. What kind of person makes fun of someone for that? It's your decision. You take that step when YOU are ready, not when someone else things you should.

  • No, you aren't weird. The people saying this to you are jerk.

  • You are weird for telling people this.

  • Lose it when you want to. Don't think what the others say. They don't own you.

  • Ignore it, because those people are stupid.

  • I did sex because of the same reson, but i don't feel bad for that. Only think that i ask myself how it whas to make sex when i really wanted whit a special someone.
    You can make sex
    OR
    You can tell them to go and fuck themself.

  • As a girl? Never thought that would be the case.
    Get a nice guy who respects you and ask for a nice night

  • Wait for your own time when you feel ready and want to do it. People will always judge you about something so ignore them and enjoy your life. Be happy woth who you are because most likely they are just jealous. Good luck and be safe when you decide you are ready.

  • Having sex is usually the best cure

  • I bet people who make fun of you are sluts that have been sleeping around with dozens of men, or guys who couldn't have sex with you so they are trying to make you feel bad about it.

    Ignore those losers and be proud of yourself and your decisions.

  • Why tell them, then they will not make fun of you.

  • Ignore it. You are not weird.

  • Being a virgin at 20 is fine and should be more common than it is. I was a virgin until 27.5 and my girlfriend was one until 33.

  • not weird

  • Ignore those people? There's nothing wrong with that. These people are just sheep's, all act like assholes for fun.

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